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Are you scared of dying?

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dizzydesperatehousewife · 20/10/2006 23:31

I am and think about it a lot. I try to be logical and sensible about it but it still terrifies me.

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expatinscotland · 20/10/2006 23:32

Nope.

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slaughterfalls · 20/10/2006 23:33

No, but I am scared od how I might die.

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QueenQuootieSpookypieBee · 20/10/2006 23:33

Hello again... when I was in the grip of my worst depression, it was like a phobia... it was horrible. 2 years on, and being on the ADs im learning to block some thoughts....

gotta shoot, DS crying.

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overdraft · 20/10/2006 23:34

no .I am more scared of getting old and ending up in pain and stuff

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GhoulsToo · 20/10/2006 23:34

not of the process, I just don't want to go!

you're not alone ddhw!

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SamhainWitch · 20/10/2006 23:36

No.

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theunknownrebelbang · 20/10/2006 23:37

Never used to be - it was the one certainty..

Have found myself thinking about it more often recently, tbh, and being somewhat unsettled by it.

I think it's because my mam died quite young (54) and I've just celebrated by 40th and although there's no immediate correlation with the ages, I just think the "growing old" comments that abound when you hit a big birthday made me stop n think...my mother never grew old iykwim.

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HumphreyComfreyCushion · 20/10/2006 23:38

I'm not scared of dying so much, more than I'm scared of dying before the children are old enough to look after themselves.

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southeastastra · 20/10/2006 23:38

sometimes

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HumphreyComfreyCushion · 20/10/2006 23:39

"more that", not "more than"

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kimi · 20/10/2006 23:44

Nope, got a will, know who looks after the children (should DH and i pop off together or close to each other)
Written letters to everyone to be opened after my death (have to have last word)
Written down what i want for my funeral.

Put in deeds box and out of mind.

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yoyo · 20/10/2006 23:47

Yes. I don't have the "comfort" of faith and have often questioned the point of it all (less so since having children admittedly). Will I ever be ready to "shuffle off this mortal coil"?

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bloss · 20/10/2006 23:54

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HauntedsandCastle · 21/10/2006 00:53

I'm not scared of dying, but I am scared of being on my own when I'm old.

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DelGhoul · 21/10/2006 00:57

no, only of the way I might go iykwim. But, I don't want to go just yet as dd would be an orphan.

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SCARErenity · 21/10/2006 01:19

Probably scared of the act, as I know a few people who have suffered unfortunately. I'm not scared of being dead though.

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texasrose · 21/10/2006 12:01

Last year I had serious pneumonia and as it got worse I was aware that I might die. In fact initially the docs thought it was a pulmonary embolism and for several months afterwards they were suspecting lung cancer, so I was presented with several scary scenarios.

It was all a bit surreal but I was remarkably calm through it all! I am a christian and felt complete peace. The main thing was that I knew it was much worse for my family than it was for me! My MIL had died suddenly about 3 weeks before I went into hospital so death was very real and the family was still in the shocked first grief. It was only afterwards that I freaked out a bit and thought through what it would have meant to the kids and my dh if I had died.

So no, I'm not scared of death but I certainly don't want to die for a long time yet! I want my kids to have me in their lives for as long as possible. My health is a bit dodgy and esp. since the pneumonia I'm aware that I could die early. I've been a christian for a long time and I've learned how to trust God in big things and little things, so that makes a huge difference to how I see death, and life, and everything really.

I think it's in human nature to want to live and to be healthy, and death does go against everything we want. My minister at church says that even for christians, death is still an awful thing, and grief is an awful thing too. I've been so affected by the stories in the news over the last few weeks involving children being killed/murdered. That is an unbelievably awful crime, to take someone's life. The only way I think you can stay sane in this dark world is to have faith, and trust that Gos is there and He really does have the whole world in his hands even if it doesn't always feel like it. Sorry to bang the christian drum (again) but this is a religion thread!

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fransmom · 21/10/2006 21:24

not scared of dying one bit, just the manner of things making it more of an unknown. i'm more worried for those that will be left behind as it were. but i know and believe in spirits and am a spirtiual person so no, i'm not scared.

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MortuaryAnyone · 21/10/2006 21:32

Fransmum. I totally agree. I have no fear of dying but pray that there is no pain involved or too much suffering for either myself or my family. I will go to Heaven and live eternally there.

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missymoosal · 28/10/2006 19:50

I had a severe asthma attack in July this year and had to go on life support. I resisted for as long as I could because I was terrified that if I went to sleep I would not wake up.
All I could think of was my DH and children and how I didn't want to leave them. My best friends husband died recently and I have seen first hand the damage it has caused.
As they lay me down to put me to sleep (considering I could barely breathe sitting up) my last thoughts before oblivion were of my DH and I mouthed to my nurse 'tell him I love him' and I slipped away. I didn't once turn to God or pray, there was nothing.
As the product of rabid Irish Catholic parents who did their best to indoctrinate me from birth this was a wonderful surprise.
I turned my back on the 'cult' of Catholic rhetoric when my first child died and for me the only positive in this terrifying event was that I now truly know I am free of it.
Live your life and be a good person do the best you can. Be able to live with yourself and feel comfortable with the choices you make.
Look back on your life and think of all the love you have from the people that matter and then when you go you will leave wonderful memories with those who care for you.
That is all there is live for today try to stop worrying.

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HumphreyComfreyCushion · 28/10/2006 19:52

What a fantastic, thoughtful post, missymoosal.

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