Is 8- 9:30pm too late for a party for 8 year olds???

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Hi, I was thinking of hiring our local ice skating rink for our daughters birthday party. It's only available for private hire at this time, unless we pay an extra £200! I wanted it to be private hire, so that we can have the "Frozen" sound track playing and have balloons around etc.
It's really not going to be worth it though if the parents think it's too late and no one ends up coming. My daughter is always in bed by 7:30pm, but if she has a little nap she can stay up much later.
I thought as they would've already eaten, we could just have a birthday cake and flasks of hot choc.
What do you think? If it was you're child, would you let them go? Parents are invited too by the way. smile

MuttonCadet Sun 09-Feb-14 18:53:54

Sorry, but I'd think that was too late at that age.

goplayout Sun 09-Feb-14 18:54:08

Sorry, I think it's too late.

MuttonCadet Sun 09-Feb-14 18:54:42

I know it's a lot of money, but is the extra �200 out of the question? It sounds like an amazing idea for a party.

CMOTDibbler Sun 09-Feb-14 18:56:33

Way too late for mine. Latest I'd let him go to a party would be finishing at 8, and that would only be a Friday/Saturday night.

MrsDavidBowie Sun 09-Feb-14 18:57:50

Yes, too late for mine.
Can't see eight yr olds having naps in the afternoon.

My daughter is 11 and I would let her go to a party that late

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sun 09-Feb-14 18:59:50

Hmm. Would it be on a Friday or Saturday?

I'd think about it but it's very late to be being active and having cake and no- one would get to bed until 10pm...

Pepperglitter Sun 09-Feb-14 19:01:05

Mine would be fine for that time. He normally goes to bed at 9 but if he's at a party he's not tired!

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sun 09-Feb-14 19:01:06

But I'd ask the parents of her closest friends what they think, TBH - then you will know!

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter Sun 09-Feb-14 19:02:31

If Friday/Saturday night I'd be ok with it (can I come please it sounds fab!)

2kidsintow Sun 09-Feb-14 19:02:55

As a one off, for a special occasion I'd let mine go as long as it wasn't a school night.

But then mine have always been very adaptable to changes in routine and will sleep later the next morning to make up for the late night.

Mine does MrsDavidBowie. grin She would sleep any time though. (Takes after me)

That's a shame, but understandable. The hire of the ice rink would cost £400 in total if we were to have it at a more reasonable time. The other option would be a very early start 8-9:30, but it's at least a 30 min drive away. Also, they'll expect food after and it'd get really expensive.

YouAreMyRain Sun 09-Feb-14 19:04:22

Too late (and mine won't nap!)

LIZS Sun 09-Feb-14 19:06:25

Go for the earlier slot (8.30- 9.30 say as an hour would be plenty for most kids) and serve a brunch of pastries and hot choc afterwards

O.k, I could find out. I was thinking of a Saturday night. That way, they wouldn't be tired from school and have a chance to nap if they want too. (It seems that mine is probably the only child who will have a nap though)

BuzzardBird Sun 09-Feb-14 19:09:06

On a weekend it wouldn't be a problem as dd is a night owl (7). Goes to bed 730 takes 2 hrs to go to sleep.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Sun 09-Feb-14 19:09:08

Yes, too late for mine - he never naps either.

Good idea LIZS. That would be better, as long as the parents wouldn't mind an early start...
Also, is it o.k to ask them to drive about 30 mins each way, or should we hire a mini bus?

BuzzardBird Sun 09-Feb-14 19:10:38

Its the adults I reckon you will have a problem with...no wine till bedtime wink

poopooheadwillyfatface Sun 09-Feb-14 19:10:53

I would turn down an 8am start I'm afraid. but I'm lazy.

Picturesinthefirelight Sun 09-Feb-14 19:10:59

It would have been too late for mine at 8.

500internalerror Sun 09-Feb-14 19:11:56

Yes of course, if its a weekend night! They'll love it. Ds2 had to be up that late twice a week anyway, to collect ds1 from clubs.

pancakesfortea Sun 09-Feb-14 19:13:10

I would let mine go at the weekend.

Daykin Sun 09-Feb-14 19:15:07

Mine would be OK, if it was a Fri or Sat but I would struggle as I wouldn't want to keep younger siblings up that late to collect. If it's 30 min away and only a 90 min party then parent pretty much have to stay and it might be a big ask getting parents to give up 2.5 hours of their Saturday night.

DukeSilver Sun 09-Feb-14 19:15:46

For a one off weekend special occasion I wouldn't have a problem with a 9.30om finish at all. I'd much rather it to an 8am start grin

BuzzardBird, they could bring their wine (if we have a mini bus) It might encourage them to join in! grin

This was a last minute idea really, we were going to have a quiet family birthday tea, after a day out with just my DD and her cousin.

Do you think this kind of party would be better for her last birthday at primary, so for 11 year olds? She probably won't be into Frozen by then, but we could have a disco.

Eastpoint Sun 09-Feb-14 19:25:02

Too late and really annoying to have to spend a Saturday night ferrying a child around.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sun 09-Feb-14 19:27:21

Yes, 11 year olds would be fine. Why not go for that?

Clutterbugsmum Sun 09-Feb-14 19:33:39

Too late and to far away.

The children wouldn'tbe getting home till gone 10pm if it's 30 mins away from where you are. Also I think some parent wouldn't want to be going out to children at 7.30pm and wasting an evening. It's bad enough when it's an afternoon party.

I thought the parents would like it too, they can have a skate, glass of wine and a chat with the other parents. We are really lucky at our school that all the parents seem to get on really well, and often go out together. I thought it'd be fun...Maybe not then.

I might see what some of them would make of it, then if not, go back to my first idea and maybe do that for her 11th.

Shesaysso Sun 09-Feb-14 19:45:36

Too late for mine x

starlight1234 Sun 09-Feb-14 19:46:26

maybe if it was one of his closest friend but not for someone who is an aquaintance

Save it as an idea for next year or the year after. Ice skating parties are fab.

Floggingmolly Sun 09-Feb-14 19:49:17

I think it's too late, and not everyone would want to devote Saturday night to a kids party. It's a fabulous idea, though.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sun 09-Feb-14 19:49:45

And on a minibus people would get back even later, surely, as all would have to be dropped off?

lljkk Sun 09-Feb-14 19:50:10

Mine would be absolutely fine with it. maybe a better party if held jointly with someone else at an earlier time?

rookiemater Sun 09-Feb-14 19:50:49

As a one off on a Saturday night, I think it would be ok. I'd be extremely hmm about an 8.00am party start, and would probably not take DS,unless someone else was willing to give him a lift there ( we have no other DCs)

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter Sun 09-Feb-14 20:19:50

Have you asked some of the parents about the lateness mummy ?

The minibus idea would def be an incentive for parents to relax and enjoy it more!

<still sat here in Sochi leotard and full winged peacock eye make up waiting for invite...drums fingers...>

muminthecity Sun 09-Feb-14 20:31:38

I would definitely let my DD come, she is 8 and often stays up until 10-11pm on a Saturday. In fact, we often go out for dinner with friends or to family parties at the weekend which finish later than 9.30pm. I'd much prefer that to an 8am start!

PortofinoRevisited Sun 09-Feb-14 20:35:16

I think it is too late and would be worried about potential injuries. We have a permanent rink in Brussels in the winter and the number of FB posts of broken wrists/arms.......

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter- Of course you can come, if we end up having it. I would've invited earlier, but your name was difficult to remember. grin

Mama1980 Mon 10-Feb-14 12:09:46

My ds is 6 and I would let him come no problem in fact he has been to a similar 'late' party, it wasn't a issue for anyone I don't think.

uc Mon 10-Feb-14 12:10:51

I'd say too late.

Also, if we had plans to go out as adults that Saturday night, it would stop those too.

Why the rush? Save it til she's older. (you'll spend less time picking up cold 7/8 year olds who can't skate and just get wet and frozen (literally!) by then too.

LoopyDoopyDoo Mon 10-Feb-14 12:14:25

I'd be fine with it. Mine are 2 and 4 smile

AthenaAshton Mon 10-Feb-14 12:15:11

Regardless of the timing, there is no way I would let any of mine go in a hired minibus!!!

Sounds a great idea for a party, but perhaps better for older ones. My oldest is 11, and I'd say it would be fun for that kind of age-group.

(disclaimer: we have never done big/expensive parties for any of ours).

jamtoast12 Mon 10-Feb-14 12:17:44

I'd be fine too and mine are 8 and 6. Can't see a problem at weekends....the kids would love it. Most kids I know of 8 these days can last til 10pm if with their friends (different if sat in front of tv as they tire much more easily then).

Wishihadabs Mon 10-Feb-14 12:22:16

God you lot are miserable. I think it's a great idea for a Saturday night (I love ice staking). Part of having kids is ferrying them about, be that 7am swimming or 10pm pick ups. I feel sorry for your dcs if you think your Saturday night is more important tbh.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Mon 10-Feb-14 12:25:36

It sounds fab but would be too late for our 8 year old.

By the time you've paid for the minibus (or minibuses - I assume there'll be quite a few there to create a decent atmosphere on the ice) and wine wouldn't it be cheaper to pay the £200?

MirandaWest Mon 10-Feb-14 12:31:24

My 8 year old DD would be ok with that timing wise. Although she's not great at skating and possibly frustration would come out more later on in the day - you could end up with a lot of 8 year olds getting over emotional.

I would much prefer a late party to one that starts at 8am though. That would be an unpleasant start to a saturday - there's a reason why no one has 8am swimming lessons in our house grin

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Mon 10-Feb-14 14:00:36

Wish, I don't think it's a question of being miserable - OP is about to spend a fair bit on this party so if lots of people don't come it will be expensive and sad for her DD.

Wishihadabs Mon 10-Feb-14 14:08:17

It is miserable to say, it would mess up my Saturday night and worrying about eating cake and being late to bed for one night ffs. These kids are 8 not 18 months, I take it they never go to weddings where they might be out late eating cake........

matana Mon 10-Feb-14 14:08:40

I think the divided opinions here are an indication of what you'll get in rl. Better to rethink the plans than two thirds of the children don't come...

ouryve Mon 10-Feb-14 14:11:47

My 10yo struggles to stay awake past 9pm, except in summer, when he can't sleep if it's at all light.

AwfulMaureen Mon 10-Feb-14 14:13:18

Mine went to a party for a friend which was a meal out in a fun restaurant...they got back at 10.30 pm! I was angry as the meal began at 7.30! I think the one you're thinking of is for older DC to be honest. More like 11 year olds.

Picturesinthefirelight Mon 10-Feb-14 14:27:43

What's wrong with a hired minibus?

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Mon 10-Feb-14 15:49:36

Well, you might think it's miserable but OP was worried it wouldn't be worth it if no one ended up coming - and the thread shows that quite a few parents would have reservations.

I still think it's worth checking with the parents of DD's closest friends directly though as who knows if they'll be the "miserable" sorts or the "party on" sorts!

Gladvent Mon 10-Feb-14 15:52:19

I'd wait until they are older. Its a brilliant party idea though!

UniS Mon 10-Feb-14 17:52:40

another for the no camp. we can keep the boy up beyond 9pm once in a while. But its only going to be mid school hols with nothing planned for a day either side. He will take a nap but the fall out next day is messy.

BooseyAndHawkes Wed 12-Feb-14 16:47:13

What's wrong with a hired minibus? Who's going to drive it? I wouldn't fancy entrusting my DC (or myself, come to that) to some random person who thinks that being able to drive a car qualifies them to drive a minibus safely.

I'd still be perfectly happy with late party, though.

Picturesinthefirelight Wed 12-Feb-14 16:56:45

Ok fair enough. I guess it would be different for us as dh has had training to drive the school minibus where he teaches.

BooseyAndHawkes Wed 12-Feb-14 21:11:34

Ah, yes - that would be a different matter!

Tryharder Wed 12-Feb-14 21:46:05

It is late but I'd still accept the invitation.

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