Help. Advice needed. My dd2 is refusing teeth brushing

(37 Posts)
midwifeandmum Thu 27-Mar-14 14:29:37

Can any one help. My 2 year old wont allow me to beush her teeth. Ive noticed a wee bit of yellow discolouration on some teeth but I dont want to force her and hurt her.

rootypig Thu 27-Mar-14 14:32:45

You have to force her, you won't hurt her.

Lottapianos Thu 27-Mar-14 14:32:51

Give her a choice - 'you do it or mummy do it'. It may make her feel a bit more in control. Or get her to 'brush' your teeth first, then its your turn to brush hers. But either way, it's going to happen!

notnowbernard Thu 27-Mar-14 14:35:37

'Pick your battles'

Mine was toothbrushing and I was going to WIN

it was a 2-man job every night. 1 restraining, 1 brushing. For about a year.

It didnt hurt her, just made her scream which helpfully gave better access grin

BeCool Thu 27-Mar-14 14:37:21

Brush with her.

My 2 yo loves to "win" and "be first" - this is great when it comes to tooth brushing as I make it into a game with her.

I've done it for her a few times - I don't like it and I probably won't do it again.

DD2 is vvv stubborn - so if I get the run around at bedtime re teeth or going for a wee before bed (she refuses this also) I say no bedtime book. It usually works.

Stubborn DC are hard.

BeCool Thu 27-Mar-14 14:39:17

oh the other thing I've done is shut us both in the bathroom, sat down and refused to move until she brushes her teeth.

She needs to know it's not optional. Some of the children in DD1's Y1 class have visible holes in their teeth. sad

Cotherstone Thu 27-Mar-14 14:39:46

Tooth-brushing is non-negotiable in our house. It used to involve a lot of pinning and forcing - wrapping DD in a bath towel so she couldn't move, putting her over my lap and them pretty much forcing the toothbrush in. Sometimes now she will also let me clean hers while she cleans mine (though you've got to clean your teeth properly afterwards as well!)

But the biggest improvement for us has been the free Aquafresh app, it's a video of some dancing toothpaste brushing its teeth. They get points every time they clean their teeth properly etc. Its amazing, and DD now sits happily on my lap and watches it while letting me clean her teeth. Worth a look?

PirateJones Thu 27-Mar-14 14:54:39

I've had to practically corner my 6 year old and do it in the past. Like eveeryone else here.

PirateJones Thu 27-Mar-14 15:00:11

we get this and end up doing this

Theyaremysunshine Thu 27-Mar-14 15:04:50

Things that helped were buying an electric toothbrush (they say for 6yrs+ but we used from 2), sticker chart and reward, helping me brush mine, he does AM, I do PM, no teeth brushing no story.

But if all else fails he gets held and teeth are brushed. Non-negotiable here too.

Off to check out that app though.... smile

Cotherstone Thu 27-Mar-14 15:42:12

I could snog the random old friend on my FB feed who recommended that app grin

Highlandbird Thu 27-Mar-14 15:46:42

Electric toothbrush helped here too, especially one with lightning McQueen on it, could you let her choose an exciting toothbrush?

OatcakeCravings Thu 27-Mar-14 15:47:52

Pin her down and do it or take her to tbe dentist for a mouth full of fillings in a couple of years time.

fromparistoberlin73 Thu 27-Mar-14 15:50:04

force her

SolomanDaisy Thu 27-Mar-14 15:56:49

I used the towel wrapping technique I saw recommended in here for a while. Then moved to sitting him in my knee pinning his arms with one hand and holding his head in place with my head. I did actually accidentally hurt him once, one of his gums bled. It was awful. But I don't see what other choice there is really. He is much better about it now.

HoneyBadgerPersonified Thu 27-Mar-14 16:08:48

I can't bear to force DS1 but teeth brushing is a non-negotiable for us. DSD has awful teeth and I'm determined he won't end up with the same. Most days he's ok, he brushes them and I 'check for bugs' (do a thorough clean and tongue brush) We shout 'go away bugs' whilst brushing (messy but usually works!)
Failing that, no treats for the day if he doesn't brush in the morning - this includes fruit juice, biscuits, raisins, sweets, cakes etc. Any extra snacks basically.
And no story if he doesn't brush at night. We have about a 95% success rate.

Meglet Thu 27-Mar-14 16:14:48

Gentle brute force here. I figure they'll hate me more if I let them grow up with grim teeth than if I had to pin them down to brush.

5yo DD is still a terror for teeth brushing. 7yo DS is ok, but doesn't mind me doing his.

They have disclosing tablets, floss and electric toothbrushes at weekends. I still give them the once over afterwards though.

nldm1 Thu 27-Mar-14 19:23:27

We make our two sing. Put on their favourite tunes (DD's, who is 4, is AC/DC's highway to hell...!?) Then when they get really in to it we shove the brush in quickly and then mimic their mouth-full-of-brush singing, which makes them laugh and keeps their mouths open.
Ok, so it's a bit of a rigmarole, but tooth brushing is never dull in our house and the kids now seem to actually enjoy it!...Maybe our kids (and us) are just a bit odd though...?

RandomMess Thu 27-Mar-14 19:29:28

My friend did the "If you don't let me brush your teeth then you are not any chocolate ever" wink

Sparklysilversequins Thu 27-Mar-14 19:32:03

Mine at aged two didn't get a choice!

spamm Thu 27-Mar-14 19:38:48

This is a non-negotiable in our house, we used to force it when he was two (of course gently, but it was a must) and now, at 9 years old he is better than me at doing it every day, 2x per day. My teeth are bad - having lost of work, and he knows it is because of some neglect by me when i was younger.

BeCool Fri 28-Mar-14 12:56:34

I have downloaded the Aquafresh Ap - snog for Cotherstone !!!

outtheothersidefinally Fri 28-Mar-14 13:11:37

The aquafresh app - I second that!

Cotherstone Fri 28-Mar-14 13:33:55

<leans in for the snog>

So simple, so effective - I bloody love that app grin

IShallCallYouSquishy Fri 28-Mar-14 13:40:17

My 22 month old gets the held down method. She will happily play/chew/suck the toothbrush but I ensure they are brushed properly. I've been very fortunate and never had and fillings/teeth issues and I want my daughter to be the same, not full of fillings.

TeenageMutantNinjaTurtle Fri 28-Mar-14 13:53:58

My DH found that holding our dd upside down on his knee would make her laugh and open her mouth. She is then happy to have her teeth cleaned as long as she remains upside down. Its quite tedious but I agree its non-negotiable. Prior to the upside down thing, I would regularly find myself straddling her as she lay on the floor, holding her hands above her head with one hand and brushing her teeth with the other. It was miserable for both of us.

Might investigate electric toothbrushes and iPhone apps!!

SaltyandSweet Fri 28-Mar-14 14:18:51

must get aqua fresh app!! My 2.8 year old is a nightmare every morning and every night but like everyone else here, teeth cleaning is really really non negotiable. So I restrain and do my best whilst he screams blue murder. I sing tooth cleaning songs (entirely, embarrassingly made up) and am super cheerful through this ordeal. He is not impressed! On the bright side, my just turned 5 year old will whinge a bit but will cooperate fully so hopefully there is light at the end of this loooong tunnel grin

midwifeandmum Fri 28-Mar-14 16:07:31

thanks for all the advice. Ive changed her toothbrush to peppa pig and that seems to of helped.

midwifeandmum Fri 28-Mar-14 16:09:45

Pmsl at the restraining. with dd1 whos 5, I used to wrap her in bath towel like a baby to brush her teeth.

PurplePotPlant Fri 28-Mar-14 16:18:16

Am also in the non-negotiable camp. Bought The Tooth Fairy by Audrey Wood which helped encourage brushing (has a bit about 'Hall of Perfect Teeth') but otherwise succeed via a combination of pinning him down and making him laugh to get his mouth open.

Do hope he gets better soon though, its hard work...

JustBreath Fri 28-Mar-14 16:26:36

Gosh I felt like it was just my 2 year old DD2 that was a pain in the ass when it came to brushing teeth. She has her own brush which she will just munch to pieces instead of actually brushing, then I come along with another brush and brush her teeth properly. It worked for a little while but now she just screams. DS1 was great at that age. Same process, he showed me his skills then I finished it off for him. Perfect team work. Must try that app tonight!

Bananapud Fri 28-Mar-14 16:31:56

I showed DS (3) pictures of rotten teeth on google images and told him that's what happens if you don't brush your teeth. Never had an issue since that.

Beccawoo Sun 30-Mar-14 21:43:31

Electric toothbrush def worked here. Maybe different flavoured toothpaste may encourage it too? I do mine at the same time and tell ds he has to brush his as long as I do. Then I check and have a quick brush of them myself too!

FanFuckingTastic Sun 30-Mar-14 21:45:40

Pinning down in a towel was the only way to get through the tantrums with my daughter. Hated it, but clean teeth were really important. She knew that. It was easier with an electric toothbrush that sang music she liked.

rootypig Sun 30-Mar-14 21:57:08

So glad we're not alone. I welcome the screaming, truly, it makes the brushing so much easier. I dread the day she decides protest is secondary and clamps her mouth shut - though given her personality and her mother, that day may never come grin

ReallyTired Sun 30-Mar-14 22:02:00

Teeth brushing just has to be done. I was soft on my son and he ended up with fillings in his baby teeth. Infact he had to have a tooth extracted. The amount of suffering was far more than if I had pinned down a sobbing child at the age of two. Thankfully he has no filling in his adult teeth.

There are some great tips on this thread.

BeCool Mon 31-Mar-14 09:46:34

Aquafresh Ap is brilliant & working a treat with my 2. grin

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