4 y o DS has 'fallen into love' with me and wants to marry me...

(29 Posts)
bearhug Wed 15-May-13 12:07:59

I think all little boys do this for a while, don't they? I've been trying to talk him out of it, explaining that when he is bigger he will probaby find someone special nearer his own age etc, but I don;t think he is listening! Should I just say 'Yes Dear' and move on instead?

rubyslippers Wed 15-May-13 12:09:02

it's totally normal and natural

my DS is so over wanting to marry me now

grabaspoon Wed 15-May-13 12:09:18

I am a nanny and my charge has said this for a while to me and to mum, we just explain we're going to be very old when he's ready to marry,and tend to leave it at that.

Aww I think it's sweet!

GoblinGranny Wed 15-May-13 12:10:47

I feel neglected, my DS never wanted to marry me.
He said he was going to be a cat man and live with lots and lots of cats. grin

CheesyPoofs Wed 15-May-13 12:11:39

My 5 year old DD wanted to marry me, but now she's dumped me for her best friend sad

BrainSurgeon Wed 15-May-13 12:12:55

Ha ha sounds very familiar smile
DS is 4y9m and at the moment is declaring his love for me all the time. I get "I love you mummy" followed by lots of kisses a few times a day, sometimes in public - it's a bit embarrassing!
I am sure it's just a phase....

grin Goblin

mamalovebird Wed 15-May-13 12:18:48

I've heard this is coming and think it's really sweet but currently my 3.6 ds is going to marry Maisie from his nursery when he's bigger.... when he's not saving the day, putting out all the fires and contacting bob the builder to fix all manner of problems smile

Plinkityplonk Wed 15-May-13 13:21:45

My 3yr6m old hasn't said he wants to marry me but he often says I'm his "true love" & he kisses & cuddles all the time- I love it! He's just gorgeous and I will relish every second for as long as it lasts!

MegBusset Wed 15-May-13 13:27:12

Aw

My 4yo wants to marry me, and his grandad smile

MegBusset Wed 15-May-13 13:28:19

My 6yo OTOH is never going to marry anyone because "then you have to kiss them and that's disgusting" grin

LurcioLovesFrankie Wed 15-May-13 13:50:57

My 4 (now 5) year old DS came up with plans for an interesting polygamous union involving me, Scooby Doo and a Viennese tram. The cat has now been added to the list.

OutragedFromLeeds Wed 15-May-13 13:54:29

DC1 wants to marry her Daddy.

When I said he's already married to mummy she said 'well Mummy will have to find someone else' hmm

GuffSmuggler Wed 15-May-13 13:56:51

Awwww!

When I was single my DN said I could marry her daddy (my DB!) confused

matana Wed 15-May-13 14:16:27

Apparently it's really common and entirely developmentally normal for children that age to become a bit fixated with the parent of the opposite sex. I would favour acknowledging how sweet it is that he loves you and move on using some kind of distraction. Make the most of it, it's so wonderful being the centre of their universe and all too soon it is gone.

mrsmalcolmreynolds Wed 15-May-13 17:08:00

Never mind the opposite sex, my Dd (3.6) used to regularly say she would marry me when she was grown up. I just said that was a lovely idea but that you can't get marriedto someone who is already in your family - getting married means a new person joins your family. So now we have various kids from her nursery class (gender apparently unimportant, which is fine grin) who are rotated as the chosen one...

RealityQuake Wed 15-May-13 17:23:57

My kids have never done it with DH or I but have with each other. We just talked about different kinds of love, family love, friend love, romantic partner love, and how nice each one is, each one is different, and how nice their family love is.

yousankmybattleship Wed 15-May-13 17:27:53

My Ds wanted to marry me when he was four, then at five he changed his mind and was going to marry his best friend Steven. Now at six he's not going to marry anyone! So fickle!

My 2 youngest dcs both wanted to marry me at about this age. Ds2 is 4 and still does. Dd is 9 and now realises she doesn't want to and that she can't. She figured it out at about 5.

Enjoy it is what I say. It won't last. Get the extra cuddles in while you can. smile

lljkk Wed 15-May-13 18:39:32

Awww, that's so sweet. Enjoy while it lasts. DS & DD were going to wed each other (age 5 & 3 respectively).

Now age 13 & 11, they spit nails at each other given half a chance.

Tailtwister Wed 15-May-13 19:03:52

Yes, I've had that too! DS1 (5) often says he wants to marry me and he's going to be a famous artist, buy a big house for us and invite interesting people for lunch. Sounds quite nice actually!

lola88 Wed 15-May-13 21:49:01

my little neice is going to marry her granddad and Harry from one direction (urg) and have the other 4 one direction boys as boyfriends and maybe keep her boyfriend she has at school if he grows up tall like her uncle (my dp)... she's just turned 6

I think she maybe a little ambitious but normal smile

Jenny70 Wed 15-May-13 21:57:35

My DS is 5.5 and desperately wants to marry me... I tell him I will choose him a lively wife to join our family, LOL. He agreed to this, then whispering "I'll tell her I love her, but secretly I will only live you" ... makes me best MIL material!

runningforme Wed 15-May-13 22:03:58

I remember thinking I'd marry my dad.....I think it's sweet smile

bearhug Thu 16-May-13 12:20:24

Thanks for your lovely stories! I will enjoy it while it lasts. Funny though, he's shown a definite preference for leggy brunettes, so I am really not his type hmm

Snowfedup Fri 17-May-13 13:39:15

Am so relieved to see this thread I was worried I was bringing up a little Norman bates (psycho) my ds 5 constantly tells me he wants to marry me and live with me forever and never leave home ! Also slightly worryingly often talks with pleasure about some unknown time in the future when daddy will go away and leave us both in peace ?

MyBaby1day Sat 18-May-13 06:20:15

Aawwww, some of these stories are too cute! smile. As long as they grow out of it then there's not really a big problem I don't reckon. I wanted to marry my puppet-CLIFFORD!......we're still close but I love him as my Brother now.

Doedeer Mon 24-Jun-13 11:19:20

I was going to marry my dog, I even bet my parents £20 that he'd still be my boyfriend when I was 16.

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