Born again Christian, believes his belief "cured" him of being gay

(4 Posts)
cottonweary Tue 27-Sep-16 11:28:23

sad My friend used to be a funny, vibrant, fairly effeminate gay man, lived with his male partner.
Fast forward several years, he is now married (to a female) has 3 children.
He is a born again Christian who says his religion "cured" him sadhmm

Any mention of his previous life is quickly stifled. Males me feel sad and a bit unsettled tbh.
He's very quick to point out that he's not been brainwashed. I never suggested that but I think various members of his close family have said that to him.

Has anybody got any experiences of this?
I feel like my friend isn't really him anymore.

niminypiminy Tue 27-Sep-16 15:45:01

I don't have any experience of this although I've heard of it.

What I would say is that it is very hard when our friends change - and they often seem as if they aren't the person we used to know. But friends do make life choices that we think are strange or foolish or misguided.

Do you still want to be his friend? (I'm assuming from your post you've been out of touch for a while.) if you do you might have to think what being a true friend is in this situation.

It might be accepting him as he is and being there for him when or if there's any fallout.

FriendofBill Tue 27-Sep-16 15:48:32

It's up to him.
I've had relationships with different people at different times in my life.

Some people are attracted to people rather than sexes.

cottonweary Tue 27-Sep-16 20:23:32

Thanks, made me realise it's probably my issue more than anything.
He seems happy as a clam, so time I stopped analysing! smile

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