Love spells, do they work? Can someone advise please?

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littlecrystal Tue 23-Apr-13 15:16:36

My marriage is failing. My H does not do talking so we cannot resolve our issues. I think he does not care enough for me so he does not feel like making an effort. I would like to return that love spark in him, so he wishes enough to make that effort, and then hopefully we can reconcile.
It sound a bit ancient but I believe that positive mind flow can change things, so perhaps it could work.
Any advice or recommendations? Please be serious, I don’t need a lecture…

vdbfamily Sun 21-Sep-14 08:37:53

There is a good book about different 'Love Languages' that talks about how different people express love in different ways and if we think that our way of expressing it is the only way it can lead to alot of confusion. My husband is not a verbal communicator and sometimes this drives me mad.I could count on my fingers and toes how many times he has actually said 'I love you' but he expresses it in other ways.He has just brought a lovely freshly ground cup of coffee up to me in bed whilst he gives the kids breakfast.To me that is his morning 'I love you'. Relationships can also go through difficult/stale patches. I read another good book that suggested that at these times,rather than get into a negative spiral,if you continue to behave in a loving,caring way towards your partner,they will respond to that subconsciously and it will bring out the best in them.Maybe this is what is happening with your positivity.So keep it up and see if he does too. All the best. It is worth fighting for.

Lushlush Tue 02-Sep-14 14:05:08

I did a love spell when I was quite a bit younger and I found a lovely man. I could easily have stayed with him my whole life but I unfortunately got bored with him as he just wasn't 'enough' for me. We did not have enough in common. However the relationship was certainly the easiest I have had out of 4 live in relationships and I only have fond memories by and large.

I did a love spell a few years since being a single parent and it has not worked at all however! I have also placed rose quartz around my bedroom to no avail. I look attractive and meet men quite a fair bit in real life but I just haven't found one suitable one all these years.....

Must be the fact I am a lot older that there is only dross left - at least that is the only conclusion I can come to. Plus my standards are exceedingly high these days!

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as long as I do the "right" things he will respond positively. As soon we meet a problem, we are back to the square. I don't know if the positivity can be sustained but at least I have a hope...

That's your problem there. He is king of the castle isn't he? No onions with pins in are going to change his core belief that he has the right to do whatever he likes, live a single life with a wife in the wings, throw you crumbs like cleaning the house and as long as you behave like a good employee wife he won't threaten to divorce you..

Sorry, but counselling is what you need. Individual not couple. Your self esteem is way low to accept this.

Twosugarsplease Mon 29-Apr-13 21:48:20

Just to add it cost me £1.75 on a market stall, you can get them anywhere that sells those candles that make you sneeze type of places grin

Twosugarsplease Mon 29-Apr-13 21:44:47

Place a rose quartz in the south west corner of your home.
I did this after reading an article soon after My ex left, apparently it attracts pure love into your home.
I believe it did smile

littlecrystal Mon 29-Apr-13 13:00:05

Some uptade here. I still carry the pins in my handbag - have not had the courage to do the love spell.. However I have been meditating that I am in a pink love bubble surrounded by love. I also "put" my wishes for happiness and love to H's drinking water.
I also have been more positive about that we will overcome our issues rather than thinking of a potential divorce.
I am also working on not being shouty at home - he hates that.

The outcome: we have reconciled (well at least from non-talking for few weeks), got a bit closer and more intimate, he cleaned our house without me asking and took out DC shopping with him, again without me asking.

I feel a bit like in a bubble - as long as I do the "right" things he will respond positively. As soon we meet a problem, we are back to the square. I don't know if the positivity can be sustained but at least I have a hope...

LeoandBoosmum Mon 29-Apr-13 01:30:52

I don't want to tread on toes - and no offence to AnAirOfHope - but I think you can stick red pins in onions until the cows come home...that won't change a thing imho. I can understand your desperation but think about it logically! How the hell is sticking pins in an onion (or any other bizarre ritual) going to salvage a marriage?
I do think being positive is important but the spell thing...nah...
If I were you I would attend Relate alone (you can alone if your partner won't accompany you). It might give you some insight into your own thoughts, mindset, approach to the issue.
I am really sorry but if your husband has ceased to love you and wants out then his mind is made up and there is not much you can do to change that. If he loves you and is open to working on the relationship then there may be a chance... I really don't want to hurt you but it sounds like he has checked out of the relationship already.
You don't want to lose your marriage, I understand, but if your husband admits he no longer loves you and doesn't want to make the effort (I'd ask outright and hope he has the backbone to be honest) to rebuild the marriage, then you are wasting your own time...and time is precious!
I hope things work out for the best for you.

TheUnicornsGoHawaiian Sun 28-Apr-13 06:27:47

Oooh me too marisa smile

bluebeardsbabe Sun 28-Apr-13 06:11:47

Pleasesmile

marissab Sat 27-Apr-13 16:50:25

I'll pm you. It's a bit urghh!

bluebeardsbabe Fri 26-Apr-13 18:42:58

I could do with one of those Marissa...please explain how smile

marissab Fri 26-Apr-13 18:28:03

You can always make a charm to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex wink

marissab Fri 26-Apr-13 18:24:52

Havn't read the rest of the thread but as an experienced pagan i would urge you to think again. I was dating a guy who'd had a previous bad relationship so was very reluctant. So being frustrated i did a complex love spell over a few days. The guy became so overwhelmed with feelings, i literally scared him off in the other direction. If you do love spells, you are trying to make someone feel something that they weren't already feeling so against their wishes iyswim. I would instead, do a house blessing and ask for peace and harmony and a happy home.

littlecrystal Thu 25-Apr-13 22:08:23

Thanks again everyone. My H agreed to go on short holidays with us in mid-June, so not everything's lost. I have "put" love, warmth an happiness for H into his water bottle. I wish happiness for him and love for myself. I try to imagine myself in a big pink love bubble.
I will come back to tell how the love spell with the onion and pins is working...
I don't want to go against free will, but if love is there, please come out.

bluebeardsbabe Thu 25-Apr-13 18:47:17

Love spells are notoriously difficult as they involve someone elses free will. However, I believe the most powerful spells are the ones you cast yourself as you have the intent. I believe in spells but would never cast one myself and I say that as someone who is in a wretched situation concerning a relationship at the moment and believe me...I have looked into spells but I agree with what someone else here said, if they don't want to be with you through free will, then do you really want them? That said, I think positive thinking and practising Law of Attraction can do wonders. So put out lots of positive intent and visualize how you would like your relationship to be, things you want to do together, things you want him to say to you etc. This can be very powerful. You can also look into Remote Seduction ;)

seeker Thu 25-Apr-13 07:24:30

I don’t believe in black and white, or a perfect other half. Life is full of compromises, and I am willing to make some with my H. Only if I feel loved and cared for…"

So long as it's not you doing all the compromising..........

AnAirOfHope Thu 25-Apr-13 01:03:57

The spell pulls the love that is there out of the person so you can see it. So if there is love the person will tell you.

Does your dh tell you he loves you? If he does the spell might not work because he is telling the truth. This spell is used to ignite the spark of love and confess it. The planting part is to make the love grow strong in the relationship.

NotTreadingGrapes Wed 24-Apr-13 13:48:05

Sometimes divorce can be a positive thing. smile I am currently on more than one thread in relationships telling posters to LTB.

I'm not sure I am woo enough to do a spell for myself tbh, (though I'd very much like to be!) The love spell I have had done was done by a 3rd party.

littlecrystal Wed 24-Apr-13 13:18:26

Thank you to everyone. I had a good think overnight. I completely get what most of you are saying, but I still want to do the love spell with the onion. I already got the red pins smile Am I right to think that it depends on how I focus my energy on the spell. I want to be positive and bring the love out if it is there , and hope that if it is not there the spell will not work.

Is this a wrong interpretation of spell?

I read some other threads on here and I came to a conclusion that I am very negative person attracting negative thoughts and I should refocus myself on a positive thinking.

On the other hand, I find MN Relationship thread very negative – they will divorce any couple on there. I don’t believe in black and white, or a perfect other half. Life is full of compromises, and I am willing to make some with my H. Only if I feel loved and cared for…

Love spells do work - never heard of the onion one! I suspect the effect is more on the person casting the spell rather than the person they are casting it on.

Love spells and money spells are both ethically questionable, but they are also very good practical demonstrations. The love spell demonstrates that if a spell can go wrong, it will, often with entirely unexpected and unwanted results. The money spell proves what a sense of humour the universe has.

Having said that, with my non-woo head on, ditto to what specialsubject said. You can't make someone truly love you, you can only make them fancy you a bit more, but the true, deep love that is needed to sustain a relationship, rather than a shallow sexual relationship can never be enforced or supported with a love spell.

NotTreadingGrapes Wed 24-Apr-13 06:48:24

I am wooest of woo, and I have had spells done on my behalf.

But, I think you need to decide what you really want first. Maybe post in relationships and truly get to the bottom of it all.

specialsubject Tue 23-Apr-13 18:02:03

...or you could have some self-respect, stop being an unpaid char, childminder and (possibly) provider of sexual services, and start making your own life.

if he doesn't love or like you any more, and doesn't have the balls to do something, it is up to you.

this is not a rehearsal. I think even the 'woo' people would agree with that.

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