Our cat needs a new home (without boistrous toddlers) what do I do?

[mumatuks]

We adopted our cat from the CPL over a year ago.
However, she has never really settled and is extremely nervous around DS1 who is 2. No matter how many times we tell him not to do it, he chases her and screams aswell. Poor Mog just ends up cowering under the bed.
We love her, but this is no kind of life for her. She deserves a home where she'll have a loving lap to curl up on, and no kids!! Mog is currently sat outside all miserable but not daring to come in because of DS1.
She is only 6 years old and a lovely affectionate cat.
How do I find her a good home? Can I send her back to the CPL? I feel so guilty about it all.

[mumatuks]

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[QueSerahSerah]

Yes, I'd give the CPL a ring and talk to them. They would understand.... after all, you are trying to do what's best for your cat!

[mumatuks]

Thanks QSS. I'm thinking I have "hypocrit" written all over my face!!

[hornbag]

Try asking around amongst family and friends as someone may know of a child-free home for her-that way you will "know" who she goes to and maybe feel less guilty if you get feedback about how shes settled in?

[heavenis]

I think that CPL would rather take her back and they will understand that these things happen. After all you are thinking of mog welfare.

[mumatuks]

I've just rung the CPL, they were very understanding and told me they could re-home her at the start of next week.

I'm happy for Mog that she will be going to a home where she will be happy, but I'm sad that I've failed her and not been able to give her the happy home she wanted.

Hopefully she'll soon be living with a nice new family!

Thanks all for your messages.

[QueSerahSerah]

You don't sound hypocritical at all to me Mumatuks. You've just realised the cat might be happier in a home without children!

You could ask around as Hornbag says too. If you know the person, you're likely to feel happy about the home the cat would go to - but that said, the CPL would not rehome your cat into somewhere with young children, so you have a couple of good options

[QueSerahSerah]

Oh, excellent news!

You have far from failed her - you would have failed her if you had left her cowering under the bed! You've given her the opportunity for a peaceful life, curled up in front of a fire

Bet you feel a sense of relief don't you?

[mumatuks]

Yourt absolutely right QSS about a sense of relief! The thought of her living in a "older" household gives me peace of mind! She did live with an old lady before she came to us, so she must've had the highlife there... warm lap, heating up full blast, a gently stroke every now and then.
We must look like hell!!!

[QueSerahSerah]

Lol

The sound of a clock gently ticking away in the background, interrupted every now and then by the tv getting switched on for countdown to screaming toddlerdom.....

Actually, now I have written it, it sounds like my life Do you think the CPL would rehome me too????

[mumatuks]

LOL! Love the idea of Countdown, Granny with her cup of tea and Des Lynam cracking a joke with Carol Vorderman...

However, herre over in hell. The baby who chews anything that doesn't move quick enough, the screaming tantruming toddler, the stressed mum who sits typing all day on mumsnet and grumpy dad, who definately doesn't want his seat fulll of cat fur.

I don't think she'll miss us! Bless her.

[QueSerahSerah]

Hmm.. we have the problem of the baby squeezing and chewing the dogs ears. Then he moves on to picking in between his toes. When he's tired, he rests his head on the dogs neck, with his index finger in his mouth and the other 3 fingers curled round the dogs ear. Just lucky we have a ridiculously tolerant dog I guess!

[mumatuks]

I can see it now. What a cute thought..

[earthtomummy]

If it's any comfort, one of my cats, who I've had for 7 yrs, took umbrage at the arrival of our 3rd baby and roamed off 2 miles away to set up a wild nest in someone's garden. We were forever collecting him, bribing him to stay, only for him to run away again.
In the end I phoned some vets and RSPCA who said he should be rehomed for his own safety. I looked into the RSPCA but around here they put them down if they are not rehomed in a year. Found a v. nice lady who rehomes cats localy and he went there (lots of tears). CPL prob. don't run a put them down policy though. You've just got to do what is right for your cat. He'll be happier in the longterm.
My other cat is terrified o fhte kids and lives on the landing, but the minute they are all in bed she is on our knee, really enjoying herself. Good luck!