How did you decide to stop at 2 children?

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emmyloo2 Tue 14-Jan-14 04:22:11

I have a DS who is 3.2 and an 8 month old daughter. I really struggled with the first few years of DS's life adjusting to motherhood. I was really anxious before DD was born as I dreaded going back to the baby stage. It has actually been better than I expected although I am still looking forward to her getting to DS's life and us starting to get some semblance of a life back. What I struggle with, is why would you have a third baby which would then set you back again, back to the baby stage and another few years back from getting your life back (sort of). I had this second baby and swore black and blue I would never ever have another baby. My DH is an amazing father and he would give his right arm to have a third. Amazingly I am finding creeping little thoughts entering my head about having a third. My head and gut tell me it would be a very very silly thing to do. I am only just seeing a light at the end of the tunnel now with the first two (and it's a very very distant light) and I don't cope well with babies all. Pregnancy I don't mind at all - babies, not so much. I love my children but I work full-time and I love my job. Deep down, I know I should not have a third child but there is just this little niggle which has started.

So really my question is - how did you know you wanted to stop at two? Or conversely, why did you decide to have a third? I would love to know people's thinking!

Thanks!

sixtypercentfringe Tue 14-Jan-14 04:30:16

I'm in a similar position to you only DC's 5 and 3. I've got the implant for 3 years to take away my choice as such and if when both DC's are in school there's still that niggle I'll know it's right for me.

I don't think you ever truly know, you just have a niggle that gets bigger and bigger. Those who try to suffocate it in my opinion can become resentful but in some cases it does go away so give it a little time, talk it out, write lists on pros and cons, how you'd cope, finances etc and see how you feel in say 3-6 months.

emmyloo2 Tue 14-Jan-14 04:38:00

Thanks sixty. I had an IUD inserted after my daughter which lasts for 5 years. That's how sure I was. Hopefully my niggle will eventually go away because I really really think it would be a bad idea! Plus time isn't necessarily on my side. I am 37 this year.

MiaowTheCat Tue 14-Jan-14 07:12:52

My body's made the choice for me - I would have loved a third (I'd have loved three under 3 to be honest) but I'm still riddled with SPD from two pregnancies, plus I have the combination of consistently trying to go into labour from about the 33 week mark, and very very fast deliveries to add to that (last one was sub 15 minutes of actually being "in labour") so they'd probably want me hospitalised for quite a while... wouldn't be fair on my kids so DH was snipped recently.

I'm not a newborny person - but the interaction and age between my two currently is adorable and they dote on each other - I would have loved a third to add into the chaos but it wouldn't be at all wise.

Tailtwister Tue 14-Jan-14 07:33:20

Our choice was partly financial (having a 3rd would have changed a lot for our 2 existing children) and because at nearly 40 when I had our second baby, we both felt it would be pushing it to have a 3rd when I would likely be 42/43. I also felt that having 3 children in such quick succession (around 2 years apart) would have been (even more) detrimental to my career. I found it a lot harder to return to work, albeit part-time, after having DS2.

If we had more time and a 3rd didn't rule out a lot of things for our first two, then I'm pretty sure we would have had at least 1 more.

I think sixty is right, you never really know one way or the other (unless nature makes the decision for you as in our case). If there's the possibility of another baby the thought will always be there. Lots of our friends have had 3 and really find it's a lovely number of children to have.

Eletheomel Tue 14-Jan-14 08:12:54

I would love a third and my second is only 7 months, but I'm too old and takes me too long to conceive so I'm 'settling' for two - so easy for me, the decision was taken out of my hands! (mind you, if a miracle happened, I'd be happy enough - if skint!)

mummyxtwo Tue 14-Jan-14 10:12:36

I have ds1, 5yo, and dd2, 14mo, and have only recently started to think that actually, I might stop at 2. Dh would be happy with another but is also happy with what we have, and while I have always really wanted 3, I am starting to come to the realisation that it might not actually be in the best interests of our family. For work reasons, also the fact that I struggle when dd2 is crying and I am trying to also give ds1 attention (the witching hour from 4-6pm can be very trying). I don't want to have another and turn into a stressed shouty mum and make things more unpleasant for the two gorgeous children that I feel very blessed to have. A third would need to enrich their lives, and I'm not convinced currently that that would be the case. But part of me wants another, and can't quite accept that I might be done with pregnancy and babies! (Despite being sick as a dog with my pregnancies - what is wrong with me?!) I think having a third needs to be a decision made with your head, not your heart (my heart will always say yes, no matter how impractical) and then once you have made that decision, not allowing regret to cloud it.

minipie Tue 14-Jan-14 10:19:20

Just a thought OP, the law has now changed so the father can take most of maternity leave instead of the mother. Would that be an option for you, if your DH loves the baby stage and you don't?

NotCitrus Tue 14-Jan-14 10:23:14

It took nearly 3 years to conceive dc2, and it was a horrible pregnancy - I can't remember anything from the second half of 2011. Recovering was physically tough and my health is still precarious. Before getting pregnant I might have wanted a third, DP would like another, but doesn't want to adopt and we've agreed to quit while we're ahead.

I really couldn't go through the mental pain of ttc again, and don't want to put my pelvis or guts through pregnancy. Also we have space for two kids to have own rooms and would hate to move from our loved project house, and suspect both ds and dd would hate to share. Quite happy to just borrow small children instead!

chocoluvva Tue 14-Jan-14 10:40:03

I didn't feel I could cope with a third child and DH was happy with our 'one of each'. At the time I thought anyone with a boy and girl who had more children must be mad, but when the older one was twelve I'd have loved another. If I'd been more confident I'd have had a third child.

DD has a new friend who is one of 3 (teenagers). Their house is the same as ours - a small, 3-bedroom house. His parents sleep in what would otherwise be the dining-room so that the boys can all have a room to themselves. When he came to our similarly cluttered house he remarked that it reminded him of his own home and it made him feel more comfortable than the immaculate houses of his friends.

A lady I know well has six DC - quite spread out in age. Neither of the two adult DC have left home yet and they all say how much they like having lots of siblings. DD's friend who has 4 siblings is proud of his big family too.

Have you guessed what my advice is...? grin

Having said that, if another child would be an enormous source of stress and strain you'd be better to be grateful for what you already have.

WeeTeaJenny Tue 14-Jan-14 16:58:23

I totally have the third child niggle too, Ive currently got a 2 year old and a 3month old.
The only thing that is stopping us is financial reasons, not the actual cost of feeding/clothing the child but the childcare for three pre schoolers
The only way we could do it would be for me not to work and be a SAHM but I still have finance to pay off so need to work
Oh to be debt free and go with the flow...

Sparklingbrook Tue 14-Jan-14 17:03:22

I didn't fancy 3 teenagers in the house. grin

I always only wanted two and never got broody after DS2, TBH I think I would have struggled with a third, and now my two are 14 and 11 I am sooo glad we don't have any more.

Middleagedmotheroftwo Tue 14-Jan-14 17:12:54

Twas age with me too. I have two, and would have loved three or four, but I was 36 when DD2 was born, and we felt we didn't want to risk our luck with a third after having two healthy DDs.

lynniep Tue 14-Jan-14 17:16:05

Almost the same scenario as you (mine now 4 and nearly 7) and my DH would love a third. I however, have gradually gone of the idea. When DS2 was still a baby, I would have considered it. Now, theres no way. I just cannot go through it again. Both of mine were awful sleepers. I can't be bothered with all the baby groups and mess and nappies. I can't face the expense. I can't face the fighting. I can't cope with distributing my time between 3. My freedom has returned - ok its not like it was before children - but its enough for me now - I'm not losing it again!

wifey6 Tue 14-Jan-14 17:16:49

DS1 is 3yrs & DS2 is 6months & I too have the niggly, broody feeling but we lost a baby before we had DS2 & I found his pregnancy very stressful, emotional & my anxiety was sky-high. So we have decided we couldn't go through either scenario again, so are stopping at 2...but considering how lucky we are to even have them...I have to push the broody sadness away & just be very thankful.

FruitSaladIsNotPudding Tue 14-Jan-14 17:20:08

I'm thinking of re training for a new career and a 3rd would delay this for years.

Plus, we could just about cope with a third. Just. But what if it was twins. Or the child had sn? You can't plan for everything.

Bumpsadaisie Tue 14-Jan-14 17:32:59

I may not have definitely decided, but I probably will stick at two.

I love babies but I don't particularly feel I really want another.

I had two awful pregnancies with HG - don't know if I could do it again.

I have a boy and a girl which is a good combo, and it feels complete and balanced.

My son is 2 now and things are just getting a bit easier - he is sleeping OK and can talk to express himself. Later this year he will start some preschool sessions.

If my DH was desperate though, I wouldn't need much persuading. Likewise if I was desperate, my DH would agree. But neither of us are desperate, and we are both exhausted with work and two children as it is.

We sometimes take a few risks contraception wise and if I did get PG again no question but that we would keep the baby. And we'd be chuffed to bits plus terrified at the same time.

Bumpsadaisie Tue 14-Jan-14 17:34:03

Also there is a congenital hearing loss in the family. So far neither of mine show any signs of having it. I kind of have it in my mind that if I had a third that child would be deaf.

We had always both wanted 2. Like you I felt a bit broody when dd2 was a few months old but as she got to be more of a toddler I knew I didn't want a 3rd.

SaltyandSweet Tue 14-Jan-14 17:40:28

I have 2 under 5 and DH regularly makes comments about "one more" but I'm pretty sure I don't want another. I love the baby stage, I loved being pregnant but I don't think we can really properly afford a third and I also worry about being able to give quality time and enough attention to three. Bit strange as I am the third and final child in my family and never felt like I didn't get enough attention from my parents but I have this strong feeling that I can only really manage two. I remind myself of all of the above when the niggle comes along (still regularly)!

FixItUpChappie Tue 14-Jan-14 17:54:10

I think having a third needs to be a decision made with your head, not your heart (my heart will always say yes, no matter how impractical) and then once you have made that decision, not allowing regret to cloud it

I think this is true unfortunately. I am really struggling with it at the moment. I have DS1 3yrs and DS2 11 months. There are lots of logical reasons not to have another....but I feel so sad about it.

-Financially it would be a disaster - I couldn't work, childcare would be prohibitive with 3.
-Practically - where would we put a 3rd? We would be tight for space - two would have to share a small room, we'd need a bigger car....
-My attention already seems stretched between two TBH.
-Physically my Dr. suggested against it. 9 months of bed rest doesn't seem fair to our children and what if baby is not healthy?

I'm 36...I can't just hold off and see IYKWIM? So times and issue. I just feel like I'll always be sad to not have one more though. Then I wonder if after a third I'd still feel this way, if its just a feeling I'll have to cope with whether I have 2 or 5 children IYKWIM? If so, then I think mummyx2 is right - best to make a clear decision with your head.

sad

Hyperhelpmum Tue 14-Jan-14 18:06:24

I've just had my third. DC are 5,3 9 weeks today. It's very very tough! I just always wanted a third. I am now definitely done!!! Still unsure if we've pushed ourselves two far but couldn't live with the thought I might regret it forever if I stick at two. It's worked out so far in that I had two boys and just had little girl. I'm happy we tried for her and have a new dynamic to family. It's pretty exhausting at moment but wouldn't be without her! In hindsight, if I'd had one of each, I may have stopped at two. Probs not though as it was never about having a girl, more about having three kids. I want big family Christmas' and three kids feels more like a 'big' family than two. Just my opinion! ;-)

SoonToBeSix Tue 14-Jan-14 18:12:22

I didn't, my children are my life I genuinely enjoy every stage ( I have a baby, toddler , "tween" and a teenager)

Eletheomel Tue 14-Jan-14 18:28:32

I'm the youngest of five siblings so was maybe always going to want more than two (although life hasn't panned out that way).

Surprised at people getting worried about having a third when they're 36/37 as they think age is a factor, after problems conceiving, I was 37 when I had my first and I'm 42 next month which is why I described myself as too old - at 36 (if I had no ttc issues) I'd be thinking I could squeeze at least another couple out ;-p

In all honesty though I think you just know if you want a third (or more) if the thought scares you, then probably best to stick at 2.

WeeTeaJenny Tue 14-Jan-14 19:17:52

We don't feel our little family is complete yet and we are both still young (30 & 31) so got time to think but as Fix it up said above its going to be a head over heart decision, whereas with second baby we didnt bother with contraception after first and just let nature take its course
Not this time, been back on the pill for a while!
Hate having to be like this though ...

Never even considered having a third, didn't even discuss it I don't think. I was 39 when DC2 came along anyway, but don't think I'd have wanted three even if we had been younger.

Also, when DC1 was born we kept everything for DC2. Once DC2 came along I was happy to sell the baby stuff without a backward glance as she finished with it. That told me all I needed to know.

DeathMetalMum Tue 14-Jan-14 20:18:58

We havn't decided yet but watching with interest. We have two dd's 3 and 10 months. I had quite a difficult birth with dd2, and an abnormal shaped womb which means problems with pregnancy, and birth are more likely. I have also got lingering spd, both of these things are putting me off a third. In my mind I am leaning towards 'being done' (also for financial and career reasons) though I always imagined three or more children being one of five myself.

Threads like these always make me think of more reasons for and against another. Me and dp also havn't really spoke about it for a few months so not sure on his feelings currently, I currently have an implant so certainly not on our minds at the moment. It hasn't helped that I have enjoyed the baby stage so much more with dd2.

barleysugar Tue 14-Jan-14 20:23:14

Mother of three here. I found that as my two got older, and started school there became a big baby shaped hole in my life, it was difficult to explain really, as I'm not really a baby person. I just felt I needed to have a new person in our family, another person at the dinner table!

Three is the magic number for us!

Yours are still so tiny, you may feel differently when they go to school!

NeverKnowinglyUnderstood Tue 14-Jan-14 20:29:28

we got stuck. I definitely wanted another DH Def not.
We went round and round it. then we had an accident, I got pregnant.
I was delighted DH was mortified - at 6 weeks nature took its course and I was no longer pregnant. DH was delighted and I was mortified.
I realized that it would break us if we had another accident.

DH has now had a vasectomy. It was the only way forward. I would have loved another, but it is ok not to.

We have stopped at two, the youngest just turned 2. I do think it would be nice to have another pregnancy (despite hating the last one) and another newborn. But I don't want another child IYSWIM. DH agrees. And I'm 42 now so 2 children for us.

PogoBob Tue 14-Jan-14 21:01:45

We've a 3yo DD and a 12mo DS and have been debating a third since last August.

In the end it was Christmas day that made the decision for me. Watching the two of them opening presents etc., it didn't feel like there was someone missing IYSWIM.

I also think that I was craving a pregnancy / new-born rather than another child.

Hyperhelpmum Tue 14-Jan-14 23:27:14

barleysugar I was the same as you. Oldest started in reception last yr and I just 'needed' another child. The house felt empty. My second child starts school in sept but I know I won't feel that again. Three is definitely the 'magic' number for us too!

RosebudTheCat Tue 14-Jan-14 23:35:00

Might have considered it but had a medical emergency with birth of DC2, NOT doing any more pregnancies/labours!

emmyloo2 Wed 15-Jan-14 03:26:06

Thanks all. I think this has probably confirmed what I was thinking. I think because the thought terrifies me, I need to go with my head and not my heart. A lot of it for me, is wanting to be pregnant again and wondering whether it's a boy or girl and choosing names and buying baby clothes, rather than wanting another child. The family feels complete to me now with one boy and one girl and to be honest, we manage now, but only just. We both work full-time and it's a juggle but it's manageable. It doesn't feel too chaotic. Plus our house is small and we struggle for room as it is.

Maybe I will just have to get a dog!!

I think the fact I have started giving away the baby clothes, baby items with great delight should tell me something. PLus I am counting down until we can get rid of bottles, and then rid of the baby bouncer and then the baby bath etc etc.

Damn ovaries and their broodiness!

Sparklingbrook Wed 15-Jan-14 06:53:33

How about a kitten?

bridalBOM Wed 15-Jan-14 09:13:18

I decided to stop at one because I should never have had the first one. I am not a natural mother and for all the same reasons as you have counted the days (still counting!) until I am have my life back.

Luckily for me, I have a new partner who feels the same as I do. I know it's a bit of a grim outlook but in my opinion it's very easy for a man to say he'd "give his right arm" for a third because he could walk away at any time. I'm sure you're husband isn't thinking like that but hopefully you know what I mean.
My advice would be to have a third if you dearly want one because it's you who'll bare the scars hmm

Crowler Wed 15-Jan-14 09:32:25

To be honest a big part of me not wanting more than 2 (and I actually wanted only 1 - husband "forced" me and thank god he did) is because I'm fairly vomit-phobic. I assumed that motherhood would cure me of it but in fact it made it worse.

Also I love kids but am not keen on spending huge amounts of time with them. wink

Sparklingbrook Wed 15-Jan-14 10:20:05

I think now when DSs both have friends round and the house is full of teenage/preteen boys I am glad there are only two lots of them. grin

newpup Wed 15-Jan-14 10:29:56

We had our Dds when we were in our twenties, bucking the trend for professional middle class university graduates at the time!!!! We always planned on three but by the time we could comfortably afford three, the first two were past the toddler stage and we found that we did not really want to go back. We could afford great holidays and the DDs were old enough to travel to more exotic places easily. Life was great! We decided to stop at two. Now the DDs are 12 & 15 and I am glad we did. The girls go to private school (would have been a struggle to pay three sets of fees) We still have lovely holidays (definite no if we had 3 sets of fees) we can go for weekends away without the girls, they are happy to stay with my mum and are at an easy age to have for a weekend. Would have felt too guilty to leave them and a toddler. I am studying for a change in career and life is good. Our close friends had a baby recently and are in a spin!! I am so glad we had ours when we did and stopped at two, definitely the right decision for us.

vvviola Wed 15-Jan-14 10:48:56

DD2, after being angelic for the first 5 months turned into a non-sleeping boob-monster at the onset of dairy and egg allergies. 2 years later I have only had 3 full nights of sleep.

That pretty much decided us on stopping where we are. Had I had more sleep over the past 2 years I might have been tempted.

rrreow Wed 15-Jan-14 11:16:13

My experience was the other way around. I found having one child a breeze. With the baby phase I was so relieved it wasn't as hard as all the stories. Then I had my second.. he's no more difficult/easy than the first, but having two kids I find infinitely harder.

I can imagine that biologically I'll want another one at some point. But emotionally.. just absolutely no. (And I can see a full night's sleep in a very distant future... it's a thought that keeps me going.. I don't want to relinquish that dream!) Now that I have two I feel emotionally so much more stretched and often I'm thinking to myself that these stresses make me not so fun to be around and make me feel negative in my own skin. I think for now I need to focus on my family as it is and myself.

I can imagine revisiting the conversation about a third in a few years time, once the youngest is at school. I have the luxury of time though as I'm in my late 20s.

kalidasa Wed 15-Jan-14 11:38:12

I think the distinction between wanting another pregnancy/baby and wanting another child/person in the family is a useful one. We are currently planning to TTC no. 2 even though I had a horrific pregnancy and bad PND and have to be prepared for the same again. I am not looking forward to the pregnancy/baby bit at ALL - and like you OP I love my job and was desperate to go back having been off sick the entire pregnancy - but I have always wanted more than one child and we both really want another and for DS to have a sibling. I am really hoping I DON'T feel like this after no. 2 because I would like to feel good about stopping at two.

appletarts Wed 15-Jan-14 20:21:07

Too tired to shag anymore or bring up any more babies

Coveredinweetabix Wed 15-Jan-14 20:35:19

When I really think about my current broodiness, a lot of it is down to the fact that, for the first time is 7 or 8 years, none of my close friends is pregnant or has a newborn and I'm feeling a general sadness that that stage of life is over. Unless I have grandchildren, never again will I have a pram (as opposed to a pushchair) to push, never again will I have skin to skin, buy those tiny newborn clothes or use my remaining girl's name. But even if I were to have another baby, that stage would only last for a few fleeting weeks.
There was a moment before Christmas when I was walking along with 20mth DS in my arms and 4.2yo DD holding my hand and I just had this feeling that this was right and that this was what my body was designed for. If I really think about it, I cannot imagine that scenario feeling the same if I was pregnant or had a newborn in my sling, DS pulling on reins at my side and DD walking next to me as I'd run out of hands.
More rationally, we can't afford it. Or we could but it would have a major impact on all of our lives for the rest of our lives. I also don't know if I'd cope. Sometimes having two is a breeze; other times, I feel as though I am being pulled in a million directions. And that is with two relatively easy going DC.

Bedsheets4knickers Wed 15-Jan-14 21:24:36

I have the niggle my baby is now 14 months and I keep wanting to scream STOP to the time that's flying by. My 1st is 3.5 he cracks me up. I find the baby stage so bitter sweet. I've always wanted 3 as I myself am 1 of 2 and I was always bored . 2 fits 3 gets tricky but surely it's tricky in the most fun loving way. I'm 33 I'm going to get both mine in school then decide. Il be 36/37. I do know my mum wanted a third but my dad was happy with 2 and realistically it was all they could afford but she does regret not having a third x

Allegrogirl Wed 15-Jan-14 22:01:55

I really wanted a third when I was at a similar stage to you. Life with DD1 was hell for the first 6 months so it came as a pleasant surprise to find that DD2 was much easier (cling on boob monster but at least I could stop her screaming easily enough). I really enjoyed the baby stage second time around, curled up with my biggest fan while DD1 was at preschool.

There were the numerous comments about trying again to get a boy as apparently having two girls wasn't good enough hmm. My DDs would love a little brother (or sister) to cause more mayhem with but as the sleeping improved it seemed more impossible to go back to zombie baby and small toddler days.

If I was younger, better off, had babies that fed less and slept more then a third would have been lovely. Head definitely ruling this decision.

Kiwiinkits Thu 16-Jan-14 01:00:39

I know that I wouldn't be able to maintain my career with another child, and I feel I am stretched enough between career and children now as it is. I love my job and I've worked for years to get where I am today. So two it is.

Also, I love my husband and I don't think there'd be any energy left for him if we had another child.

Have decided to think about it again when youngest is four. DH nags me almost weekly for another baby. I think if we did have another one I'd be grateful to fall pregnant with twins or triplets or something so that I'd be forced just to give up my job completely and not be tempted to continue to juggle it.

emmyloo2 Thu 16-Jan-14 02:39:48

All very good points. I think biologically I will always crave to be pregnant again, because it is such an exciting time. I also (strangely) quite like labour and giving birth because there is the thrill of meeting the baby. However, I am not one of these people who love babies and love being at home. Quite the opposite. I love order and control not chaos. Deep down I know I should not have a third and I will bet that we don't. I think intrinsically I won't let it happen because I know emotionally it will kill me and will place extra strain on our otherwise good marriage. Plus my Mum gives us a huge amount of help with the current two and I know she doesn't have it in her to help with a third.

And finally, I am already starting to plan overseas holidays for when the baby turns 2. I am not willing to turn back the clock on all that.

So I will continue to fantasize about using my unused names and will look into getting a kitten or dog instead!

CouthyMow Thu 16-Jan-14 02:59:01

Because one of each was enough for me. I then promptly had DC3 just 18 months after having DC2 and deciding I was 'done'.

And then, for good measure, had DC4 another 7 years later. Now I really AM done!!

GoshAnneGorilla Thu 16-Jan-14 03:10:54

I'm just about to have dd2. I'm pretty sure this is it for us. It's taken over 2 years to conceive and I don't love being pregnant that much.

Dd1 is nearly 5, she's been very easy going, so I think in some ways that will make going from 1 -2 even harder, so I really don't think I fancy going from 2 -3.

I think DH is keener on the idea of having a bigger family, but I don't want to go through years of ttc-ing, particularly as I'm 34 this year anyway. I just want to enjoy the family that (all being well) we have.

peppajay Thu 16-Jan-14 10:28:57

We have a DD of 7 and a son aged 5 both at school and I have my life back I couldn't and wouldn't want to go all the way back to the beginning again. However if I had 2 children if the same sex I may feel differently. Both our kids were conceived so easily that my DH and I came to the decision that to stop any accidents happening a vasectomy was the best option. I know so many people who have fallen pregnant with an accidental third and put a real strain on the family. When I first married my DH I wanted 4 then reality hit and I realised how hard work it is and we also have no family close or willing to help so rarely get a break. Some friends of ours are in a horrible situation st the mo as she is desperate for a third child but her DH doesn't want one she is using the pressuring technique and sending him 100 texts a day until he finally agreed. My DH went out for a drink with him last night as he is really stressed and says he had to agree because the constant nagging was doing him in . I saw my friend this morning and she is over the moon with his agreeance and is looking forward to getting down to it tonight but her hub told my hub that this will damage the marriage hugely as he has been forced into doing something he doesn't want!! I think if you both want a third then go for it but it has to be a joint decision!!

mrshunkermunker Thu 16-Jan-14 21:46:51

The most helpful advice I 've heard was that you don't know how many is enough until you have one too many. Which is scary. But not scary enough to stop me having my third...

JewelFairies Thu 16-Jan-14 21:51:27

Easy. Too old, too poor, too knackered and didn't want to be outnumbered. I've got two and the younger one is almost 4. I am incredibly lucky to have them at all but still felt broody. Now the youngest is due to start school this year (eek) it seems an awful hassle to start again. So in our case time has healed the broodyness.

BabyMummy29 Thu 16-Jan-14 21:59:27

The ones I really can't understand are when there are two kids of maybe 8 and 6 and then parents have another one. This has happened to quite a few people I know.

Why on earth would you want to go back to sleepless nights, prams, nappies etc etc just when you've got clear of it all?

minipie Thu 16-Jan-14 23:00:40

Probably because they forgot what it was really like.....

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