Worst Parenting trends of 2012

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FrancesMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 09-Nov-12 17:08:42

Hello

Justine has been asked what she thinks is the worst parenting idea/fad/trend of 2012. We're not really looking for the worst parenting products- you can stick that in Mumsnet reviews, but rather trends- for example we're not too keen on this belly painting thing although you may be! grin

Anyway we're keen to hear your thoughts what do you think is the daftest parenting fad this year?

Thank you!

FrancesMumsnet

MrsRV Fri 09-Nov-12 17:49:48

Belly painting?? Add belly casting to that!

Hubby keeps taking the mick out of our baby yoga class :-)grin

Nivet Fri 09-Nov-12 18:00:24

Professional, staged first birthday cake smash photo shoots.

TinyDiamond Fri 09-Nov-12 18:13:41

Hate the belly painting. Tack

OatyBeatie Fri 09-Nov-12 18:23:07

Daftest parenting fad: treating Mumsnet as the voice of motherhood?

RudolphUcker Fri 09-Nov-12 18:26:52

Jakers, the belly painting. this one doesn't even have a bump yet, how much paint will she get through in 40 weeks?
I saw a bib saying 'product of 50 Shades'. Putting your baby in something that makes the reader think of you doing the nasty, with handcuffs. Nice.

Snog Fri 09-Nov-12 18:28:45

I think belly painting is cute!
Not so keen on tiger parenting though
When did blw come in?

KateByChristmas Fri 09-Nov-12 18:33:32

You know it's coming ....... Gender reveal photos on Facebook.

<taps nose> Pinterest wink

Agree with the 50 shades thing, saw a changing mat today that said 9 months ago my mum read 50 shades of grey! Horrible!!!

ouryve Fri 09-Nov-12 18:34:38

grin because all of these fads were fads back when I was expecting DS1, 9 years ago. Just mostly over the pond, along with "diaper cakes" and other such nonsense.

I think the most shock thing I saw this year was a woman, dressed all in pea green, including heels, pushing an expensive bugaboo pram in the same colour, with all matching accessories. Don't know if it represents a fad of any sort, but it made me snigger because she was definitely overdoing the matchy matchy green love and I was imagining her house being full of the same colour, much to her poor greyly dressed husband's dismay.

BoyMeetsWorld Fri 09-Nov-12 18:37:47

LelliKellis. Omg.

FrillyMilly Fri 09-Nov-12 18:44:06

Gender reveal cakes for baby showers where the sponge is either pink or blue. Also agree with the cake smash first birthday thing also not keen on the photographs where the baby is a week or two old and has its head propped up on its hands. They give me the creeps.

Whatnowffs Fri 09-Nov-12 18:49:34

They all sound vile, i have just only just got over the introduction of the "play date" makes my teeth itch.

That bloody changing mat (50 shades) shouldn't be allowed - vile.

oh and "my mummy's a yummy mummy" on baby clothes

SirBoobAlot Fri 09-Nov-12 18:55:58

YY to Fifty Shades references for kids <shudder>

Big faffy birthday parties for one year olds. Seriously, what the hell is the point.

GINA FORD. AGHHHHH. I'm praying she's a fad actually, and will disappear off the face of the freaking earth for 2013.

Iwearblack Fri 09-Nov-12 18:57:27

Wish we could have some photos of these! I have never heard of the cake smash or gender reveal thing..... Soooo not with the zeitgeist!
Hate beaded/decorated dummies ...and tattoos of children's names on parents. If mine had done that I would have changed my name as soon as I hit 18 just to brass them off!

Defo fifty shades realty baby items yuck

Whatnowffs Fri 09-Nov-12 19:07:57

vile 50 shades shite, just awful

JustFabulous Fri 09-Nov-12 19:20:44

Adding to the 50 shades crap.

I saw a bib which said It started with 50 shades of grey with the grey sen in grey cotton and the rest red.

I was going to say gender reveal cakes. Just why?

SissySparkles Fri 09-Nov-12 19:26:16

PARENTING BLOGS

BiBiBroccoli Fri 09-Nov-12 19:27:44

Bloody baby showers - particularly ones with gift lists. Blee

Yes to the bloody 50 shades shite and the baby showers with GAMES and ORGANISED FUN.

I think the whole over "Americanisation" of pregnancy. A friend apparently had a "babymoon". I'm not even sure WTF that really is, but it made my teeth itch just thinking about it.

GreatGardenstuff Fri 09-Nov-12 19:37:30

The cake smash thing is just revolting.

CarolynKnappShappey Fri 09-Nov-12 19:38:42

Baby showers are awful, but if you have to have them then I rather like gender reveal cakes - because it's cake grin.

Cupcakes with everything OTOH are well past their sell-by date, your average 4 year old will take one bite then pass it to mum to hold on to, creating mess everywhere.

TheLightPassenger Fri 09-Nov-12 19:40:04

yep, has to be the whole "mummy porn" concept. Yuk.

wigglesrock Fri 09-Nov-12 19:42:24

I'm not keen on the whole Team Yellow phrase.

MoleyMick Fri 09-Nov-12 19:42:59

Definitely the term mummy porn and babymoons. And along with the 50 Shades bibs etc, ANY dumb slogans on kids clothes.
What is a cake smash?

Eggrules Fri 09-Nov-12 19:44:00
MoleyMick Fri 09-Nov-12 19:45:39

hmm

SirBoobAlot Fri 09-Nov-12 19:53:45

Why would you waste cake like that? I don't understand!

SuffolkNWhat Fri 09-Nov-12 19:55:54

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HandbagCrab Fri 09-Nov-12 19:57:40

Awh I like the cake smash smile

50 shades stuff is highly inappropriate.

The worst parenting idea for 2012 is the means testing of child benefit. Daft is good in my book. Money grabbing Tory bastards, not so much.

nailak Fri 09-Nov-12 20:16:16

gifts list for baby showers

just saw cake smash for first time,

my bro i like 26 and we have a pic of his 1st bday doing that, it wasnt planned though...

Limelight Fri 09-Nov-12 20:18:04

Definitely unquestionably without exception, baby showers. I'm sorry but it's grasping, I don't want to play stupid games, it's unlucky to give gifts before the birth, and it's you know, just not cricket!

<<plonks handbag down in order to adjust twin-set and pearls>>

Iwearblack Fri 09-Nov-12 20:20:24

Wow thanks for the photo of the cake smash wtf!!
Checked out google for the gender reveal as well - some awesome shite on youtube!
Seriously nowt so queer as folks!

JustFabulous Fri 09-Nov-12 20:20:25

What is Team Yellow?

loubielou31 Fri 09-Nov-12 20:23:33

I like the cake smash.
Dislike Baby Showers a lot.
Worst thing is the Child Benefit changes.

wigglesrock Fri 09-Nov-12 20:32:26

Sorry "Team Yellow" - don't know the gender of the baby - as in "looking for some white babygros as we're team yellow" I'm not sure why it irritates me so much I think it may be the now constant use of Team ...... to describe anything.

JustFabulous Fri 09-Nov-12 20:34:03

Pretentious I think .

GoreyClaWsPumpkinHeed Fri 09-Nov-12 20:40:05

I wasted an hour of my life watching some real housewives of NY crap and they were talking about how one of em had a premature baby who weighed only 4lb then in the very next sentence congratulated her on her superfast weightloss and asked which diet she used whilst pregnant??!!!!!? shock

It is just WRONG I tell ya!

tattychicken Fri 09-Nov-12 20:41:25

That's awful. About the wee baby I mean.

tattychicken Fri 09-Nov-12 20:46:36

How American everything has become. Names. Babyshowers. Diapers. All that pink/blue cake shit.

Definitely baby showers. And baby swinging/turning. Disgusting concept.

GoreyClaWsPumpkinHeed Fri 09-Nov-12 20:48:44

I know, I must have seen a re-run cos was just looking online and found this

www.thatsfit.com/2010/06/04/bethenny-frankel-on-losing-the-baby-weight-in-three-weeks/

so I am behind the times but still I don't understand why celebrity headlines are about losing weight not the simple fact that fat makes brains during pregnancy so if you are starving yourself and your baby whaddya get?

Poor starved bubs.

Off to find the chocolate eclairs...

GoreyClaWsPumpkinHeed Fri 09-Nov-12 20:53:04

OMFG! I just looked up baby swinging!

gawker.com/5726703/this-baby+swinging-yoga-video-cant-be-real-right

Am going to bed to have nightmares, no eclair for me, feel too sick now sad

natsnuts Fri 09-Nov-12 21:06:21

Eww "team yellow" is rank.
Baby showers are just stupid - just wait and get together with your friends after you've had the baby and you can DRINK!!
Also - if you've got a motivated couple you can end up with an engagement gift, wedding gift, AND baby shower gift... Not to mention actual baby gift... WithIn 18 months. I don't like anyone that much grin

JustFabulous Fri 09-Nov-12 21:09:04

What is baby swinging?
Don't fancy looking at a sick feeling inducing video.

allagory Fri 09-Nov-12 21:18:41

Pictures of baby and daddy both wearing a moustache. Harmless but daft.

JustFabulous Fri 09-Nov-12 21:20:52

Is that all?!

Thanks anyway!

kellestar Fri 09-Nov-12 21:28:09

on the team yellow rant a friend told me she's having a beige baby... I was a bit confused as I thought 'how on earth does she know that, is there a special scan for that.' thank god I didn't ask her that, she understood the confused face. I hope that's not a trend.

I hate the 'team' whothefuckcares trend.

pookamoo Fri 09-Nov-12 21:31:54

No justfabulous I think that was a cross-post.
Baby swinging seems to involve swinging tiny babies around by their legs in the name of "dynamic gymnastics". I didn't watch the video. My DDs love being turned upside down but that does seem a bit extreme.

I would nominate the Pinterest Parenting Phenomenon... suddenly we seem to live in Utah hmm

JustFabulous Fri 09-Nov-12 21:33:46

shock

McPhee Fri 09-Nov-12 21:34:13

Baby hairbands - vile tack

Baby shoes - I've never seen a baby stand/walk unaided hmm

Little prince/princess products

FrameyMcFrame Fri 09-Nov-12 21:39:27

Babymoon... bleaurgh.
When I was pregnant I just had to go to work and get on with it, I didn't get a special holiday or anything. Or any fucking presents.envy

Also babymoon traditionally referred to the time you spend with the baby once they are born, at home, snuggling etc not expensive trips to New York and spa days with presents.

thirdfromleft Fri 09-Nov-12 21:41:02

Child beauty pageants. Enough said.

vamosbebe Fri 09-Nov-12 22:04:04

I second McPhee's headbands - why would you want your dd to look like Humpty Dumpty?

We had a 'babymoon' although I had no bloody idea that's what it was called or that there was something special about it. We just wanted to go away for a 3-day road trip and stay in a nice hotel with a big bath - I had a full bubblebath all to myself every night (can't at home) with mp3 and sudoku while dh watched the football. BLISS.

RubberNeckNibbler Fri 09-Nov-12 22:45:02

Those Pint and Half Pint matching t-shirts, or the latest version which is a fuel/energy gauge with Dads on empty and kids on full.

Basically any matchy clothing - yuck

SantasHugandRollintheSnow Fri 09-Nov-12 23:01:15

That baby swinging is fucking sick. Who the actual fuck thought it was a good idea to do that? At risk of sounding hystrrical it looks like a form of abuse, if you can shake a baby to death wtf is that going to do?

<pearls being clutched so tightly marks are being left in my fingers>

YouBrokeMySmoulder Fri 09-Nov-12 23:09:27

That baby cake smash thing has made me come over all dowager duchess.<clutches pearls and does cats bum face>

NotInMyDay Fri 09-Nov-12 23:13:17

The need to give everything a name or slogan.
BLW = finger food
Baby wearing = use a sling
Unconditional parenting = batshit crazy wink

NatashaBee Fri 09-Nov-12 23:31:44

Exactly NotInMyDay. Not everything needs a bloody label.

LowLevelWhinging Fri 09-Nov-12 23:58:12

baby showers

push presents

(and now you mention it, 50 shades babywear)

SkiBumMum Sat 10-Nov-12 00:02:44

Another vote for parenting blogs. They even have their own awards ceremonies. So boring!

SkiBumMum Sat 10-Nov-12 00:03:11

Love bombing

DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved Sat 10-Nov-12 00:57:20

Bejewelled & with added choke hazard anticipation - those awful genmed up dummies & chains. Grim. Dangerous. What's not to love?!

VintageNancy Sat 10-Nov-12 02:24:01

Cake smash is popular here (US) & I quite like it blush.

But gender reveal parties are just a big no for me. Someone told me about the one they had with 100 of their closest friends & family.

liveinazoo Sat 10-Nov-12 02:37:18

i agree with lowlevelwhinging

adding swinging babies.should be illegal!

Solo Sat 10-Nov-12 02:56:54

Well, my pearls are all over the floor after watching that video! my mouth was doing this shock and I'm generally unshockable! definitely abuse!

I hate those that say 'We're pregnant' totally vomit inducing imo.

EugenesAxe Sat 10-Nov-12 07:19:49

Probably around before 2012, but bump photo sessions, especially those ones where you put your thumbs and forefingers together around the navel, to make a heart. They're just vomitous in my opinion.

My cousin (married to an American) just had a baby and we had lots of head propped up on arms and headband pictures on FB. The baby did look sweet (because it's a baby) - but why all the frippery? When my DSis and partner had their beautiful DS (biased, moi?) they took lots of pictures of things like the hair tuft on the top of his ear... much more cute.

poppy283 Sat 10-Nov-12 07:31:07

That's a lovely idea Eugene, wish I'd got a photo of ds's hairy shoulders, he's all grown up at 12 weeks now!

Probably pre 2012, but proper gushing onfacebook about being complete etc, yuck.

Slainte Sat 10-Nov-12 08:10:19

Definitely baby showers, so grabby!

nancerama Sat 10-Nov-12 08:57:45

Not a 2012 thing, but the Bounty witch who stalks the hospital. HOW is she still allowed to be there?

EugenesAxe Sat 10-Nov-12 09:31:53

It is - they are both so talented. BIL (OK - so not officially but to all intents) is an amateur photographer but he could be a pro - so yes he got his macro lens out and did all these close ups of the quirky bits of DN's newborn body!

EdgarAllanPond Sat 10-Nov-12 09:47:36

specific to this year: fifty shades

all else has been with us much longer!

TigerFeet Sat 10-Nov-12 09:59:00

Agree with Edgar, most of this stuff's been around much longer than just this year, although I hadn't heard of Team Yellow (wtf), cake smash and the swinging the baby around thing (again, wtf)

50 shades is very 2012 though, and any reference to it in terms of babies is just so very wrong. Ick ick ick.

TheLightPassenger Sat 10-Nov-12 10:02:44

snort at beige baby. If anyone else says that other than your friend kelle, that is definitely one for the worst parenting trends!

caramal Sat 10-Nov-12 10:08:32

Mortified by the baby swinging.
Not keen on the whole "Team" blue/pink/yellow thing or the cake smash..wasting cake!

RudolphUcker Sat 10-Nov-12 12:14:43

Team Yellow sounds like a euphemism for incontinence.

GossipWitch Sat 10-Nov-12 12:56:19

baby shower's, it's an american idea for a start and most people are adopting it after their first baby, what's wrong with coming round after to see the new baby, with or without gifts? annoying imo

wtf is team yellow.

HaggisMcNeeps Sat 10-Nov-12 13:35:30

Personalised baby crapola. Yes we know your baby's name, do you really have to put it on every bit of tat for the baby.

baby swinging is all the rage in the little by the sea spot in sinai i used to live in - the russians do it in the sea every morning - horrific sight!

for me i still can't get over the phrase 'baby wearing' - not sure if that's attributable to 2012 though. sure use slings, etc but please don't call it 'baby wearing'.

bruffin Sat 10-Nov-12 14:08:27

Taking babies to theatre or cinema

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered Sat 10-Nov-12 14:52:06

love the way some of the babies in the cake smash photos obviously weren't allowed to really get stuck in and smash them, in case they fucked up their tutus!
Reminded me of the French and Saunders "playdate" sketch.

Pyrrah Sat 10-Nov-12 15:17:57

I loathe pictures of babies covered in food - makes me feel queasy - but the cake smash seems almost immoral considering how many people in the world don't have enough to eat.

Baby showers seem to be sneaking in over here. American friends were quite horrified that DH and I funded all the baby stuff ourselves - they rely on their friends and the shower to provide pretty much everything (or everything they have registered for on the enclosed gift list) Yuck!

The only one that doesn't bother me at all is the Gender Reveal cake - I think that is cute, although I'm not sure about the whole big party to go with it.

MotherfuckingMorrisMan Sat 10-Nov-12 16:20:05

Am I the only English person to think baby showers are a lovely idea, and wish they had been popular when I was pregnant in the mid 90s? Just a lovely get together with all your mates when you are in the 'blooming' state of pregnancy to talk about the baby and everything with afternoon tea. It's a nice thing isn't it?

Nowt wrong with americanisation of stuff when it is sweet like this, tbh.

The cake smash thing is bloody beyond the pale though.

Solopower1 Sat 10-Nov-12 16:32:22

Not really recent but it's a pity children don't play out more and aren't more independent.

And the pressure on parents, both self-inflicted and imposed, to conform to other people's expectations is unbelievable.

Don't like 'proms' at primary school. What's wrong with an end of primary school party?

On the whole though, I think things are much easier now than they used to be, especially childcare.

Loved the belly painting!

BertieBotts Sat 10-Nov-12 16:49:10

I like belly painting blush

50 shades = yuck. Especially the term "mummy porn", although, pondering if it's better than the decade of misery porn we've just had hmm

Everything else mentioned has been around for ages confused Pretty sure people on flickr etc were doing belly painting when I was pregnant in 2008.

mignonette Sat 10-Nov-12 17:09:25

Blooming Marvellous were selling slogan T shirts and other clothes for parent and child back in 1988. And they were gorge inducing then with slogans such as "Made with 100% Love".

If they'd have had one saying "Made after three double whisky's and a pint of snakebite and a forgotten Pill" I might have been tempted.....grin

My favourite thing to sneer at? School gate fashion articles / magazine / blogs....yuck, yuck and yuck.

nancerama Sat 10-Nov-12 17:10:30

Those toddler "graduation" pictures. I hate them, but then I'm grumpy like that.

cashmere Sat 10-Nov-12 17:15:47

I've come across 'dancing for birth' this time round. Never saw any reference to it in 2009 so assume it's new.
www.dancingforbirth.com/

Another vote for the labeling!!!

It's weaning
It's parenting

Oh and can I please add all singing all dancing prams!

We all know in a few weeks the babies gonna be in a bog standard stroller after the tanks of a pram won't fit on a bus or are a bugger to push up hill to the nurseries grin

cashmere Sat 10-Nov-12 17:34:24

Maybe toddler cooking classes too- they seem quite recent (after swimming, tennis, football, gym, art, drama, dance, music). Surely it's easier just to cook with your toddler 1:1.
I've seen a local one that does things like spinach and feta parcels- yum...... but you take home to cook in your own oven so why pay over the odds to sit in a group and put some feta and spinach in filo pastry when you can't even eat it!

Pyrrah Sat 10-Nov-12 21:42:57

Primary School Graduation Proms are definitely the worst new trend ever. I'm hoping that by the time DD gets to that point that common-sense has kicked in and I won't be the only parent refusing to pay up for limos and professional manicures!

butterflyexperience Tue 20-Nov-12 23:53:25

Mummy Porn
biscuit

sashh Wed 21-Nov-12 06:05:32

especially those ones where you put your thumbs and forefingers together around the navel, to make a heart.

If you are not careful you make the sign language sign for cunt.

Baby swim classes involving dunking newborns and letting them float around. Only reason for their place here is the price. £12 a pop shock

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