Literally have no clue please help

(12 Posts)
Wishfulmakeupping Mon 25-Nov-13 19:42:15

My dd first birthday end of jan and need some advice.
Basically never been to any 1st birthdays so wondering if I'm thinking along the right lines or not? Was thinking of hiring the small village hall and hiring soft play.

There would be about 7 mums and babies (I've met through groups etc) and a couple of friends with older babies (about 4) and 10 close family members. Does this sound like enough people? My extended family live far away wouldn't be able to travel for it.

Or should we do it at home?

Also party end of jan would you send invites before Xmas or start of jan?
Thanks

SkullyAndBones Mon 25-Nov-13 19:44:13

both of my kids had their first birthday parties at my parents house with a little buffet and family only and was organised about 2 weeks in advance.

big parties are for when they're older, this one is for you, not her.. she won't remember a thing.

Wishfulmakeupping Mon 25-Nov-13 19:54:08

See that's what I thought initially but there would literally be us plus my parents, sister, niece and same for oh. Can't invite grandparents or aunties/ uncles so seems to small not special enough

babyfedleaning Mon 25-Nov-13 19:59:50

Agree with Skully. Save it for the 2nd/ 3rd birthdays and beyond. A village hall/ soft play is totally pointless at this age. Far nicer to have a buffet tea at home with those close relatives who will love to spend the time with her

SkullyAndBones Mon 25-Nov-13 20:01:52

lol.

first dc we had about 10 people.

by the time we got to 2nd dc 3yrs later we were down to just my parents, Dh & I, my DB & SIL and the other 3 kids we had between us.

you dont need a lot of people to make it special.

3bunnies Mon 25-Nov-13 20:23:54

For first birthdays we went to an aquarium. At that age the dc love watching fish. Also for dd1 we had a joint first with the NCT group - mums & dads and each bought something. Meant we chatted to each other rather than playing host and being cornered by great aunt Mabel. Some of them then had family parties, we went just the 3 of us to the sea life centre.

Wishfulmakeupping Mon 25-Nov-13 20:59:32

Your all making me rethink this just seems a bit too small but maybe that would be better o don't know

Wishfulmakeupping Mon 25-Nov-13 21:00:08

I not o

Both my DDs had their 1st birthday parties with family at home.

For DD1s 2nd birthday I took my 6 cousins (all under 12 at the time) to soft play.

I didn't do a village hall party until her 4th, and she invited her nursery class to that.

DD2 has only just had her 1st, and she won't be having a big one until she's at nursery!

3bunnies Tue 26-Nov-13 06:33:48

I think the best way to think about it is from your daughter's perspective. You are probably going to spend quite a while before preparing and on the day as the hostess you will be sorting stuff out, making cups of tea talking to guests etc. All a one year old mainly wants is their mummy and daddy.

Wishfulmakeupping Tue 26-Nov-13 08:11:11

Thinking you're all right home party it is would you keep it strictly family only? Seems a shame not to do something with her baby friends as she sees them every week maybe we could go soft play or something on another day

3bunnies Tue 26-Nov-13 08:49:09

Do they all know each other? Why not suggest that you do a joint one? Or have them around for coffee and cake. Next year she will probably be happy with 5 friends. By the time she is 3 or 4 she will enjoy a bigger party.

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