Managing newborn nights with one parent at work - what do you do?

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GraceSpeaker Mon 04-Feb-13 20:03:37

As it says on the tin, really. DH is back at work tomorrow and I'm dreading dealing with all night feeds/changes/settling on my own. I'm expecting to be a complete wreck during the week (at the moment DD is feeding every hour and a half and takes an hour to settle back down at least). I understand this is part and parcel of having a newborn (nearly 3 weeks old), but would appreciate it if you could describe how you manage things during the week. Do you still manage to share to some extent? Or does the non-worker do everything?

TIA

Pascha Mon 04-Feb-13 20:08:21

DH does 9-1am downstairs with a few oz milk on standby while I have a bath and get some off-duty sleep. I'm on duty for the rest of the night. Sometimes I manage to stay in bed and feed every couple of hours, sometimes I have to go downstairs with him to settle. He seems to be wakey and fidgety between 2-3am(ish).

Duritzfan Mon 04-Feb-13 20:15:18

We did similar to Pascha - me upto bed 8-12, then me on duty after that - I napped in the day when baby did and tried to catch up on tv (sky plus lots of good stuff ) - somehow it feels easier being up if you are enjoying a programme ..
It worked well for us - we both stayed sane - oh and weekends were one lie in each
Time flies - enjoy your little one - x

Duritzfan Mon 04-Feb-13 20:16:12

We did similar to Pascha - me upto bed 8-12, then me on duty after that - I napped in the day when baby did and tried to catch up on tv (sky plus lots of good stuff ) - somehow it feels easier being up if you are enjoying a programme ..
It worked well for us - we both stayed sane - oh and weekends were one lie in each
Time flies - enjoy your little one - x

Chesterado Mon 04-Feb-13 20:17:25

Depends how you are feeding? Dd was ebf and a bottle refuser so I did all of it. Went to bed at 8 and handed dd over to dh circa 5am (he went to bed at 10.

It was bloody hard, plan for this time and what has worked well for friends is to get baby to take a bottle from dh for a dream feed at ten. He then sleeps until five or six and I go to bed early and deal with the middle of the nights. If we crack the bottle for dreamfeeds at least I will know I can get some respite at weekends! Good luck!

MrsRogerSterling Mon 04-Feb-13 20:19:00

I did all the nights during the week as dh worked away or had 14 hours days. Fri or Sat I slept in the spare room and dh did the whole night, was bliss to be able to go to bed amd know I would not have to get up until the morning.

AbbyCat Mon 04-Feb-13 20:19:58

Are you breastfeeding? If so then co sleep and feed lying down. If you feed at the first signs of hunger then they wont even wake and will feed in their sleep, and you dont have a crying baby to settle. You can even wind them while youre lying down! It's the only way I stayed sane. I minimized night time nappy changes to poo nappies only. My DH did hardly any night time care for both DS and DD, and we coped!

Yama Mon 04-Feb-13 20:20:08

Well, I have a bad back so the deal was that dh would take out of moses basket (later cot), I would feed and dh would put back.

Dh managed and he never moaned.

ReallyTired Mon 04-Feb-13 20:22:29

I found it helped to share a room with the baby and have the cot as close to the bed as possible. Only change the nappy if the baby has actually pooed. I choose to breastfeed. I imagine that if you choose to formula feed then it helps to have the powder and the milk you need to make up the feed in your room at arms reach.

It gets more interesting managing sleepless nights when you have a second child and no option of taking an afternoon nap.

EverybodysSnowyEyed Mon 04-Feb-13 20:23:19

i did all nights and slept when baby slept - day and night. This is what made the most difference - don't feel you have to be awake and doing stuff when baby sleeps!

once you get into it you can get it done much faster. I also kept changes down to a minimum

baby in bed next to mine, up and feed with lights dimmed, no interaction just cuddles, straight back to bed. Didn't always work!

On weekends DH would let me have a lie in and would stay up a bit later and do the last feeds

This was wonderful with our first. When you have a toddler during the day it throws everything up in the air!

tuttavia Mon 04-Feb-13 20:23:27

Congratulations!

Are you breastfeeding or bottle-feeding?

I BF, and found that I was doing all the nights on my own, really. There didn't seem to be any point in DH being awake, too, when there was little he could do. OK, he could help with resettling, but DS would settle much more quickly with me. Seemed pointless to have two of us sleep-deprived and ratty when only one of us needed to be (although it also felt horribly unfair at the time and we had lots of arguments about it).

At first I would wake DH and he would do nappy-changes, but, as I said, that way of doing things felt a bit pointless, since I wouldn't sleep during the change, and I would end up having to resettle DS anyway.

Don't worry - this time flies by, although it doesn't feel like that when you're in it! I dealt with it by trying to see the night feeds as quiet and lovely times for me and my baby to hang out together whilst everyone else slept. (I also watched lots of box-sets, for when the loveliness felt distant . . . )

GraceSpeaker Mon 04-Feb-13 20:24:29

Thanks for the ideas so far. We're combination feeding, so DH can help!

tuttavia Mon 04-Feb-13 20:25:19

Oh, and if you are breastfeeding then I second the idea of co-sleeping and lying down.

We co-slept from the beginning, but it took me about ten weeks to get the knack of/confidence for feeding lying down. Made a lot of difference when we did it, though, as I could sort of doze whilst feeding.

EverybodysSnowyEyed Mon 04-Feb-13 20:26:42

The mums I know who suffered the most in the first couple of months were the ones who tried to be supermum during the day and thought sleeping during the day made them look like bad mothers!

pixi2 Mon 04-Feb-13 20:27:48

Sorry, no great advice. But you will get through it. I ebf. Instant hot chocolate helped with night feeds. I think I got addicted to chocolate ovaltine.

ReallyTired Mon 04-Feb-13 20:30:29

Co sleeping carries the risk of cot death. i think its best for the baby to have their own sleep space, but within arms reach.

Babies do get more civilised and wake less in the night.

Don't make the mistake of allowing your baby to sleep on the breast or the bottle or a dummy. Otherwise you set up difficult sleep association. I found it better to cuddle the baby until she/he was dozy and let them fall asleep in the moses basket. That way the baby is semi asleep and will settle itself without screaming the house down.

AliceWChild Mon 04-Feb-13 20:30:43

I do it all but we bed share so it only consists of popping a boob in and going back to sleep. Partner has him whilst getting ready for work so I stretch out in the bed luxuriating in the space for a hour.

AliceWChild Mon 04-Feb-13 20:32:21

Not cosleeping also carries a risk of cot death. The Isis website (sorry can't link, but google will find it) gives evidence based information on that.

GraceSpeaker Mon 04-Feb-13 20:32:26

I struggle to nap productively during the day - too tuned in to baby sounds! Really need to get better at that. DD sleeps in her cot up against the bed, because I'm not really happy with co-sleeping. Might get more confident as she gets bigger...

ThreeWheelsGood Mon 04-Feb-13 23:58:22

It does get easier, we're at 3.5 months and the stretches of sleep are much longer. It depends how you both manage on little sleep, and how good you both are at drifting back off. I've always been a bad sleeper sadly, but DP can sleep at drop of a hat, so he does dirty nappies overnight (only fair as breastfeeding means sitting up for an hour at a time!).

lagoonhaze Tue 05-Feb-13 00:02:15

Co sleeping was my saviour. Fashioned a side car arrangement too.

Lawabidingmama Tue 05-Feb-13 03:53:21

Another one here with a bottle refuser so I did it all and u have an energetic 2 year old! DD eventually took a bottle at 7 mo but still won't let dad settle her at night ( hence why I'm on here at this hour!) she's nearly 11 month now and I'm not breastfeeding but still up twice a night (on a good night) and I started back to work last week....... My saviour was getting an afternoon nap thankfully my older DD still has one!

Tolly81 Tue 05-Feb-13 04:21:59

My baby wouldn't co-sleep - she was in a bedside crib and whenever I had her actually in bed with me she found it really stimulating and wouldnt settle, and now she just giggles and pulls our hair if we ever try (she's now 9m). I don't have anything against it, just that not all babies will do it!
I breastfed dd and she would cluster feed 9-1am so there was never any point dh taking her then. She'd usually then sleep for a few hrs till about 5, and dh was happy to take her from 5 (after I had given her another feed) until he went to work at 8 (he obviously didn't stay up while I was feeding her, he went to bed about 10 then could get a good stretch). This worked really well most of the time, and her cluster feeding period gradually moved earlier as she got older. I was always crap at sleeping during the day but this way I could get 6-7 hrs in 2 batches which was ok for me (on a good night, obviously occassionally she didn't oblige by sleeping all of my shift!). If she clusters in the evening it might be better to do it that way round but just take cues from her as to when she's more in need of you iykwim. Good luck!

FernandoIsFaster Tue 05-Feb-13 04:36:58

I did everything at night, to the point of dp sleeping in a separate room! He has a long motorway commute so I wanted him to be rested and to be honest I'm lucky in that I don't need much sleep to function so it wasn't too bad.

I also used to nap with dd in the afternoon on the bed. I didn't co-sleep at night because I was worried about getting into a deep sleep but found it great for daytime naps.

Congratulations btw!

Polyethyl Tue 05-Feb-13 04:54:02

My 6 day old has not yet slept tonight.
I'm in a quiet dark room. I'm not offering her stimulation. Just feeding changing and winding..... and loosing my sanity.
She's perfectly reasonable during the day, sleeping in her Moses basket after feeds..... but at night she screams the moment I try to put her down, totally rejecting the basket. I'm not keen to co-sleep, having been to a friend's cot death funeral. And she is demanding feed after feed after feed.... even though she cannot be hungry after such a short gap from the last feed.
I'm going spare from sleep deprivation.
Any suggestions?

AndFanjoWasHisNameO Tue 05-Feb-13 04:59:34

hmm BF'd the last two and did it all. DH has a job that requires him to not be too tired as it can be dangerous for others if he's not on the ball. Pregnant again and getting ready to seethe with resentment accept this, although he will help at weekends with expressed milk.
Have bought a co sleeper cot and taken all the good advice about winding lying down etc.

AndFanjoWasHisNameO Tue 05-Feb-13 05:07:42

Oh Poly hmm firstly congratulations! The first bit is bloody hideous-even your hair hurts. Have you tried co sleeper cot? Mine both settled fine on me but hated being put down in the basket. As log as I had hold of their hands or they could feel my breath they were ok. When I had to put them down, I warmed the mattress with a hot water bottle first and stretched a tshirt I'd worn over the mattress so they would think it was me. Also got a sleep positioner thingy with a heartbeat pulser in for the last o e which helped. Ultimately it doesn't last long-promise!
Rope everyone in to come round and help out. Nap like you've never napped before wink really, get it out your head that you need a set number of hours in one go, instead focus on the 'feeding AGAIN so will surely make it tired for an hour or so' take care x

RunningOutOfIdeas Tue 05-Feb-13 05:14:49

I bf for the first 3 months so did it all. Still usually do all.

Polyethyl sorry you're having a tough night. Hopefully it is only one night like this. I started giving DD2 a dummy at about 6 days because she was using me as the dummy. Have you tried warming the cot with a hot water bottle or microwave thingy, then taking it out just before putting your baby in?

Polyethyl Tue 05-Feb-13 05:18:48

I shall try the hot water bottle idea. Thank you. My husband can calm her, either because he's naturally good at calming, or perhaps because he isn't dripping milk! And so setting her off with the smell... but it's important he sleeps tonight, so we're in separate rooms tonight.

Fairylea Tue 05-Feb-13 06:04:20

I did everything at night during the week as dh works 60 hours a week at the moment.

At the weekend's when ds was very little dh would get up with him so I could sleep.

issimma Tue 05-Feb-13 06:08:47

Dc1 was bottle fed, so I did sun- thurs, and DH the weekends. She usually fed 2x in the night.
Dc2 is bf and co sleeps, so just chomps away as and when.
Only change nappies if it's a poo (from about 6 weeks).

Polyethyl Tue 05-Feb-13 06:26:48

Should I encourage wakefulness during the daytime, in the hope she might sleep at night?

GTbaby Tue 05-Feb-13 06:47:59

My tips. Take ignore as you need. And sry if it's repetitive. I haven't read all the thread.

DH doesn't work 24/7. So neither should you. It's ok for you to ask him to help!

You mentioned LO sleeps in cot. Personally I would stick with this. DH and I were discouraged from many mummy friends who are currently struggling to get their LO in to their cot.

Get a slow cooker. Lol. I don't have one. But everyone on here raves about it.

Get DH to give last feed of evening. I.e. you give 9pm feed. And go to bed. Ask DH to give midnight feed. And then you do the rest of the night feeds. Obviously adjust timings according to your LO and DH bed time. Prob with this was I felt I was spending any time with DH. However I think it's worth it until your used to your routine.

LO has a nap at 12 every day at noon. I use this time to do chores. However at first use this time to catch up on sleep/rest/eat/watch trashy tv. I did this for 6 weeks!

(If you feel you must do house work) For those 6weeks I used LO short naps, 10min here n there , to do chores. You will be surprised how much You can do 10 min.

Take up offers of help. Take a shower when you have visitors. Get them to so washing. Although I wasn't comfortable asking all guests to do chores so often have them LO to hold while I went off and did a 10min Blitz on kitchen.

Most of all. Enjoy your LO. At 14weeks old I can't believe how quickly time flies! Congrats

GTbaby Tue 05-Feb-13 06:53:59

Poly. I found LO slept 4hours during day then wanted feeding. But at night would last 2-3 hours.
I changed this by waking LO and feeding more frequently during day.
I found instantly he woke less at night. Obviously every child and mother are different.
Also my LO won't stay awake for anything if he is tiered. So hard to keep awake. But keep night time dark. Quite. Calm. And during day bright. Lots of sun light.

Also another tip. Go for walks. Even 5min around block. You will feel better for it. I should really try and follow his one myself!

GTbaby Tue 05-Feb-13 07:01:17

Just reading back. Hope you got some sleep.

LO may just be feeding for comfort. I know not all agree with it. But consider using a dummy. My philosophy is "if it makes your life easier do it".

Also another tip I give on MN. Is join your post natal group. That way you have mums with same age babies to talk to. My post natal group has been an enormous help to me.

BeaWheesht Tue 05-Feb-13 07:28:19

Dd was 11 weeks when dh started nights (and ds was just 4) - tbh dh used to come home about 6am and give ds his brekkie and stay with kids til 9ish when I got up. He'd then get up for the 'day' at about 230pm and sometimes I'd have a kip then.

Polyethyl Tue 05-Feb-13 08:44:37

Thank you. She is now asleep.... Now that the sun's risen! So asleep that the postman's ringing the doorbell didn't disturb her.
Whereas I'm wrecked.

MaMaPo Tue 05-Feb-13 08:51:34

Poly, the best advice I can give you is - roll with it. I had a few nights like yours when my now 9-week old was younger, an they are exhausting! I did as you, asked around for advice, and then managed to tie myself up in knots trying to follow it and being frustrated (and feeling a bit guilty) when it just didn't work! The mantras 'yes, she can be hungry again - she is growing!' And 'just roll with it - fighting doesn't help' really gets me through the tough nights (of which there are many fewer). Your baby is tiny and you pretty much have to follow her lead. You're doing brilliantly. Go and put a sign on your doorbell saying 'baby asleep! Do not ring this doorbell on pain of death!' and then nap with your little one.

OP, my husband gives a bottle of ebm around midnight and I do the wakings after that - usually 2 at the moment. The few times i do all 3 it feels significantly harder.

honeytea Tue 05-Feb-13 09:30:20

My dp went back to work when ds was 4 weeks. I actually found it easier doing it all by myself, I think with me and dp both being awake and talking and turning the light on ds woke up more fully when he woke in the night.

I leave the bedroom door open with the landing light on so I don't need to turn any lights on to feed ds, we have a sidecar cot so I just have to lift ds out not actually get up.

Ds slept in a swaddle blanket when he was tiny, at 5 weeks we put him in a baby sleepingbag, I feed him in the sleepingbag/swaddle blanket so I don't have to put him under cold blankets.

He is 7 weeks now and he wakes 1-2 times a night for a quick feed, the other night he slept 10-2 and then was up I felt broken even though in the early days a 4 hour stretch would have been a good night's sleep, yiu do forget those early days fast.

My dp sleeps in the bed with us but with earplugs in so we still get some sleepy cosy couple time.

Weekends dp gets up with ds in the morning so I get a lie in and just beings ds in for feeds.

And coffee lots of coffee!

sparklekitty Tue 05-Feb-13 10:26:04

My DH works weird shifts and I ebf so I always do nights. As a newborn I kind of just accepted that it would be horrendous. Spent a lot of time on the sofa watching late night TV.

We also co-sleep/have a bedside crib so although at 4 mo my DD still feeds every 2 hours I don't get out of bed 8-8, feed laying down and snooze through. I am slightly dreading her going into her own room.

Its a tough time but gets better quickly

GraceSpeaker Tue 05-Feb-13 11:48:10

Thanks for all your tips. Last night was actually DD's best night ever. She slept through pretty much from 11.20-4.30, then had a feed for half an hour and went back to sleep (on and off) until 7 or so. We didn't actually get up until nearly 8. We didn't do anything differently and I was poised at half three to take her downstairs, long past when she's normally up, but she settled back down. DH got about 7 hours solid sleep. smile

Naturally, she's been sick all over her moses basket and weed all over her changing mat since she's been up! Typical!

DD sleeps in blankets at the moment (cellular + a woolly one). We tried her in a sleeping bag once (she's theoretically big enough for one), but didn't have a great night. honeytea, you said you put your LO in a sleeping bag at 5 weeks - when did everyone else do it (if at all)?

Desperately seeking the ideal sleep solution... it must exist, even though no one's discovered it yet!

honeytea Tue 05-Feb-13 11:51:46

My ds is a chunk he was about 13 pounds at 5 weeks for a smaller normal sized baby 5 weeks might be too early. The swaddle blankets worked great we only stoped because ds was ill with a temperate and they ate not supposed to be used when the baby has a high temperature.

honeytea Tue 05-Feb-13 11:53:14

Oh and hooray for a good sleep last night! I hope it is the first of many for you smile

ChampyandtheWonderHorse Tue 05-Feb-13 11:56:53

Lowering expectations works for me. I'm on my own and I co sleep, but however zen about it you are, you'll still be wrecked in the morning.

However, it is gradually getting a bit better at 4-5 weeks. I manage in the days by trying to walk rather than drive, (safer) and by keeping visitors/social activities to a minimum. Get older children to help with little things as well, if you have any.

This stage passes so soon and I am relishing having this little chap with me - it is a very precious time. Don't wish it away smile

Lafaminute Tue 05-Feb-13 12:00:08

I always did it all myself - and resented dh a lot of the time but he did have to get up for work and give 100% all day whereas I could slob around (not that I think I did all that much) at home. SIL made my brother do half of everything (and he started a new job a few days after one of the babies was born) which I (very quietly!) didn't think was fair but each to their own. I was bf'ing so I could have handed the baby over for winding but dh is so lazy he'd have chucked the baby back in the cot w/out winding and I'd have known and been terrified of them choking!! Hmmmm, maybe I'm too controlling!! Tbh I had 2 babies and bf them both, if I had a third I don't think I would bf as I found those nights too long and lonely and I'd've loved to have been able to hand some responsibility over to dh even if it was just weekend nights.

Lafaminute Tue 05-Feb-13 12:01:44

...and a sleeping bag once they were out of the moses basket and in a cot (3 or 6 months - can't remember....3 months??)

honeytea Tue 05-Feb-13 12:08:22

Oh and winding, my mum told me I didn't need to wind a breastfed baby (not sure how much truth there is in that) so I don't wind ds I just put him back down to sleep. He's a very calm happy baby so I don't think he suffers from the lack of winding.

debbie1412 Tue 05-Feb-13 13:35:05

In the early wks my dp would give her a formula feed in the evening, I would go to bed. Then bf the rest of the night. It's only really manic for the 1st 12 wks. Just go with it each day and sleep whenever you can x

AliceWChild Tue 05-Feb-13 16:50:32

I don't wind and he's always fine

Pobblewhohasnotoes Tue 05-Feb-13 17:26:28

6 day olds don't know night and day yet. It takes time. Yes they can feed and feed. Remember their stomach is only the size of a walnut. It can take time for them to establish a routine, plus they have growth spurts so suddenly feed and feed again.

My LO wouldn't sleep in his crib for 3 weeks, until we bought a slumber bear. Have you tried something like that? Or putting something that smells of you in her bed? Someone told me that all a newborn wants is it's Mum. They've spent 9 months with you so why wouldn't they? You're doing the right thing by keeping things dark and quiet at night. Keep things normal during the day.

It's exhausting but it will change. She's only six days old, give her a chance! I mean that nicely.

Pobblewhohasnotoes Tue 05-Feb-13 17:27:42

Polyethyl,

6 day olds don't know night and day yet. It takes time. Yes they can feed and feed. Remember their stomach is only the size of a walnut. It can take time for them to establish a routine, plus they have growth spurts so suddenly feed and feed again.

My LO wouldn't sleep in his crib for 3 weeks, until we bought a slumber bear. Have you tried something like that? Or putting something that smells of you in her bed? Someone told me that all a newborn wants is it's Mum. They've spent 9 months with you so why wouldn't they? You're doing the right thing by keeping things dark and quiet at night. Keep things normal during the day.

It's exhausting but it will change. She's only six days old, give her a chance! I mean that nicely.

sayanything Tue 05-Feb-13 17:37:34

DH gives DS2 a dreamfeed before going to bed (so I go to bed early), I do the nights and then DH does the first feed of the day, takes care of DS1 and gets DS2 ready for nursery while I sleep in (ha!) until he goes to work around 8am. If I'm lucky, DS2 will also go down for a nap just as DH is leaving, which means an extra hour's sleep for me. This saved my sanity and DH gets to be involved.

I used to EBF until a couple of weeks ago, but I expressed twice a day for the two bottle feeds.

And Poly, I promise you it will get better, just hang in there.

Polyethyl Tue 05-Feb-13 17:39:08

Thank-you. A friend gave me an expressing pump. So I shall now try to work out how to use it so that DH can feed her occasionally.

GraceSpeaker Tue 05-Feb-13 18:16:25

Pobble, assume that was for Polyethyl? Her LO is six days old.

Interesting about not winding BF babies - mine's definitely less bothered by breastmilk than by formula, which she often spits up to some extent.

GraceSpeaker Tue 05-Feb-13 18:16:56

Ah, ignore the first line! X-post.

GingerDoodle Tue 05-Feb-13 20:46:11

DH was really keen before DD arrived to share in the night work but in reality I did 99% of it and still do. He did however get up if I had a really bad night.
She didn't get on with her crib but was good in her carry-cot. We never co-slept as such but she did end up in with us a fair bit.
You can and will cope and get through it!

MadMonkeys Tue 05-Feb-13 21:28:47

DH did DD2's only bottle at 9pm and settled etc until about 1am, then I took over and did the rest of the night as she was breastfed apart from that. Worked well.

33goingon64 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:39:09

Casting my mind back, first few weeks after DH went back to work, he would sit up with DS downstairs until midnight and I would go to bed straight after dinner 8 or 9 ish. He would then bring DS in for a bf at midnight on his way up to the spare bedroom so that he could get six hours sleep which was just about enough to manage a commute and a day at work. I would bf DS and put him in basket and then bf him again whenever he woke (usually about 2am and 6am). DH would bring me tea and toast before leaving for work while I was doing the 6am feed (or would leave it next to bed if I was asleep). I would then stay in bed until DS woke 'for the day', around 8ish. So not too bad really. It did mean DH and I only shared a bed at weekends but tbh it was worth it for a few weeks.

Polyethyl Thu 07-Feb-13 04:34:54

Hello, me again.
Baby has again fed and cried all night long.
I'm just baffled to know what to do.

Eskino Thu 07-Feb-13 04:52:09

I'm BFing my 2 week old DD in our bedroom. DP has moved (amicably!) into the spare room which is next to our 2yo ds's room so he can hear if he wakes which he still does occasionally. DD and I bedshare in the big bed and seem to have turned the room into one big soggy warm milky nest! (It's the very small hours!).

Polyethyl, I'm sorry you're both not sleeping. Do you manage to catch up a bit during the day? It doesn't last long, this time I promise you.

Polyethyl Thu 07-Feb-13 05:02:48

Yes, I did get an afternoon nap, so I'm not as demented as last time.... but even so..... It simply cannot be right for a newborn to fuss all night AGAIN. Don't they get sleep deprived?

Eskino Thu 07-Feb-13 06:54:07

Oh, and she is bf and very windy! We are working on her latch which still isnt perfect a lot of the time ( and i have fast flow nips!) but It's getting better as she grows and she's becoming less windy but I wouldn't dare put her down without some vigorous burping.

MortifiedAdams Thu 07-Feb-13 07:01:11

At three weeks, we would bath bottle swaddle dd about 7pm and she would sleep in her carrycot in the lounge while we ate dinner. Then Id go to.bed about 8.30 if I.needed it and DH would stay up (TV/Xbox) til her next feed (she woke or we would wake her at 11pm), feed and then.bring her into our room to sleep in her basket.

Id get up wirh her through the night (waking at 1am and 3/4am ish), then dh would get up with her at 6.30/7 and feed and change her and get.himself ready for work while I slept. Because she was still so tiny, by the time he left for work at 7.30 she was ready for more sleep so he would reswaddle her and bring her back in to me and her basket. She would go straight back to sleep.and we would both wake at nine.

MortifiedAdams Thu 07-Feb-13 07:02:23

I never napped in the day.eirher and have only started now dd is 1yo and having couple.of hour naps.

Eskino Thu 07-Feb-13 11:43:38

Wow Mortified, that's a timetable!

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