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Under the new rules dd age eight is being confirmed. I was never confirmed but would like to know if she needs a White dress or just any pretty dress and what happens at the service.

What type of Church?

What is DDR?

I personally don't think a child should take themselves to confirmation until they are 14+.

They can wear whatever they are comfortable in, but should be mindful of practicalities if being baptised/reaffirming vows by full immersion.

Meant to be an s not a r

Catholic church

We didn't do confirmation until 11/12 when I was at Catholic School. Although I wasn't confirmed myself as I knew I didn't want to be Catholic, everyone else in my year did get confirmed. They all got new outfits, pretty party dresses, or new top and skirt, fashionable without being too OTT, but back in those days clothes for young girls were all suitable for the event. No one wore a white dress unless it happened to be the colour of the party dress they chose.

Isn't that the treadmill of First Holy Communion at age 8?

I am a Catechist for the communion class at our Catholic church.
First Holy Communion is usually taken in year 3 or over, confirmation at 14ish, when the child is considered old enough to make there own commitments.
Programmes very in different churches, but ours consists of a six month group of lessons for both children and parents, although missing the odd one is unavoidable, attendence is expected at each one.
Our girls look lovely, long white dresses, veils, gloves ect, but I think the outfits are getting a little over the top at times, so our priest is muttering about calming things a little, and getting back to the true reason of the day.
If you get any hard questions, I can look in the book and give you the answers {grin}

What new rules?

Thanks everyone

Angi in our Diocese they have changed the order so that children recieve confirmation before Holy communion.

In order to play catchup all those children who have recieved Holy Communion are being confirmed over three days, these are years 4,5 and six of primary school.

Thankyou Heron, I might come back with lists!

I think the real reason is that the RCC believes that confirming early will keep children in the church. I can't see how it would make any difference, but I have definitely heard that this is the reason for paedo-confirmations.

The way to keep children in the church is to make church relevent to their lives, and build relationships with them.

My DDs were confirmed at age 11 in Year 6. Confirmation preparation classes were given in RE time at school. Parents were asked 2 meetings at school and 2 Masses at the Parish Church during this preparation time. The school asked each child to choose a Confirmation name and as part of the preparation they researched the saint whose name they had chosen and were encouraged to explain why the name was relevant to them.

The actual Confirmation Mass was held in the evening at the Parish Church. The Bishop confirmed the children and they sat at the front with their sponsors while the rest of the parents/families sat anywhere else in the church. The children did the readings and the bidding prayers and the school choir led the singing. Both DDs wore normal clothes - DD1 wore trousers and a top, DD2 had leggings and a tunic.

Thankyou Angel thats really helpful

Wow, Im really surprised at the age change. Not sure what I think of it, our communion children are taught very gently about being kind, right and wrong and forgiving ect, the criteria for confirmation is very different, although I presume it will be age applicable.
It must be optional, because our Diocese are still confirming at 14, we are in south east england.

You learn something new every day!

Here it's the same as angelpantser said, except children have to go to mass 10 times (usually in 10 weeks) - easy if they attend a Catholic school, but can be tricky if they are poorly and not at a Catholic school.