DD wants a TV in her room!

(128 Posts)
Tw1nkle Sun 08-Sep-13 18:45:03

We're thinking about getting a tv for our DD's room.
We currently have Sky, and whilst I would like to get rid of it, it costs a small fortune it does have REALLY good parental controls.

If we keep sky, we can get multiroom for my DD's room, and use the great controls.

However - she will be 5 - is this too young - even with the parental controls? She's pretty good, and would only have it on when she is allowed.

Advice appreciated!

IslaValargeone Sun 08-Sep-13 18:45:56

Too young imo.

Sparklingbrook Sun 08-Sep-13 18:46:14

No it will be fine. But everyone else will say no. wink

MortifiedAdams Sun 08-Sep-13 18:46:47

Too young imo too.

Madlizzy Sun 08-Sep-13 18:46:58

I wouldn't.

KingscoteStaff Sun 08-Sep-13 21:28:32

Why does she need it? Not being sarky, I really can't imagine when she would use it.

I wouldn't.

Catnap26 Sun 08-Sep-13 21:31:35

I think its a bit too young,sorry

Weegiemum Sun 08-Sep-13 21:33:49

I'd say way too young - in fact our dc are 9,11,13 and the only TV in our house is in the lounge. They do get to take a laptop and DVD up to watch in their bedrooms, but that's it.

I really can't see the need - and we don't have fancy satellite recording type things either, just freeview (or whatever it's called). Our dc do like watching films with us now, but we do still restrict viewing times during the school week. But then we're also strict with screens generally.

Min both have tvs with inbuilt dvd players, and are soley used to watch dvds. Is that an option?

2kidsintow Sun 08-Sep-13 21:34:27

Mine had TVs relatively young, because they were hand me downs (cheap!). They have never been attached to any aerials, though and are only used to play DVDs.
They don't use them on a school night either.

flowery Sun 08-Sep-13 21:34:54

I have a 6yo and a nearly 4yo. I'm struggling to imagine circumstances where they might possibly need or even use a telly in their bedrooms. confused

MirandaWest Sun 08-Sep-13 21:36:37

DS (who is 9) says its too young as he doesn't have one. He can't see why you need more than one television in the house smile

crazykat Sun 08-Sep-13 21:36:44

I'd say its fine, my DCs have always had a tv in their rooms and have had cable for over a year (they're 5 and 4) plus DSD is older and shares a room with 5yo DD1 so wouldn't have been fair for DS1 not to have one.

TBH they only got cable as they get no reception in their rooms for free view even with a booster arial. It's great when they want to watch kids films that are on as we don't have to.

If you think it's okay then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

OddBoots Sun 08-Sep-13 21:37:54

It feels very young to me but I know people do and it works for them.

thenightsky Sun 08-Sep-13 21:38:51

My DD used to ask for a telly in her room every Christmas. I said no every year. She left home at 18, and I bought her a telly for her student accommodation.

She is now 26 and says she is glad she had no telly in her room as she now feels she had 'proper' family evening with us all together.

She does tease me about how cross it made her at the time though grin

holidaybug Sun 08-Sep-13 21:41:11

Way too young IMO

OddBoots Sun 08-Sep-13 21:43:24

Oh, I forgot to mention that my ds's school (secondary) has asked for parents not to have anything with a screen in their rooms based on some educational research about its impact on results - we don't have any anyway so I've not checked out the study/ies they mean but you might want to in case it makes a difference to you.

mrsmartin1984 Sun 08-Sep-13 21:43:30

I plan not to let my kids have a tv in there room. Ever. My OH is a teacher and it's shocking the amount of tele children watch and how tried some are the following morning. I used to have one and I had real issues sleeping. 3 years ago got rid of it and I sleep so much better. It's too much stimulation especially for someone so young.

RedlipsAndSlippers Sun 08-Sep-13 21:43:53

That would be too young for me, plus I don't really see the need. DD is 4 and I'd much rather she wasn't already hidden in her room instead of with us, plenty of time for that when she's a teen!

Beamur Sun 08-Sep-13 21:45:02

My 6 yr old would LOVE a TV in her room (her older sister has one and is thus a highly desirable object) but I have said no. Personally I don't really like TV's in bedrooms, but it can be handy if you have several kids/adults in the house and don't all want to watch the same programme or have a TV to play games on, etc.
My preference would be extra TV's in communal rooms, but not every home can accommodate that.

hettienne Sun 08-Sep-13 21:45:38

I don't know, seems odd to me. Can't imagine sending DS to another room to watch something alone but he is only 3.

We have tv's in all bedrooms with freeview

I want to watch Criminal Minds, they want Cinderella
I watch my programme and they go watch theirs
Everyone is happy smile

flowery Sun 08-Sep-13 21:53:08

It's 2013. If something you want to watch is on at the same time as something she wants to watch, you sky plus yours, or use iplayer, and watch it when she's in bed. Easy.

elQuintoConyo Sun 08-Sep-13 21:55:54

I think too young.
Ok for dvds when they are ill, but not for telly.

NatashaBee Sun 08-Sep-13 21:56:04

DSD has one in her room and it means she spends most of the day in there. I hate having TVs on constantly or as background noise.

Sparklingbrook Sun 08-Sep-13 21:56:55

It was a godsend when the DC were younger and woke up super early, they could watch their DVDs until it was a decent hour, and didn't wake the whole house.

Sunnysummer Sun 08-Sep-13 22:02:25

I used to work in TV and saw a load of research about how both kids and adults get significantly less sleep when there are TVs in their room. This article is on older kids but has the same points, someone else might have the links to the more recent research, including computers and tablets.

I love TV, but wouldn't have one in any of our bedrooms.

Sparklingbrook Sun 08-Sep-13 22:05:11

Now they are older the TV is largely redundant in favour of laptops, or PS3.

Everyone here gets plenty of sleep. There's not a whole lot to watch on TV these days.

CMOTDibbler Sun 08-Sep-13 22:07:07

Way too young. And theres lots and lots of things that parental controls won't stop your 5 year old watching things she shouldn't at that age.

mikkii Sun 08-Sep-13 22:07:57

Too young. Our DC are 9, 6 and nearly 3. Until 2 months ago we only had one t, then we bought one for the playroom (Now I don't have to mainline Peppa pig)

I also informed DC that in order to have kids TV on cable in the playroom, it had to be removed from the lounge (yes, I lie to my DC)

Sparklingbrook Sun 08-Sep-13 22:10:24

I knew i would be in the minority. grin

MrsOakenshield Sun 08-Sep-13 22:13:56

too young but I hate TVs in bedrooms anyway, regardless of age.

Sparkling - why would watching TV in their rooms be less of a disturbance than watching TV downstairs?

Sparklingbrook Sun 08-Sep-13 22:15:57

They could stay in bed MrsO, no running up and down the stairs and WW3 breaking out over what to watch. Two boys two years apart don't like the same stuff.

exoticfruits Sun 08-Sep-13 22:18:40

Far too young- I am against it at any age.

anon2013 Sun 08-Sep-13 22:21:16

Maybe just a dvd player in the room?. You know for sure what she's watching then.

rubyfoz Sun 08-Sep-13 22:28:07

My two (dd13 and dd11) have never, and will never have tv's in their bedrooms.
My main concern is that it would stop them reading.
They both are in the habit of going to bed and reading for 30 mins to an hour each night - much as they love their books, if they had a tv I imagine the temptation to stick it on instead would eventually win out.
Only tv in our house is in the living room. We all watch together or not at all.

Sparklingbrook Sun 08-Sep-13 22:31:53

I refuse to watch The Simpsons and Russell Howard so DS1 (14) watches them in his room.
The TV is also the screen for his PS3 which I refuse to have downstairs.

My ds (4) has a tv/DVD player in his room, we got it when he had his cousin to stay for a week and they kept running in and out of bed of an evening.
We let them watch half an hour of a DVD at bedtime and it really calmed them down til they fell asleep.
Nowadays it's used rarely, sometimes if he wakes really early I will put a DVD on for him. It's not connected as a tv but could be when he is a teen

milkysmum Sun 08-Sep-13 22:44:02

DD age 4 had one just for DVD 's mind. She used to watch a DVD on a weekend but hasn't bothered with it for months now preferring to either play down stairs or have a story- I think it was just a novelty that has now worn off

Portofino Sun 08-Sep-13 22:48:20

Dd, 9.5 has. Tv in her room but not connected, only for playing DVD which she is allowed at the weekend. I would not allow actual steaming tv til secondary school age.

flowery Sun 08-Sep-13 22:48:56

What problem do you have that you are looking to solve with this OP?

Floggingmolly Sun 08-Sep-13 23:09:36

Far too young. My dd was given one for her 5th birthday from the grandparents (a pink princess one, with a bloody gold tiara randomly stuck on top hmm). I put it on top of the wardrobe and it was never switched on.
By the time she was old enough to actually use it, she preferred to watch iplayer on her tablet, and wouldn't be seen within ten miles of a tiara'd telly grin

SoonToBeSix Sun 08-Sep-13 23:13:40

I think it's way too young but I wont let my 15 year old have one .

Primrose123 Sun 08-Sep-13 23:21:47

I wouldn't. My teenage DDs don't have TVs, we have two downstairs instead. I think children's bedrooms are for reading, playing with toys and sleeping.

Sunnysummer Mon 09-Sep-13 00:07:29

Also saw that you'd like to get rid of sky without this - in any case, couldn't you get rid of it? Even if you do choose to put a TV in dd's bedroom you could be like pps and use it for DVDs, then spend the money on Netflix plus family fun (or mum fun, depending!).

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 07:25:13

We only have one Reception room-it makes a difference, in that now as they are older we would bung a telly in if we had another downstairs room.

Fairylea Mon 09-Sep-13 07:27:41

Way too young imo.

I personally believe bedrooms should be for sleeping, reading and playing. Until dc are teenagers at least.

Dd is 10 and has never had a tv in her room. If she can't sleep I always tell her to read a book. She's done this since she was about 4.

I won't be getting her a tv until she is about 14/15.

Mama1980 Mon 09-Sep-13 07:37:25

Personally I hate tv s in bedrooms, I have dd 15 ds5 and ds2 8months, and none have tv s. we have one in the lounge so we all have to sit together if we want to watch something.

redlac Mon 09-Sep-13 07:54:14

DD has a tv in her room with sky & an Xbox. Now that she has discovered Minecraft she rarely watches anything on sky. She does get to watch stuff on Netflix though but rules in this house is no screen time after 7pm on a school night. That includes the tv downstairs. She never turns it on by herself, never goes to sleep with it on and she knows that if I say no to it going on that its not going on

binger Mon 09-Sep-13 07:55:37

I really don't see the problem with TVs in kids rooms. Who cares what others think, if you want it do it, if not don't.

stargirl1701 Mon 09-Sep-13 08:00:48

No one should have a TV in their bedroom. It is not conducive to a calm, sleeping environment. I was never allowed a TV in my bedroom until I went to Uni. It will be the same for my DC.

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 08:36:09

I have just been into Ds1's bedroom. His telly is currently being used to throw clothes over. hmm

valiumredhead Mon 09-Sep-13 08:42:00

Ds has just got one on his room for his 12th birthday. Personally I think it's a little young but it's totally up to to you.

valiumredhead Mon 09-Sep-13 08:42:41

Oh and he doesn't have TV, just a monitor for games.

nooka Mon 09-Sep-13 08:46:52

No TVs in bedrooms full stop here. Mainly because of the sleeping issues, but also because I like to keep an eye on what my children are watching and for how long. Same with computers and gaming consoles.

I don't intend to change my mind before my children have left home really (14 and 13 now). There is lots of negotiation over the use of the TV, and we have another one set up for movies only.

valiumredhead Mon 09-Sep-13 08:48:31

Nooka, I'm the same, very strict about what gets watched and for how long.

usualsuspect Mon 09-Sep-13 08:56:53

I don't see a problem with it.

I love watching TV in bed.

Floralnomad Mon 09-Sep-13 09:03:54

My DC have always had TVs in their rooms , they barely watch them and never really have . Apart from the bathrooms we have a TV in every room .

Jergens Mon 09-Sep-13 09:06:44

I would say no. But then, I don't like TVs in bedrooms for anyone - adults or children.

LovesBeingOnHoliday Mon 09-Sep-13 09:08:10

Too you g for me (have a 5.5 yr old)

Hullygully Mon 09-Sep-13 09:09:45

Five seems very young to need one

valiumredhead Mon 09-Sep-13 09:21:05

Usual-I do toogrin

froubylou Mon 09-Sep-13 09:22:31

At five I would allow it for dvds only. My dd at 9 has one for that reason but she doesn't have proper tv as I knowsshe would be up too late watching it.

It's handy to have more than 1 tv in the house that gets a signal. DP likes sports and war programmes and shouty shooty films. Me and DD like x factor and chic flicks. So we have sky in the living room and our bedroom.

When I DDs age I used to wait until my sisters were asleep and then put my lamp on and read all night. Although you could argue that reading is slightly more worthy than watching tv I'm not sure how significant Enid Blyton and pony books were at influencing my intelligence.

And I found when dd was little she watched the same dvd over and over and over again and they become like white noise. They cover the sound of the rest of the house up and actually helped her fall asleep.

Ehhn Mon 09-Sep-13 09:24:45

Don't do it! I had a tv at 14 yrs old and I would stay up to 2am watching it! Then I'd fall asleep in class the next day. Best thing I ever i was get rid of the tv - age 27 I still have to put my iPad in the other room or I will watch Netflix until god knows what hour, with the justification that "I'm listening to it while I go to sleep", which is rubbish. I now have a radio for that.

My son has had a TV in his room for nearly a year now. Hes nearly 4. Whats the issue?

Its not like hes locked in there with it 24/7. He watches a film before he goes to sleep.

DancingLady Mon 09-Sep-13 09:30:32

Agree it's too young. Why does she need one in her room?

noblegiraffe Mon 09-Sep-13 09:33:55

It can definitely be a problem with secondary school children, although gaming and facebooking till all hours are the major culprit of kids falling asleep in lessons.

How do you plan on stopping it being an issue when they're older?

JakeBullet Mon 09-Sep-13 09:36:53

It comes down to personal choice really. My nephew has had a TV in his room since age 3 and sleeps well, achieves brilliantly at school (he is 9 now) and is also very sporty. It causes no issues for him.

My DS is autistic (high functioning) and a TV in his room would be a disaster as it is a total stimulant. He DOES have a TV in there but it is not attached to any aerial and is purely there because it has an unbuilt DVD player for him to use during the day and at weekends.

Theas18 Mon 09-Sep-13 09:39:02

Way too young even for the " DVD only" option IMHO. It is only with the ownership of laptops/tablets (in mid/late teens) that TV has gone into bedrooms here.

It DOES affect sleep and educational performance. There has been research into it. TV downstairs means you know what they watch and actually they are more likely to not spend all the day " switched off" by it. I'm aware kids learn from seseme street and other educational programs but honestly, most TV for adults as well as kids is "zoned out" time isn't it?

JakeBullet Mon 09-Sep-13 09:39:18

My nephew is like SPs DS, he can fall asleep watching a film if he wants to. No way could I do it with MY DS though.....I wish grin

Theas18 Mon 09-Sep-13 09:40:30

Nooka I luffs you!

I thought maybe I was the only person who was a bit strict about these things smile

PeterParkerSays Mon 09-Sep-13 09:40:41

I would say too young. Maybe you should start another thread saying "this is DD's behaviour. It's a problem, how should I solve it?" rather than assuming a TV will resolve whatever the issue is.

As she gets older she will start to read independently so will be able to read if she wakes up early, rather than get up, and if she wants to watch the living room TV all the time, that's an issue about boundaries, and sharing with other family members, not necessarily a reason to get a 2nd telly.

If you want to get an extra TV, why don't you get one for your room, then she can watch the main one in the living room and you can check watch / how much she's watching?

Jake He has a calm down film at about half 6/7 and he likes to watch the same films over and over. He can do that in his room. No way can I watch the same film every night grin

Peter Why do you assume her DD as a behaviour problem just because she wonders about putting a TV in her room? confused

anon2013 Mon 09-Sep-13 09:51:02

I'd go with the DVD option myself then at bedtime you can remove said dvds so they won't be tempted to sneak one on later on. I'm normally more worried about them coming downstairs to watch tv and having full reign over all the channels.

PeterParkerSays Mon 09-Sep-13 09:52:14

SPs, it just seems odd to just decide to do it. She didn't say "should I get my daughter a TV for her 5th birthday", or "my DD has asked for a TV" which would suggest there's another reason behind her buying it.

I guess I'm just asking why she wants to buy it.

anon2013 Mon 09-Sep-13 09:53:30

Normally it's because a school friend has been given one I find.

PlotTwist Mon 09-Sep-13 09:54:10

Mine have tvs in their rooms (aged 10 and 12), the older one generally uses it to listen to the radio, and the younger one has a console attached to hers. Both prefer to watch actual tv downstairs, and neither has it on past bedtime - because I check.

The title says her daughter wants one.

I dont think its odd to decide to get something for your child.

flowery Mon 09-Sep-13 09:57:50

We have calm-down time with a bathtime routine then reading a book together. I think that's got to be more effective as a calm down strategy than watching Star Wars, which would be my DC's film of choice!

Although I agree with SP that leaping to the conclusion that the OP's DD's behaviour must be a problem for her to be considering this is a bit of a stretch, it stands to reason that there must be a reason she is considering it, and I think replies would probably be more helpful if she were able to clarify what that reason is.

MinimalistMommi Mon 09-Sep-13 09:58:20

Gosh, way too young shock

Flowery We do reading but sometimes TV is good enough for him. A couple of SpongeBob episodes, The Lorax or Charlottes Web are what he likes to watch.

The title says her daughter wants one. I thought that was the reason tbh

chocoluvva Mon 09-Sep-13 10:09:57

Don't do it!

Only one reception room in this house, but only one tv. DD (16) watches stuff on her laptop in her room with friends occasionally.

They spend so much time looking at various screens already what with X-box, smart phones, lap-top, tablet and the one tv. It seems a bit sad and lonely for a little child to be watching tv all on her own- Though solitary tv watching does occasionally happen in this house eg when I'm cooking dinner, even then I'm in and out 'commenting' or listening to comments by the DCs.

I think all these 'screens' are partially responsible for the apparent demise of reading in bed - which is such a shame.

TVs in rooms are not conducive to healthy sleep patterns - the blue light interferes with our circadian rhythms.

flowery Mon 09-Sep-13 10:10:08

My 6yo wanting something isn't good enough reason for me to get it him. I first consider whether it's a good idea, what the implications might be, and then decide.

Clearly the OPs DD wanting one isn't quite good enough reason for her to just go ahead and get it for her, otherwise the OP wouldn't be posting asking if it were too young. She obviously thinks it might be, which is why I'm asking why she thinks it might be a good idea to go ahead despite these concerns.

I'm just not sure what is achieved in a positive sense by putting a telly in a small child's room. Teenagers I can certainly see the sense, especially where there is no capacity for putting two downstairs - they stay up later and the whole watching different things issue comes into play.

Well at nearly 4 I have control over his telly. He knows how to put the DVD in but that's it. He isn't going to be up til early hours watching it. It doesn't affect his behaviour or keep him up. So I don't see it as an issue.

He likes to watch a film on a night and prefer to not watch the same film every night like he does. Its a win win for us both.

PlotTwist Mon 09-Sep-13 10:34:48

My kids still read in bed. Mainly because that is allowed after bedtime and the tv isn't. If they ask me why, it's simple; because reading makes you sleepy and tv wakes you up. So that's the done thing in this house, if you can't sleep, read. Not tired? Read. Before they were independant readers, they were allowed to draw.

MaryPoppinsBag Mon 09-Sep-13 10:58:55

We've just moved and now have a spare room which has become a playroom for my two (7&4) to escape to when I'm childminding.
We have put SKY multi room in there. And it's great if I'm honest, so the one in the lounge isn't on all day long. Its mainly the big one though who watches it as he like the Formula 1 channel and DAVE!
They've never needed one in their rooms as in the old house we had one in The conservatory.

Mine have always watched kids tv before bed with their milkshake and biscuits.

mummylushes Mon 09-Sep-13 12:31:28

get her a tv with freeview. the childrens channels on freeview end at 7 so would not interrupt bedtime. My boys share a room have tv and dvd player. doesnt recieve any channels as need a digital aerial upgrade. So they watch sky in my room or downstairs. They never argue when I say times up all things off.

TV wont be a harm at all

matana Mon 09-Sep-13 12:57:28

I wouldn't do it at 5 and probably never. Not having a tv in my room probably encouraged me to read and listen to music more. If I wanted to watch tv I sat with my parents or sisters, though admittedly we had a study which contained a tv so we could watch different programmes when we became teenagers.

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 13:01:24

I don't like the assumption that if they don't read if they have a TV in their room. They use it to watch specific programmes, they don't put it on if there's nothing to watch. confused

My two manage to read as well as have a TV in their room. Imagine!

And as for not conducive to sleep, i am always falling asleep in front of the TV. blush

Really?! How do they manage that sparkling grin

my son watches it for an hour or so in bed. It suits us both. I had a TV in my room when I was younger and still managed to read. It even had VHS built in grin

I am anti screens of any sort in bedrooms, at any age

Lostinspace1 Mon 09-Sep-13 14:05:35

We only had one TV in the sitting room when I was young and it meant the family would be together and talk. Seems weird to think of everyone peeling off into their own separate rooms to spend time watching 99% bollocks TV.

BlackMogul Mon 09-Sep-13 14:07:48

It really depends on whether you wan her to be alone in her room at 5. What input will you be having in her life if she is stuck in her room with a television? I would say do not do it and watch tv with her so you enjoy it together. Controls are best used by a parent, manually, in the same room. Why would you expect her to be in her room so much?

BookWorm37 Mon 09-Sep-13 14:31:28

My DC are 8 and 10 and have never had a tv in their room. I made the decision not to ever have one in there and as a result they are avid readers and love to read before sleeping, they are also able to naturally fall asleep (ie without watching tv). It is also easier to monitor the appropriateness of what they are watching on tv by only having one in the lounge. Even the usual kids channels can have programmes which may have aspects you disapprove of or need talking through as you watch as a family.
Think carefully because once you get one there's no going back.

chocoluvva Mon 09-Sep-13 15:13:22

Sparklingbrook - I know what you mean about falling asleep in front of the tv!

Apparently the nature of the 'blue' light emitted by tvs, computer screens etc interferes with the production of melatonin, the hormone which makes you feel sleepy. Teenagers begin to produce this hormone later and later in the day which is one of the reasons they often don't go to sleep until it's very late. Melatonin is produced in response to absence of day light. Apparently the light from screens acts like natural daylight to keep people awake (not you or me). Teenagers are more affected by it. Apparently.

My DD doesn't read in bed. Sigh. And she doesn't have a tv in her room. I can just imagine her watching rubbish till goodness knows when if she did though......

SanityClause Mon 09-Sep-13 15:13:53

I don't really like televisions in bedrooms, but my DC all now have laptops or tablets, which they can watch things on (which I know is the same thing, really).

A few months ago, I discovered DS (9) watching the iPlayer at about 3 in the morning, so he now has to leave his tablet downstairs at night. It's the issue of lack of sleep that concerns me, not the content, as he usually watches science documentaries and that sort of thing (the geek!).

DownstairsMixUp Mon 09-Sep-13 15:15:54

My lo is four and has a tv but it's just for dvds, it doesn't work on normal telly.

GooseyLoosey Mon 09-Sep-13 15:18:36

No from me. At 9 and 10 I would not allow mine to have tablets in their rooms at night either. I want to try and make as much time for the family as I can and I know that there might come a point if they had TVs in their rooms that they would just disappear.

I don;t think anyone should have a TV in their room, no matter what age. It can really negatively affect sleep and I see no need for it especially if you have a good book

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 16:43:15

I can't work out how my two have grown up so well adjusted in, whatever have I done to them? shock

It has nowt to do with eating into family time. They are mainly in the living room talking over what I want to watch if there's nothing they want to watch in their rooms.

And get this-sometimes we switch the TV off in the living room and have a conversation/play a board game. shock

shock @ Sparkling grin

Having a TV in another room doesn't mean I will leave him in there all day. He has an hour a night.

Strangely enough it doesn't effect his sleep either.

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 17:05:19

Noo SPs all children with TVs in their bedrooms watch it all night every night without fail you are wrong. They are naughty and don't understand 'turn the TV off'. Allegedly. grin

KatoPotato Mon 09-Sep-13 17:15:25

While I was getting ready for work this morning DS was sat on my bed watching tv. I usually put something on Iplayer but noticed bert and ernie was on channel 5 so I left the TV on...

Within five minutes some adverts came on, something about a Cars racing track, but the super fast voice over and quick editing had him almost hypnotised! It was scary!

BookWorm37 Mon 09-Sep-13 17:20:25

Sparkling and SPs why can't you just give your view and experience like everyone else has. Your sarcasm and passive aggressive 'humour' comes across as being defensive. Do you regret letting your DC have tvs in their rooms?

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 17:26:22

Nope Bookworm, it doesn't seem to have made any difference to them. Sorry about being sarky, I am a bit bewildered about it all.

In my experience they have both had a TV in their bedroom for years and it has never ever caused a problem, it really hasn't.

As with everything we all make decisions to suit our families, and that's what we did.

DragonsAreReal Mon 09-Sep-13 17:32:50

Not everybody has a dining room/playroom/study/den(boak)/big enough kitchen for an extra tv in another room thats not a bedroom.

Not everyone on MN is middleclass wanabee upper....

usualsuspect Mon 09-Sep-13 17:34:20

It's,a very MN thing, this no TV thing.

Nearly as bad as the .'I own a million books' thread.

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 17:34:39

Well we haven't got a second room downstairs, if we did we would have the PS3/telly in there-that would be great.

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 17:35:16

or 'crisps in the lunchbox' usual.

usualsuspect Mon 09-Sep-13 17:36:11

Or kids only drinking water or milk.

DragonsAreReal Mon 09-Sep-13 17:36:35

Noo sparkling are you saying you don't cram lentils and chickpeas into lunch boxes shock

BlackMogul Mon 09-Sep-13 17:36:53

I have noticed that children in my extended family who watch a lot of television on their own have a lack of things to talk about. Same goes for video games. They are not naughty, difficult or not good at school work , but they have very limited general knowledge because no one takes them anywhere or shows them anything. It is too easy to sit in front of the telly or play the games on the computer,o r even watch other people who have got good scores on the games. apparently this is possibe. Such a shame when there is so much else to do. Every child needs some down time and enjoyment, but I have noticed that advertising to young children is powerful because children do not have the experience to be discerning. There can be behaviour issues when the child is asked to stop watching/ playing. I also think it s wrong that children are given complete control over what they watch when they are young. Being a parent means being unpopular occasionally.

DragonsAreReal Mon 09-Sep-13 17:40:49

Yes of course children who watch tv never do anything else ever! Their whole poor lives consist of waking up watching tv then going to bed watching tv.... <clutches pearls>

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 17:48:46

Mung bean salad Dragons, every day since Reception. grin

The key words in your post Black are 'a lot'. My DC watch no more TV than anyone else, even though they have them in their room.

Plus, and I know this won't be popular but you can see things on the TV that you would never get to see in real life and learn stuff. It's not all cartoons and Disney channel. DS2 really likes a quiz show, and Perfection is his current favourite.

BookWorm37 Mon 09-Sep-13 17:50:30

Sparkling I agree that we all make decisions to suit our own families. People shouldn't assume though that those that choose not to allow tvs in their children's room are looking down their noses at those that do allow it.

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 17:53:36

Sorry Book, maybe I was feeling a bit like that was the case. I knew I would be in the minority, but got a bit defensive I suppose.

redlac Mon 09-Sep-13 18:01:09

All those saying TVs in bedroom affects good sleep, you do know that they switch off? It's not compulsory to have it switched on all the time. smile

I'm a bit hmm that just because there is a TV in a bedroom it means that it affects sleep and makes your child into a child who doesn't read, can't hold a conversation and that they are locked in there rooms getting square eyes - like everything, everything in moderation and as a parent I am in full control of her viewing habits whether in the living room or when watching Netflix in her room

2kidsintow Mon 09-Sep-13 18:06:38

I'm amused by the way some of the posts seem to infer that the mere act of having a tv in the bedroom ruins sleep quality.

My DDs have tvs in their rooms. They sleep well. Because they aren't allowed to have it on at night. I know some parents allow it (often for an easy ride at bedtime) but I'm not one of those parents. It's what you let your children do with the screens, when and for how long that determines the impact it will have on their sleep/schoolwork etc.

BookWorm37 Mon 09-Sep-13 18:10:38

Sparkling- no worries.
I agree with the previous poster in that it is the amount of time spent watching the tv that is the more important issue rather than where it is watched.
I admit my children watch more tv than I'd ideally like them to.

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 18:14:55

My two went through a phase where they would come in from school, drop kick their bags into the hall and just go to the living room TV and switch it on.

I told them that wasn't acceptable. To just trawl through for something/anything to watch. Only put the TV on if there is something on IYKWIM.

lljkk Mon 09-Sep-13 18:33:46

Honest question: how do you make sure the tv is off at night? Do you check the room frequently, say every 10-20 minutes all night? Is it turned off remotely? There is no way DC wouldn't have it on in middle of night if any opportunity presented itself.

Mind, as a child I used to watch 7+ hours of tv most days, think I wore out my quota coz I generally struggle to watch more than an hour a week in the last 3 decades.

Sparklingbrook Mon 09-Sep-13 18:48:50

I think it depends on your DC lljkk. Once mine are asleep it's like waking the dead so they wouldn't wake up and put the TV on.

But they are of an age they take themselves to bed because they are tired and they want to go to sleep.

But even when they were small they didn't try to watch it all night, I don't think it occurred to them.

lljkk Mon 09-Sep-13 18:59:15

Mine are too devious for own good.

LegoDragon Mon 09-Sep-13 19:17:27

My DC have a TV in their rooms. It's nice for the and gives them down time, and has controls on. At night, when I check on them, I take out the plug thing completely from the TV and keep it in my room, but they're always asleep by then anyway- and it's not late when I check on them! They love the TV and don't watch too much. Spongebob and Dora are their favourites, they love watching some films for their age which we have too. They also read, draw and play. Having a TV means we can watch what we want and is good for me and the same as watching the main TV but we both get to watch what we want.

My don is nearly 4. He has a tv with built in DVD player. He can put a dvd in but he cant use remote.

I know its off as I turn it off when hes asleep. I go to the toilet and check. If hes asleep it goes off and if he isn't it stays on.

Some nights he just goes to bed with no TV as hes that tired. Once hes asleep that's it no waking up and if he should wake he comes and finds me any way.

It doesn't affect his sleep, he doesn't spend all day upstairs. Why would he? There's a perfectly good TV downstairs grin

I also have the TV playing in the back ground. He plays and watches it or we have music channels on. I cant cope with having no back ground noise when we are at home.

2kidsintow Mon 09-Sep-13 20:32:44

My 2 are now 8 and 12. They have never once been caught with the TV on when it shouldn't be. DD playing with her mobile phone was another matter

DH has the strategy that if they are using something when they shouldn't be, it goes in the loft for a week. smile

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