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Whether you're planning a birthday or a hen do, you'll find plenty of ideas for your celebration on our Party forum.

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Oh No! Clashing parties.

18 replies

Spidermama · 07/01/2006 15:39

My ds went to school on Friday with the invitations to his birthday party. So too did his best friend. AHHHHHH! The parties are on the same day, with largely the same people invited.

Luckily they are at different times so people can go to both, but would you want your little boy to go to two parties on the same day?

I'm tense now that this is going to be some sort of popularity contest. My ds has had a bad time lately (diagnosed with type 1 diabetes just before Christmas) so I'm extra-anxious that his birthday goes well.

Any suggestions?

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Spidermama · 07/01/2006 15:43

At all?

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Spidermama · 07/01/2006 15:45

OK then. I'll go and do some housework. If anyone has any ideas though ...

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mrsflowerpot · 07/01/2006 15:46

How far apart are they, in distance and in time? Will it be a huge hassle for people to do both, ie will it take out their whole Saturday?

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Twiglett · 07/01/2006 15:46

can't he and his best friend have joint party?

I wouldn't let DS go to 2 on same day .. he'd be a 'mare.

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Spidermama · 07/01/2006 15:50

They're pretty close to each other. Easily close enough. We can't cancel or change plans as we've both booked different places now.

I hope people will come to both.

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mrsflowerpot · 07/01/2006 15:51

ah missed that it was his best friend. In that case yes, any scope for joining forces?

I tend to think many people would do one and not the other unless it would be very easy to go from one to the other.

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mrsflowerpot · 07/01/2006 15:54

whose is first?

Presumably the your ds and his friend will be at each other's parties? Could you arrange with the other mum to offer to ferry some of the children between parties perhaps so that the parents don't have to keep to-ing and fro-ing?

What a nightmare though.

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mrsflowerpot · 07/01/2006 15:54

i mean that you jointly offer, not just that she does!

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ladymuck · 07/01/2006 15:58

If they're best friends how come the clash wasn't noticed until they were both sending invites out? Presumably their birthdays are very close? Sorry doesn't help you current predicament, but I was planning ahead by about 4 months last year when I could see a clash looming (birthdays a week apart and ds's would be on Easter weekend, never a great time for a party).

Tbh I would be unlikely to go to both unless the friendship groups were very different (eg if one was Beavers and the other school). If they're both school friends then I'd probably pick one.

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ladymuck · 07/01/2006 15:59

If it is school then I really would see if you couldn't join forces, even at this late stage.

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saffy202 · 07/01/2006 16:22

It's happened to me twice with both ds's. Both when they were in reception and you tend not to know when others have their birthdays. DS1 was in a class and there was a girl's party on the 21st, ds1's on the 22nd and another boys on the 23rd. All at the sme place They all had a good turn out but you could see the kids getting bored by the 3rd party.
With ds2 booked the same place and same date as his friend. One in the morning and one in the afternoon. Although I was anxious about people not turning up I think they made more of an effort because of it. I now always check in future

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Beetrootfultoyourself · 07/01/2006 16:25

i am sure they will come to botor talk to bm mum and do a joint one..half the price!!!and less hassle

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Polgara2 · 07/01/2006 16:59

When dd1 has been invited to 2 parties on the same day we made the effort to go to both (if she wanted to of course!)as did any of the other children in the class. Of course if they were too far apart from each other in distance then I wouldn't, I'd just get dd to pick the one she wanted to go to. If they are from the same set of friends then most of the children will not want to miss either I would think.

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WideWebWitch · 07/01/2006 17:07

Well, I think first suggestion would be to see if you can make them a joint party but if not then call other parents and see if you can agree some ferrying between the 2 if they're close together. I'd be happy for my ds to attend both especially if someone agreed to ferry him from one to the other!

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ladymuck · 07/01/2006 17:22

What are the timings though? Is it an issue of ferrying or is there a gap. And if they are very close how do you fit in the various party food?

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Weatherwax · 07/01/2006 17:45

The weekend before Xmas dd2 (reception) went to one party on the Saturday and then a joint party on the sunday followed by another party in the evening. As she wont be left I did the first two paties and was exhausted so I sent Dh to the last one. DD just enjoyed all the various parties and seemed energised by them...Perhaps it was all that party food...

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twirlaround · 07/01/2006 17:47

Wouldn't mind 2 parties if I had nothing else planned for the day

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Spidermama · 07/01/2006 20:54

The ferrying shouldn't be an issue because there's a half hour gap between the parties and you could walk from one to the other in twenty minutes or five minute drive.

ladymuch they haven't been best friends for long and I had no idea their birthdays were so close. His mum and I have vowed to co-ordinate with each other next year. But this year we're stuck with the arrangements.

I really don't want to join forces. It's not the same if it's a double party.

I think I'll try to plan the ferrying and invite a few more just in case.

I could really have done without this though.