Dear mumsnetters, my 16.5 year old little spaniel is not going to last for long, he is not in pain but deaf and almost blind he doesn't have much quality in his life anymore.
I have had animals all my life and had to make decisions when it is best for them to go, however this time I have too little girls 5 and 8 and their feelings to think about. And I am lost, thinking whether I should have my dog's ashes back home or let the vet who comes to home to take away his body and that would be the last time I "see" him(the girls would be at school). My husband tells me it would be good for the girls' sake to get the ashes back and have a little ceremony to scatter them, my mum however thinks it would just make us all to go through it twice and I should let the vet to take care of the cremating and not claim his ashes back. I have buried my other pets myself back in Finland and don't know how to feel about this. The thing I know is that it is going to be me who is going to be worst affected (and luckily so) as this little dog has been my constant shadow for all these years and our girls have a jolly golden retriever and a couple of bunnies so the house will not be empty of pets. So how can I possibly hold the composure if I have to carry the ashes to the forest! On the other hand I feel guilty if I leave my little dog to be thrown somewhere I don't know where when my other pets have proper burial places. But I try to tell myself he would not be there anymore.
Sorry this was long, I am in tears writing this even though we as a family have had a long time to prepare for this. I know nobody has answers but would really appreciate advice and experiences.
Thank you.
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finnmum · 27/03/2013 15:55
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