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Playgroups/baby sensory/baby yoga etc etc etc

(15 Posts)
cookiemonster5678 Tue 04-Feb-14 15:44:03

Am i normal to have no interest in these groups yet?

My baby is only 3 weeks old, surely they are too young at this age to get much out of these groups? It just seems like everybody i know with babies are taking newborn/very young babies to anything and everything!

I don't have the time with trying to get used to my new baby. I am also too tired to even think about going to groups.

I am sure once my baby is older, and i am more settled we would both get something out of it, but for now it seems too much for a first time mum and a newborn!

Does anybody else not bother going to baby groups so early on?

Saucia Tue 04-Feb-14 15:49:06

There’s nothing in it for the baby at that age, its all about meeting other parents. I didn’t start taking DD to groups until 6+ months when she was able to enjoy what was going on and interact. If you dont want to go, dont go.

SmileAndNod Tue 04-Feb-14 15:54:56

If you don't want to go, don't go. Doesn't make you a bad mother. I think at that age it's mostly for the parents (should you wish to meet other parents you have little in common with apart from having similar age babies). I haveave come across some of the most competitive and judgemental people at these things (one reducing me to tears with my pfb).

When you're ready, go along to a few and see what suits you. It's not compulsory you know grin

UriGeller Tue 04-Feb-14 15:55:34

High 5. I've no interest in playgroups, never have had. Fortunately none of my kids like being cooped up indoors with little screamers either.

Its not obligatory to attend playgroups. All babies need, up til they're 2ish is a consistent safe person. You. They don't play with other children until they're that age so these things are mainly for the parent, a change of scene or company.

So if you don't need those things then don't think your baby is missing out or not becoming "socialised". Sounds like you enjoy being with your little baby, that's more than enough!

Only1scoop Tue 04-Feb-14 16:01:03

Op Congratulations....blimey I don't think I had left the house after 3 weeks let alone contemplated a groupsmile Briefly tried the 'group' things when dd was a bit older but no ....not my cup of tea really.

Babylonmood Tue 04-Feb-14 16:02:50

Now my baby is 6+ months old these activities are a total lifeline. I try to do something everyday. I did start some earlier but with hindsight I don't think I would bother before 4-5 months. Before the babies get demanding I recommend lots of coffee and cake with other mums. It is harder to do that now and it's what I needed in the early days.

cookiemonster5678 Tue 04-Feb-14 16:17:10

Thanks guys smile i feel very reassured now!
Its not really for me, i like my family and the friends i already have, and the comfort of my own home!
But.. i might feel different when i am more settled and baby is older!grin

Saucia Tue 04-Feb-14 16:18:39

The best thing when theyre tiny is just a walk in the buggy, change of scene for both of you and a bit of space and fresh air.

dashoflime Tue 04-Feb-14 16:22:37

I didn't bother.

As others have said- its for the mums at that stage. I personally felt I didn't need it- I had plenty of friends already and was worried I'd catch the PFB's, from hanging around a lot of other anxious new mums. grin

We started going out and about when Ds began crawling and needed a bit more open floor space than our little flat could provide.

weesazz Wed 12-Feb-14 23:16:49

Hmm. I always said I would go to baby groups, then I went to baby sensory when DD was 12 weeks old, what a terrible experience. DD was fine for the first wee while, then cried blue murder til it finished. It was my first time there, and my first ever experience at a baby activity group. I suffered horrendous baby blues, agoraphobia and social anxiety post-DD and I summoned up the courage to go for her sake. As soon as she started crying everyone glared at me. When it was the 15 minute play time I tried to strike up conversations with the other mums in between trying to calm DD down and was met with indifference, insincere chat and downright rude comments about DD's crying. The group leader who was "working'" the room as it was a taster session and she was trying to drum up business came nowhere near me. Even the fellow newbie who I spoke to at the start and who seemed very warm and friendly made a cheeky comment as I was leaving, I couldn't believe it.

It is safe to say this experience has put me off. Aside from the rudeness, cliques and unwelcoming atmosphere, the activities were two-bit and nothing I couldn't do at home with her in the comfort of my own home and for free. Despite it being advertised as a class for under 6 months, the other children all looked a lot older (DD was by far the youngest there and it showed). The class also seemed to serve as a platform for yummy mummies to plug their fitness classes.

After reading the other posts on here I too whole-heartedly agree that baby clubs are really only beneficial to the mums. I felt very let-down by the class. It took a lot for me to make the effort to go as I was still very down and was made to feel unwelcome by the very people who should understand. My social anxiety has now lessened but out of principle I wont be returning if that's how they treat vulnerable mums.

My plan is to get DD to a swimming class soon but as for anything else, I'm in no rush.

GingerMaman Wed 12-Feb-14 23:33:53

My baby is 9 months and I've only been to one. I found the mums too competitive and insincere, and didn't enjoy it all. So I never bothered going back. I however do plan to take dd to story time at the library.

MamaMolho Wed 12-Feb-14 23:51:35

My DD was lucky she got fed and kept clean and dry I was so tired at the beginning. Now she is almost 5 months we go to groups but some of them we tried like baby massage when she was younger she hated as the class was too long and she just wanted to sleep and eat. I've found the free groups at our local library best as they are short, free and you can just turn up whenever you want. The most important thing is that you enjoy this time with your baby regardless of what you do together.

MrsS1980 Wed 12-Feb-14 23:57:50

I did all the baby groups and found them really beneficial. All my friends and family were at work during the day and I found it a really good way of making friends with other new mums. DS is nearly 3 now and I am still friends with some of these women.
I agree it is more about the mums than the babies but it helped me get out and about.
However, if they are not for you then don't go! It is totally up to you!

mustardtomango Sat 01-Mar-14 12:14:38

I've enjoyed the groups for chatting purposes, but ds, now 19 weeks, has got very little from them till recently. More often that not he got sensory overload, poor little chap.

We came to an agreement (!) that we'd only do short morning activities, and only one thing a day... He's a sociable little boy, smiling at other babies etc, but 90% of the time he's happier at home /on a gentle walk. Or having people over with their babies, think that's his favourite

Queazy Wed 02-Jul-14 06:47:58

I agree that baby groups aren't really needed until about 6 months, and only then if you want to! I've been going to baby sensory since about 4 months, and in hindsight would have started two months later. I don't find the people awful at it at all...bit cliquey in places where groups of NCT friends join together, but my dd loves it now and honestly gets loads out of it. I def couldn't do what our instructor does at home! Don't feel any pressure to go to any groups tho. If you do, try a few different ones to find one that's right for you both. I started swimming with dd and stopped - everyone I know with a baby her age is going it. She hated it and to be honest, so did I!!

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