I'm off to a hen night tomorrow night. Its a drink and a meal. While I don't want to go the whole hog and I know the 'bride' would hate it I feel that there should be at least some recognition that it is a hen night and slightly embarrass the bride.
Just a thought though, if you know the bridge would hate it, why do it? Why potentially ruin her night? We went put for dinner and bowling for my hen do. I would've hated wearing stuff like that, my friends knew that so I didn't.