what time is babies bed time...

(37 Posts)
kazzy77 Tue 22-Jan-13 20:53:28

just wondering what time other parents put their babies to bed at night. my son is five months and am really proud to say that he is sleeping through until morning (usually anything from 6 am - 7:30 am) and has been doing so for the last few months. His usual bedtime is around about 8:30 though and feel this is a little late as listening to other mums their babies are in bed by 7pm and sleep through til about 7am.

I recently tried bringing his bedtime earlier so my fiance and i can have a bit more quality time together and be able to eat our tea in peace (we eat tea before his bedtime as tea at 8:30 is too late for us) without havin to throw it down our neck as our son is grizzling during the witching hour!

Anyway like i say we tried bringing his bed time earlier by puttin him down at 7 and also tried 7:30 but he was waking up around 5 am which to me i find a struggle! i dont want to start my day at that time as its shattering and very long! I spent hours looking for others' advice on the internet and tried out all the tips to help him sleep longer but nothing seemed to work. I made the mistake by bringing his bedtime forward at the same time we made the transition from our room to his room.

has anyone got any advice on stretching his sleep longer in a morning so we can try a 7pm bedtime again or am i just bein greedy?

i have today purchased a cd of white noise to try that to see if it helps but also worried he may become reliant on it and will make a rod for my own back!

bangersmashandbeans Tue 22-Jan-13 20:57:44

He's pretty young to go down for twelve hours straight so I wouldn't worry just yet, I think it sounds like he's doing brilliantly. I remember gradually bringing dd's bedtime earlier and earlier in the first few months but we got stuck at 9pm for quite a while. Don't fret too much, it'll happen when it happens! I remember my mum amongst others saying 'soon she'll be in bed 7-7' and I thought they were bonkers but I promise it does happen.

Hi like the PP said it will happen when it happens, my DD is 6 months and her bedtime is between 8pm and 9pm and she sleeps all the way till 8am.

I tried putting her to sleep at 7pm but this was too early for her as she would treat it as a nap and sleep for about 1.5 hours then wake up again refreshed and wanting to play till about 1am!

I am going to just going to wait and see..

JiltedJohnsJulie Tue 22-Jan-13 21:27:25

I'd just be glad of what you have. Don't forget to take the "my baby sleeps for 12 hours" straight with a huge pinch of salt. People lie.

sharond101 Tue 22-Jan-13 22:02:27

Iam in the same boat. DS is 8mo and goes down between 8/8.30. He wakes around 7/7.30 and often falls asleep again if I cosy him in with me. the earlier I put him to bed the earlier he wakes. I find the day too long if he is up at 6am.

kazzy77 Wed 23-Jan-13 06:30:58

last night i put him to bed at 8pm and he was awake at 5:50am!! but this i think was down to my other half gettin in the shower for work. Hence the reason i have ordered a white noise cd to see if this will help for blockin out any background noises in a mornin which just be rousing him from his light sleep.

FirstTimeForEverything Wed 23-Jan-13 07:23:31

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

littleredmonkey Wed 23-Jan-13 07:43:33

Ffirst time for everything. The same as you we have twins. The same Times dream feeds. I would love him to go till 7 but for now chuffed he does longer sleeps. I remember before Christmas in October November being a zombie waking every two hours. Boobs permanently on show and thinking a shower was the best luxury ever. So babies will get there in their own time. Routine at night is vital I love my 7 routine dp does everything I am the end milking cow he is presented to so he is ready for zzzzz

ilovecolinfirth Wed 23-Jan-13 12:21:20

My 9 week old son goes to bed at 7 and for the last 2 weeks has been sleeping til 5, quick feed and then back to sleep for another hour or 2. We've put him to bed at that time since he was born. The first 2 weeks were hard work, up and down the stairs to re-settle, but otherwise he's great. However I'm sure it won't last! I think the 7pm routine is so well established that hopefully it's more or less sorted, but I'm sure he'll go through stages of waking more frequently. X

teacher123 Wed 23-Jan-13 18:23:36

DS is 9mo and goes to bed at 6pm and has done since he was 6 weeks. He's never had an afternoon nap, just a morning and lunchtime one. He sometimes sleeps through till around 6.30am, sometimes wakes for a feed. I like his early bedtime, it works for us!

ellesabe Wed 23-Jan-13 22:34:01

Don't listen to other mums! They never boast about the other things they're dealing with!
It sounds like you're doing a great job smile

SeatOfMyPants Thu 24-Jan-13 02:40:30

Proud, OP?
Why proud?
From what I've read (coming at it from the bitter point of view if one whose DS is a terrible sleeper, mind), neither you or your DS has that much conscious control over this at the moment.
Just saying because my DS did a lovely stint if sleeping through 12 hours, which did not last.
If you pat yourself on the back now you'll only have to blame yourself later when/if something goes wrong. Things change. Count your blessings while everything is rosy.

kazzy77 Thu 24-Jan-13 13:47:38

thanks for your comment but i would like to confirm that i am a proud mum to my son! i am proud that he is able to sleep through without waking in the night for a feed or for his dummy (he doesnt use a dummy). whether this lasts or not is irrelevent really and i dont like to be pessimistic about what the future holds!! but for now i am a very proud mummy! smile

SeatOfMyPants Thu 24-Jan-13 18:00:53

Pride denotes achievement either on your part or his.
And if you think that's the case then are you saying that other babies who don't sleep through are failures or is it just the fault of the parents?

bangersmashandbeans Thu 24-Jan-13 18:34:12

Seatofmypants...really? Bitter much?! I too am a proud mummy of my good little sleeper, regardless of how long it does or doesn't last. You be proud OP! smile

SeatOfMyPants Thu 24-Jan-13 19:11:30

er...yes..bangers really

Sleep - particularly the for-some-so-elusive 'sleeping through' - is a very contentious and fraught issue for many people, if not you or the OP. I presume you don't have had a taste of long term sleep deprivation? Or have experience of what it does to your physical and mental health? I would posit that the root of most mothers' PND is sleep deprivation. The worst thing is when you try and try every routine, and trick in the book, and yet nothing works - and what makes it sooooo awful that you think (and others suggest) that it's somehow your fault when actually...and sorry to say it...it is just the luck of the draw - luck of the draw re developmental issues or physical attributes that have been handed out. I don't think it's only me - though I'm not saying it's the majority - who would find your choice of words, at best, mis-chosen and, at worst, offensive. I don't think you mean to sound patronising or smug, but that's how it's coming across to me.

I don't think there's any reason to be 'proud' - happy, yes; thankful, yes; joyous, hell why not. Proud? No.

bangersmashandbeans Thu 24-Jan-13 19:37:01

I would suggest you are being a touch over sensitive and that we are allowed to be proud of our children for whatever reasons we choose. I think sleeping through is an achievement by the child so will continue to congratulate my daughter for it, and she's nearly 3.

SeatOfMyPants Thu 24-Jan-13 19:51:05

Insentivising your daughter through such encouragement and words of 'pride' is completely different from what I have an issue with here

kazzy77 Fri 25-Jan-13 07:21:56

here here bangersandmash!! thankyou for your support!! i agree the OP is being a tad over sensitive too and very bitter!

Sorry your child isnt sleeping through. i do agree that every child is different and sometimes it is luck of the draw but i do also believe that parental influence can also help establish good routines for their children (now i am not insinuating that you have failed here OP as i can understand how frustrating and stressful it is havin tried various methods).

You cannot tell other parents how to feel about their children though. if we want to be proud then let us! It was not meant to offend anyone it was an innocent word used as part of my story which you seemed to have homed in on. But if you read my first post i am askin for advice. So you are not on your own with these sleep issues!

Wishihadabs Fri 25-Jan-13 07:41:53

Sorry to piss on your parade Kazy. Some dcs never do the elusive 12hrs. My Ds has only ever slept 10-11 hrs consecutively (heis now 8). Putting him to bed before 730pm always resulted in a wake up time before 6. He slept through from 2.5 months FWIW. Eventually we compromised on a 745-8 bed time and a wake up after 6 , but usually before 7.

BTW he now goes to sleep at 9-930pm and wakes 7ish.

kazzy77 Fri 25-Jan-13 08:08:25

can i just say tho that my son is also not having 12 hours sleep so you can piss on ur own parade! i am no better off than you! perhaps if u had read my original post properly you would have understood! grin

AliceWChild Fri 25-Jan-13 08:18:44

My baby is 3 months and goes to bed when I do. I can never quite work out how the earlier bed time works as SIDS guidance is that sleep in a room with other people till 6 months, so I'd rather get on with things with him downstairs with me than go to bed myself so early. Do people really do that? I guess if you've got other children you can put them in with them?

Overreactionoftheweek Fri 25-Jan-13 08:26:31

My ds used to be the same as yours for waking at 5 and it just improved as he got older. I stuck to all the advice and tips to induce sleep, but in the end, he did it when he was good and ready!

He slept from 5.30pm-6.30am last night, he's 15 months. I know I'm very lucky to have a good sleeper, I feel grateful every time he sleeps through. He does still wake occasionally tho, if he's teething or ill.

So I understand why people say it's nothing to be proud of, sadly it's not down to me whether he does it or not, I wish it was!

FirstTimeForEverything Fri 25-Jan-13 08:33:36

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

teacher123 Fri 25-Jan-13 08:36:35

I have the strictest bedtime routine out of all my friends who have babies, and DS's sleep was hideous until he was 6 months. He used to wake 4-6 times a night, I was broken. Now when he sleeps through I feel lucky. Not proud!

needsadviceplease Fri 25-Jan-13 19:18:58

Mine went two-hourly from birth to five months. Hourly from five to nine months (and counting).

I'm proud of his persistence. grin

whatsoever Fri 25-Jan-13 19:37:44

My DS is 15 weeks & his bedtime is roughly 7.30pm. He sometimes sleeps through until morning, sometimes wakes for a feed or sometimes two. There's no pattern to whether he wakes or not and no pattern to what time he wakes in the morning!

If he wakes before 6am I treat it as a night feed & afterwards put him back in his cot to sleep some more (usually but not always works) but if it's after 6am I treat it as morning.

All babies are different though, I wouldn't try & advise anyone else to try this routine, nor would I try and copy anyone else's.

AliceWChild Fri 25-Jan-13 20:41:24

Thanks firsttime. I think the same is happening with mine but can't bring myself to leave him so will try sling I think. I'm very cautious for some understandable reasons

Katla Fri 25-Jan-13 22:26:13

Some people seem to go looking for a fight don't they? confused

My DD is 15 weeks and goes to bed between 8-9pm - we were keeping her up later downstairs with us but the noise from the tv and heat from the fire made her really grumpy and overtired so brought bedtime forwards. I tend to stay in room with her or nip away for quick cuppa once she's down. She then sleeps til 7-8am with one feed during night.

preggersshock Fri 25-Jan-13 23:01:31

DD is 13 weeks, last bottle at 7.30 and bed with top up at 10.30, then bed (in her own room, better quality of sleep, you can reverse the monitor so they can regulate breathing to yours to protect against SIDS), I wake her for breakie ... Very lucky to have such a great sleeper grin

SquidgersMummy Sat 26-Jan-13 11:04:12

I have breast fed on demand and we side car co sleep - my dd is 25wks - she's always roughly been a 8-8 sleeper but had 4 feeds, then 2, then we went thru the 4mth sleep regression and up every 90 mins for a few wks, back to 2 feeds now her eczema is playing up/? 6 mth regression and back to 3/4 feeds .....so basically it will change - whatever you do - also I was happy with this - I never wanted a baby sleeping solidly for 12 hrs too much very deep sleep would have made me worry more re SIDS.

stargirl1701 Sat 26-Jan-13 11:06:31

My LO (19 weeks) goes to bed at 11pm and is up between 7-9am. I would love an 8pm bedtime!

stargirl1701 Sat 26-Jan-13 11:08:11

Alice, that is our issue too.

AliceWChild Sat 26-Jan-13 12:19:55

Glad I'm not alone smile

PearlyWhites Sat 26-Jan-13 12:37:14

My ds age 5 months goes to bed at 10pm when we do because the SIDS advice says babies should always sleep in the same room as you and not go to bed earlier and alone. He sleeps from around 8.30 in the lounge then has a feed at 9.30 at again around 4am and wakes for the day at 7.30

kazzy77 Sun 27-Jan-13 17:17:26

well even when i fed my ds at midnight last night (had been at a family do so his routine was cocked up last night) he still woke at 05:50!! Going to try his cot back in our room tonight to see whether its something in his room wakin him early!

kazzy77 Mon 28-Jan-13 07:18:21

my ds slept in our room last night and tho he cried a few times in the night but i let him cry it out and he settled with a bit of music from his monitor he slept until 06:30 am!! very confused now! he is 5 months so am wonderin whether i put him in his own room too young. any thoughts? hmm

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