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DD is being confirmed, any Catholic family are no longer alive, I raised the issue with the Priest and I thought all way ok but apparently not.

I havent been confirmed myself so even under the extended rules I cant do it.

We have only just moved to the area, I have only just started going to Church again so dont even know anyone, I started going again to support dd.

Help please!

Have you explained your position to the priest. I'm sure there would be someone in your parish who would be happy to be your DD's sponsor for her confirmation. How long till she's due to be confirmed? Is there any opportunity for you to meet other parishoners, eg, tea/coffee after in the church hall after mass? Good opportunity to make friends and find a sponsor.

Good luck.

PS, I remember when my DB was confirmed (long long time ago), one boy turned up without his parents or sponsor (family issues) and one of the passkeepers stood in as his sponsor.

I'm sure someone from the parish would stand in. Does he go to an RC school? Would one of his teachers do it?

How is the preparation course run in your parish? I help to run ours and there are 7 of us ranging in age from 16 to late 50s. See if he gets on with one of the catechists on his course and maybe he could ask one of them?
Good luck

I agree that the priest will be able to suggest someone in the parish. I spoke to the priest about not knowing any Catholics to be DD's godparent and he suggested a couple. I didn't know them (I don't know anyone in the parish despite going weekly for over a year because it is unfriendly and no one speaks to each other) and was a bit sad about the situation of having to have strangers as her godparents but at least there was an option. In the end my sister got the role, but I had expected she would be too young at 14.

In a similar situation myself. DD is being confirmed in July. I am not religious in the slightest and DH who is RC lives in Belgium and can't get the time off work to come over for it.
Luckily one of the teachers at her school has reluctantly agreed to do it for her. I had not idea it would be as fraught as it has been.
Good luck.

They are doing preparation in school and then I think a couple of sessions later on in Church, its in the summer so have a couple of months to find someone I guess. I have told the priest and thought he would come to some solution with me but he seems to have completely forgot about it.

DD hasnt been at the school all that long and to be honest I had to reapply for her to be confirmed as she was baptised c of e originally due to ex husbands wishes (who has now left us) and when we applied through the school they told me she couldn't be confirmed until she had been baptised again as she was wrong type of Christian despite having recieved communion etc before we moved.

Luckily I knew this was wrong and contacted the Priest who confirmed she could be.

So I'm not all that trustful that someone from school would do it.

Although the teaching assistant who works with her is amazing and probably would but I dont even know if she is Catholic!

Where are you? Maybe a mumsnetter would help. Know I would.

Phone the parish office, and make a proper appointment to see the priest. Explain the situation. If you and she attend church, and she is serious in her intent to be confirmed, then it would be an odd parish that didn't support that. Mind you, I am wondering a lot about the school she attends given your recent threads!

I am near Manchester but the Priest said the sponsor wouldnt even have to come and they could do it by proxy if needed.

Although if someone nearish by is willing to help one evening in May I would be willing to pay petrol/train and buy you dinner [cheeky]

If she is at a catholic school the would one of her friends' parents be willing to step in?

I thought of that breathe but the only friend she has doesn't go to church although they are baptised they aren't confirmed. There is a ta she is very close to but how do I ask if she is catholic and confirmed

Seriously, if she is attending church, then try to do it through the parish.