Catholics- Please could you give me some help/advice? Would be much appreciated!

(7 Posts)
WineAndSunMakesMeHappy Tue 20-Aug-13 23:14:55

Am going over to Ireland soon with my boyfriend, and it will be the first time I have met his parents and family (so any advice there for a start would be great!).
My BF is Catholic, I am an atheist. This holds no problems for us, but his family are really quite religious. Whilst I'm there they will attend a month minds mass for a relative and I will go (I have no problem with this). But I have absolutely no idea on what to do, say, wear?!

If anyone could just point me in the right direction it would really help, as I am a bit nervous I am going to somehow massively offend them!!

TIA

LynetteScavo Tue 20-Aug-13 23:27:37

Firstly, you will have offended them by shagging their precious, innocent son out of wedlock, so don't worry about offending them further. grin

I would ask your BF what his family would wear. I think it depends on the family.From experience, having married into an Irish family, they will go to town with gossip if you don't look clean. (Not me not being clean, SIL!)

You don't need to do anything during the service. Just sit there, or stand when everybody else does. When everybody else goes up for communion, just stay in your seat. Look like you know what you are mumbling, and you will be fine.

WineAndSunMakesMeHappy Wed 21-Aug-13 00:18:15

Ahh that made me laugh!!
Seriously, thanks for the advice though.
And I'm quite aware I have probably offended them, I'm also a parent of a child born out of wedlock from a previous relationship!
He really has made his life difficult for himself wink

Monty27 Wed 21-Aug-13 00:24:29

Don't sweat it. Just observe and copy, and dress reasonably tidily iyswim. Don't chew gum that sort of thing grin

sashh Thu 22-Aug-13 08:30:47

Wear something smart ish, dress or skirt is not necessary but will go down well, and you can always ask db's mother if you are OK.

Just sit down when everyone else kneels and stand when they do. When people go up to get communion don't go, if you accidentally go cross your arms over your chest and you will get a blessing.

When people start shaking hands just shake back and say 'peace be with you'.

If you join i with the Lord prayer remember to stop before the last bit.

sarahtigh Mon 26-Aug-13 12:26:01

general rules for dress not sleeveless or wear shrug/jacket/cardigan generally cover shoulders and knees so nothing ultra short/ low cut or very tight

do not expect to share a bed with DP in family house

PilgrimSoul Sat 31-Aug-13 13:23:18

For a months mind mass, I would wear something sombre. Not funeral attire, but not bright colours either. Obviously offer condolences to the immediate family.

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