Boy (6) and girl (3) sharing bedroom!

(35 Posts)
SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 08:19:22

My two share a room still as we have a 2 bedroom house. I'd like 3 bedrooms & a garden at some point but we like this house. We know the landlords, it's really warm in the winter w bath & proper fire and most rooms newly redecorated.
Just wondering if any of you have older boy and younger girl sharing and if you've seen any problems arise so I know what to look out for!
Apart from seeing each other naked (shock! horror!) and a couple of minor things, (I remember sitting on my little sisters face with no pants on- nothing that drastic lol) I don't see any reason why they can't share for a couple of years yet in theory!
Guidelines say when older boy 7 he needs his own room. Any experience of this anyone?
They get on very well (mostly!) and are close. My son says he doesn't want his own room...

CaptainKirksNipples Sat 20-Apr-13 08:24:01

hmm

AvrilPoisson Sat 20-Apr-13 08:30:23

I believe guidelines for social housing say children of differing genders have to share until aged 10.
My 2 share and they're 4 and 7, it's fine, though they've no choice as we've only 2 bedrooms.

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 08:39:23

I heard that social housing guidelines dictates that separate rooms needed when older boy is 7. Maybe if girl is older, then it's 10?

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 08:39:52

CaptainKirk'sNipples
Why the sad face?

AvrilPoisson Sat 20-Apr-13 09:16:23

erm, why would it be different for each gender? hmm
If it were different it would be the other way round, as girls generally enter puberty first, usually 3 years before boys.

ImpatientOne Sat 20-Apr-13 09:19:28

Social housing criteria is definitely age 10 for different gender, doesn't make any difference whether the oldest child is a boy or girl.

AThingInYourLife Sat 20-Apr-13 09:25:13

When I was a child I shared a room with my younger brother.

When he was around 6 he wanted to start collecting something. My parents wouldn't facilitate collections of plastic tat, so in the end he went for a "collection" of his own urine in an old potty.

You could look out for that kind of thing grin

The day I found it (and the explanation for the recent stinkiness in the room) was the day I decided I didn't want to share with him anymore.

MinnieBar Sat 20-Apr-13 09:35:51

DS (6) shares a room and (shock, horror!) a bath with his sisters age 4 and 2.

They all love it and none want to move out. In fact we threaten them with sleeping alone when they're being naughty wink

sarahtigh Sat 20-Apr-13 12:44:34

although social housing guidelines are 10 that does not mean you would be guaranteed 3 bedroom just that you could justifiably go on waiting list for 3 bed but some have been on overcrowded list for years, so often people have to manage beyond 10 but you have at least 4 years to make decisions

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 14:20:20

Well I thought that it would be more of a problem with the boy being older.
I did hear one pretty horrific (true) story about an older brother sexually assaulting his younger sister. It was an account of the younger sister that I heard, many years after the (regular) assault. Now I'm not saying that's gonna happen Im just saying that this is more of a risk when the boy is the older one.

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 14:23:01

Ps I'm not on social housing. Just renting & curious as to when I'll realistically need to move

I think you need to think about how you are parenting these children tbh. You seem obsessed with incest.

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 14:25:00

!!!
You're funny
!!!

Doodledumdums Sat 20-Apr-13 14:32:11

This is the other way around, but a friend of mine at school lived in a tiny cottage, so she shared a room with her brother until she was 15 and he was 10. They had bunk beds and the top half of the room was decorated all pink and girly, and the bottom half was boyish and blue. It worked well and they got on well and never had issues.

Smithsgirl88 Sat 20-Apr-13 14:33:48

Me and brother shared a room up until I was 13, him being 5 years younger, so he was 8. There was never any problems that I can think of. It may have helped that I was a tomboy so didn't feel like his boy stuff was overtaking my girly stuff, or vice versa. What we found though was that we would constantly arguing about the tv, games consoles etc...And who could have free reign over it.

I'm due with a girl in July, and have a 2 year old boy. As my partner has kids from a previous relationship and has them over every weekend that means one room is occupied, so the other one will be for my son and daughter. I have no qualms with them sharing, and when they get to that age where they really should be in separate rooms, my partners kids will be all grown up as they're a bit older so will have the other room back by then.

I think the guideline should be when they're BOTH in secondary school then they're really should have their own space.

AnyFucker Sat 20-Apr-13 14:36:10

This is the latest bandwagon to jump on for the hard of thinking then, is it ?

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 14:37:07

Yeah my kids room is all non-gender colours. Red, yellow, green and a colourful striped carpet. Most of their toys are non gender too and they're the best of friends.
I suppose they'll let me know when they're sick of sharing. My son says he doesn't want his own room. My daughter says she does- lol!

Smithsgirl88 Sat 20-Apr-13 14:41:04

And I don't think an older brother thinking of molesting his younger sister is going to reconsider if they're in separate rooms. If he has those tendencies then nothings really going to stop him is it.

MousyMouse Sat 20-Apr-13 14:42:13

they will be fine for a while still.
my dc (same ages as yours) share a bedroom, the other room is used as a playroom. atm they still play with the same toys and go to bed roughly at the same time so it works well for us. we plan to have them in separate bedrooms in a couple of years time.

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 14:46:51

Lol!!!
You're probably right. Anyway the story I heard was one where they slept in the same bed. In the old days. Like I said Im not worried about that particularly. My son is amazing and loves his sister.
So as far as most ppl on this thread are concerned, I've got nothing to worry about for a few years yet it seems!

What are non-gender colours? I'm stumped.

I have a 10yo DD and a nearly 7yo DS sharing. It will be for a Long Time. Should I be looking at social housing so they can have separate rooms? How do I get one of those then?

Oh and my 13yo DD shared âshower with him the other day. Should I be worried?

Ooh, fancy 'a' up there. I have no idea where that came from.

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 14:49:20

Well girls rooms are often pink & purple and boys rooms blue. My kids room has no pink, purple OR blue in it lol.

noisytoys Sat 20-Apr-13 14:49:51

I think children having separate rooms is a fairly common concept. They shouldn't come to any harm sharing a room. It will probably help them bond. There may come a time where it's not appropriate, but you could always reconsider then. There's no point leaving a house you are otherwise happy with for a non-issue

noisytoys Sat 20-Apr-13 14:50:25

Modern not common silly auto correct

SingleMama Sat 20-Apr-13 14:56:00

Yeah I think it's a luxury to have your own room as a child. I hate the idea of moving house! We all love this house :-) Even though there isn't a garden, we're close to lovely parks and the river

SomethingHappened Sat 20-Apr-13 14:58:29

My two are 9 (DS) and 6 (DD) and they have always shared and unless we ever manage to get a bigger house will continue to do so. They get on well most of the time and although I'd like them to have more space, this is just the way it is at the moment.I'm in Italy and most people live in small flats and it is absolutely usual for brothers and sisters to share. My Dh shared with his sister until he left home at 18.

MummyPig24 Sat 20-Apr-13 18:39:58

My 5 yo boy and 3yo girl share and they love it. Sometimes bicker at bedtimes but generally it's fine.

MummyPig24 Sat 20-Apr-13 18:43:20

Their room has cream walls, green spotty curtains and green lamp, neutr furniture and their own teddies on their beds. It's how it's always been so they don't mind.

Midlifecrisisarefun Sat 20-Apr-13 20:45:10

My mother, brother and I lived with grandparents until I was 17..I shared a room with my mother!

my two shared a room till my ds was 10 and dd 8, the only reason they got thier own rooms was i split up with thier dad and made the lounge my bedroom, they were fine sharing, and btw social housing does not say they cant share a room from the age i 10 beleive me i live in a council house we are never going to get moved..

my two shared a room till my ds was 10 and dd 8, the only reason they got thier own rooms was i split up with thier dad and made the lounge my bedroom, they were fine sharing, and btw social housing does not say they cant share a room from the age i 10 beleive me i live in a council house we are never going to get moved..

ProphetOfDoom Sat 20-Apr-13 21:17:54

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Squiglettsmummy2bx Sat 20-Apr-13 21:25:54

My dd is 10, DS's are 7 & 1. We are in social housing with 2 bedrooms& I can't see that changing anytime soon. I have decorated the bigger bedroom red & blue & this is my sons room but it has bunk beds in it & dd10 & DS 7 both sleep in there. The smaller room is pink & has all Dds stuff in it but a double bed where I co-sleep with DS. When he stops bf/sleeps through the night he will go in with DS 7, I will buy a single bed for dd & I get the sofa in the living room.

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