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my ds christening- ADVICE NEEDED!!!

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BENDYB · 08/01/2007 11:14

Not sure if this is the right place to post this but just wondered if any1 could help me, my dp wants 2 get ds christened as a catholic. He is a catholic, but i am not really religious at all ( i have been christened though as church of england)
could ds still be christened in a catholic church? & what about godparents? would they have 2 be catholic? if any1 could help or has any experiences like this i'd be really gratefull, thanks.

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beckybrastraps · 08/01/2007 11:19

I'm catholic, dh is anglican. Both mine were baptised catholic. As long as one parent is a catholic, it doesn't matter about the other one, although they do have to be willing to bring the child up in the catholic faith. One godparent needs to be a catholic, and I think the other needs to be a baptised christian of any denomination.

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beckybrastraps · 08/01/2007 11:20

My dc each have one catholic and one anglican godparent.

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BENDYB · 08/01/2007 11:35

hi beckybrastraps, thanks 4 that. How many godparents can u have? Just 2 or is it up to you? We cannot decide who 2 have as we both have big families & lots of close friends! Also what if they are not christened at all? Can they not be a godparent then? Sorry i really am clueless about all this! thanks for ur help!

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beckybrastraps · 08/01/2007 11:37

I think they have to be christened, but all ours were so it wasn't something we went into. I also think you can have more than two, but again, I'm not sure. I would get in touch with the parish priest and ask. Ours is very helpful.

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Notquitesotiredmum · 08/01/2007 12:33

I am sure that the Godparents have to be Christened - 'cause one of ours wasn't and he had to step down and become a VIP to our ds2 instead. I think that there is some discretion that can be used with the number of godparents. Some priests insist on the traditional number - two of one sex and one of the other - but some are more flexible. You need to check out the situation at your local church.

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beckybrastraps · 08/01/2007 12:36

Really? I've found two (one of each) to be the catholic norm. Are you thinking of the CofE?

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zubb · 08/01/2007 12:40

one of each does seem to be normal in catholic baptisms but you can have more. My kids are baptised catholic as dh is catholic while I am not (was baptised CofE but that was the end of my association with the church!).

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BENDYB · 08/01/2007 13:05

thanks 4 this. we really wanted 2 godfathers & 3 godmothers but by reading this dont think its gonna be possible! Also 2 of the godmothers r christened but 1 isn't & dont think either of the godfathers r! luckily we havent asked them all yet! So we just gonna have 2 talk to the priest i think & see what he says & prob change them all!
zubb- how many godparents have ur kids got then?

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zubb · 08/01/2007 13:53

they each have one of each - I have 3 kids - anymore and we will be struggling with the catholic godparent part. If you plan on having more children don't use all your godparnet choices at once!
I have 4 godparents - 2 female and 3 male. but that was CofE.

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geogteach · 08/01/2007 14:04

My 3 kids all have 3 godparents, we are catholic and one godparent must be catholic and the others christened. you can use them more than once, my 2 sons have the same godfather.

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BENDYB · 08/01/2007 16:07

yeah am planning on having more kids but we've also got loads of people we would like as godparents, the thing is though hardly any of them r catholic, as its only dp & a few of his family who are catholic, so dont really know what we are gonna do! I thought they might have 2 be christened but didn't think they would have 2 b catholic, thanks every1 anyway, if any1 else knows anything then plz say!!

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nappyaddict · 08/01/2007 19:43

what is a VIP?

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Tommy · 08/01/2007 19:57

normally in the Catholic Church you would have one Godfather and one Godmother. One of these has to be a confirmed Catholic so you might need to check that out with your friends and relations.

DS2 has 2 Godfathers though and it wasn't a problem. I did go to a baptism in our church where there were 14 godparents The priest was not impressed.

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nappyaddict · 08/01/2007 22:17

14 and i thought the priest might not be impressed with my 6!

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BENDYB · 09/01/2007 15:30

14!

& 1 has 2 be a confirmed catholic!?! a couple of people in dps family r catholic but dont think they've been confirmed! Just dunno what we;re gonna do, we've spoken 2 the people we wanted 2 be godparents & they have said so they can be they will get christened! But would that be ok then? oh its so confusing all this!!!
We should be goin 2 speak 2 the priest at the wkend so hopefully find out more then, thanks 4 every1s messages!