Do you give your toddlers pudding?

(62 Posts)
NapOfTheDamned Wed 10-Oct-12 19:45:30

I don't, never have, but see many people do a proper pudding on the what's for toddler tea thread.
It takes forever for DS to eat his food as it is, and he gets fruit for snacks and yoghurt for breakfast with dry cereal and yet more fruit and toast but I never ever do puddings for lunch and tea because DH and I don't ever have them and I don't see the need, I would rather he ate extra savory stuff because there's more good things in it.

Am I depriving him? Should I other making crumble and custard and what have you, just for him? I don't bake and am a bit wary of sugar which most pudding seems to contain, although he has the odd scone or toddler biscuit when out and about and as I said, fruit and Cheerios are always on offer.

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream Wed 10-Oct-12 19:47:23

I only give him a yogurt after dinner and one after tea.

Only small pots but he loves them.

Pascha Wed 10-Oct-12 19:48:18

Sometimes he gets a biscuit if he's eaten all his dinner, otherwise only if we are having something. Its rare though because we tend to save puddingy stuff til later in the evening.

You're really not depriving him! There's no need for any sugar in the diet it's just empty calories.

Sirzy Wed 10-Oct-12 19:49:13

DS has to have a yoghurt after tea to have medication with but he rarely has anything else.

NapOfTheDamned Wed 10-Oct-12 19:49:39

Thanks for reply. What is the official thinking with offering puddings? Is it because it's a good way to give fruit and yoghurt and milky things, or a reward to get them to eat savory, or tradition,or a good way of getting extra calories into them, or what?

Oh and mine don't really get pudding unless they've had a good go at dinner and are still hungry. Even then it's generally fruit and/or yogurt.

Asmywhimsytakesme Wed 10-Oct-12 19:50:51

No - he doesn't know about puddings yet and I'm happy to keep it that way for now - good for his teeth smile

DS has all sorts of rubbish grin. Teacakes, chocolate fingers, chocolate yoghurts etc. He does have sensible things the rest of the time, and he really does love his pudding.

He's a skinny toad though, so reckon he needs the extra calories.

BlingLoving Wed 10-Oct-12 19:51:04

As part of my ongoing campaign to get a good meal into ds so he sleeps well, he does sometimes get a small pudding. A small yoghurt or half/ one third of a toddler pre-made custard or dessert. But certainly j wouldn't be doing special puddings.

If we are out/ with friends he might get some of what everyone else is having and he loves the raspberry sorbet at pizza express.

But then DS is almost 5... when he was younger he had yoghurt mostly.

NapOfTheDamned Wed 10-Oct-12 19:51:59

So if DS is strolling about eating apples and pears and has cheese on everything and a cup of warm milk with supper plus BF whenever he wants it, we are covered and do it need to start breaking out the custard?

JollyJack Wed 10-Oct-12 19:52:33

We usually have a cold lunch, so DS has everything on one plate, e.g. pitta bread, humous, carrot and apple or bread, cheese, ham and pear.

At tea time he has two courses. Once he has finished eating his main course he gets either a yogurt, some fruit or a biscuit. Sometimes he gets 2 out of the 3!

Pots of custard, mini crunchies, mars bar ice creams... terrible really wink

NapOfTheDamned Wed 10-Oct-12 19:52:48

Should read don't need, not do it need,this blardy iPad wil be the death of me.

Sorry, am not being helpful. I'll bog off now grin

coldcupoftea Wed 10-Oct-12 19:54:11

Most days my 4yo and 2yo have pudding- usually yoghurt or fruit, sometimes an ice lolly, sometimes jelly. Occasionally at weekends I will make a 'proper' pudding, like apple crumble.

CaseyShraeger Wed 10-Oct-12 19:56:36

First toddler - no, virtually never. Now on third toddler and yes, quite often, if the other two are having one. Sigh. So many good intentions fallen by the wayside...

TomDaleysTrunks Wed 10-Oct-12 19:58:42

Nope no pudding here other than yoghurt or fruit. Occasionally custard and fruit but that's about it.
Lunch tends to be sandwich/ humus and veg/ scrambled egg yog and fruit. Dinner is often just a large-ish portion of main.

kernowmissvyghen Wed 10-Oct-12 20:03:35

No, we don't really do puddings either - I occasionally do some stewed apple as a toddler pudding, but mainly when they're under the weather and not eating much- I don't add any sugar though.

However I could not live without afternoon tea, and make scones etc fairly often, so I definitely don't feel like I'm depriving anyone of anything!

RubyrooUK Wed 10-Oct-12 20:04:42

DS sometimes has home-made custard with fruit (once a week maybe). A couple of days, he'll have a yoghurt. Mainly a cut up apple or strawberries. Depends if he has eaten a big dinner or not. If he's eaten a lot, I don't bother with a pudding mainly. He's just two and this seems to work so far.

cbeebiesatemybrain Wed 10-Oct-12 20:05:28

Ds has either fruit or fromage frais after lunch and dinner.

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Wed 10-Oct-12 20:05:54

Yes, toddler DD has a yoghurt, or fruit, or jelly, or rice pudding, or sometimes a biscuit or a bit of apple cake, or a lolly, which she loves.

NapOfTheDamned Wed 10-Oct-12 20:07:52

I think I should be trying harder to introduce DS to the exciting world of food.
At the moment he eats well but boringly and very slowly.

Breakfast is buttered toast with marmite, dry muesli and yoghurt, fruit.
Lunch and supper are meat (sausage, burger, mince) with potatoes and broccoli.
Cheese grated on everything.
Sometimes tuna jacket potato with cheese or a cheese and spinach omelette. Sometimes ham and cream cheese pitta bread. Or cheese and oatcakes.

Fruit - blueberries, melon, apples, pears, strawberries.

He doesn't like chicken, or any kind of shredded meat, just minced, or pasta, rice, squash, green beans, mange tout, peppers, carrots unless raw, mushrooms, rice, celery, tomatoes, salad, noodles, peas, sweet corn or anything apart from meat, tuna, potatoes or broccoli really. So I cook him his own boring stuff and then we have exciting things like ribs or chilli later.

I just feel sorry for him sat in his high chair eating the same stuff every day although he seems happy enough.

Mintyy Wed 10-Oct-12 20:08:48

I don't have any toddlers any more <sob> but, no, I never made them a special pudding. If we were all having pudding on a special occasion then yes of course. But, no, no one here eats pudding or dessert regularly. The dc either have fruit, yogurt or nothing most days.

Springforward Wed 10-Oct-12 20:12:10

Yes, but it was mostly nicely presented fruit and yoghurt really, with a biscuit, or ice cream or something-with-custard two or three times a week. He's built like a racing snake so I've never felt any real concern about this tbh.

Meglet Wed 10-Oct-12 20:12:24

Yes, but that's partly because I always have a pudding too.

Usually fromage frais, fruit, ice lolly on hot days, sometime a choc mousse for a HUGE treat or a biscuit if the cupboards are bare.

I made them tiramisu the other day. I was a very popular mummy that day.

RugBugs Wed 10-Oct-12 20:13:38

Mil always makes a chocolate cake when we were round for Sunday dinner, it got to the point where 22 month old DD refused her dinner in favour of cake at their house and asks for cake (but doesn't get it) at home.
We've asked Mil to hold off the cake but she refused so now we don't go for dinner (plus I can't stand the woman).
At home DD has fruit/yoghurt/home-made biscuits or choc from Easter

BoysBoysBoysAndMe Wed 10-Oct-12 20:17:19

Puddings for my boys (including a toddler) include:

-Petit filous-on own or on top of strawberries/blueberries/raspberries, or put in a bowl with mixed seeds on top
-custard-on own or on top of bananas or with a digestive to dunk in blush
-mini Kipling cake like a fondant fancy
-tinned peaches
-rice pudding, sometimes with a teaspoon of jam
-mini milky bar
-couple of biscuits, maybe cookies or Jaffa cakes
-ice cream
-ice lolly
-cake and custard, cake and cream (usually only on a Sunday after a roast)
-chopped apple/pear/melon

Which pudding they have depends on how healthy and well they've eaten during the day tbh.

I'm very relaxed about all food and my boys eat everything, have great appetites, have great teeth and are healthy weights. Life's for living and food should be enjoyed.

Yes, I always give her a pudding - often this is some fruit or a yogurt or leftover or scavanged bits. As dedicated toddler puddings I can extend to -

Banana and ambrosia custard. This is a special pudding in her eyes because I give her a knife and let her try to slice the banana onto the custard.

A pancake with lemon and sugar. Which I toss, of course. She bloody loves this. There isn't a lemon in the world big enough to satisfy her lemon cravings. I keep the rest of the batter and make pancakes for me and DH later in the evening.

TerrorNotSoFrightened Wed 10-Oct-12 20:25:49

Sometimes a yoghurt or fruit.
During the summer, very good behaviour wins a cone from the ice cream van.
But we only have a proper pudding on a Sunday after the roast, so both children will have some of that.

TheonlyWayisGerard Wed 10-Oct-12 20:26:08

Maybe 75% of the time she gets a yoghurt and/or fruit. Very occasionally something if I have baked, small brownie, slice of cake etc. She is at nursery two days a week now, they get a pudding (something like carrot cake or a lemon based cake/tart) after lunch and tea. Surprised me a bit.

LonelyCloud Wed 10-Oct-12 20:29:37

DS usually gets pudding, but his pudding is usually cut-up fruit or yoghurt. Occasionally a biscuit or two. If we're having a special pudding, he usually gets a bit, but that's not a regular thing.

BuffyFairy Wed 10-Oct-12 20:31:22

DD, 1, gets fruit with / after lunch and a yoghurt after dinner but I don't consider that to be pudding as such.

I've never made a special pudding for her. We don't tend to eat them at home. Unless you count the weekend glass of wine and bar of chocolate once she's in bed grin

If we eat out or have guests over and have pudding then she is allowed to share ours.

birdofthenorth Wed 10-Oct-12 20:37:50

Daily- fruit, yoghurt
Occasional -jelly, ice cream, trifle, custard, rice pudding, dried fruit, tinned fruit

If we are having chocolate cake or a proper pudding she'll have a bit. Life is too short to bake an apple crumble just for a toddle though!

I confess she DS like crisps/ chocolate/'biscuits as occasional snacks -I find it hard to refuse her when her older brother (or mum or dad!) is indulging. If no-one else is having any she is just as happy with grapes, raisins, Satsumas though.

lyndie Wed 10-Oct-12 20:46:31

Fruit, yoghurt or cheese and biscuits offered daily. Once a week they will have cake and custard or ice cream.

JollyJack Wed 10-Oct-12 20:50:48

Oh, I occasionally give DS an Ella's kitchen for pudding. I hand him the pouch and he slurps it himself.

AngelDog Wed 10-Oct-12 21:03:50


I grew up with a pudding every day and even now after 11 years of a marriage which started (and continued) on a no-puddings-unless-a-special occasion basis, I still have sugar cravings at the end of every meal, and I do have general ishoos with way too high sugar consumption. I didn't want DS (now 2.9) to end up the same way.

He does get some if the rest of us have one e.g. if we have visitors or a meal out and has fruit after lunch, and occasionally after dinner.

I think anyone who has time to make special puddings for toddlers must be superwoman - it's hard enough to find time to make the main course here! wink

Sparklyboots Wed 10-Oct-12 21:20:23

We have something if dinner didn't go well or he hasn't eaten much in the day. But they are always fresh fruit blended with something like coconut butter or tahini, and usually have something 'super' added like a green powder supplement or gogi berries. If there's nothing 'super' to be added, I pop in some broccoli or kale or beetroot - something with a good nutritional profile. We eat quite well so I never worry about him putting off his dinner for pudding, or what he does or doesn't eat. I honestly can't name anything I don't think he likes but that's probably because I don't really take much notice of what he has/ hasn't eaten - he just gets served whatever's going. Some days he will gobble something down that he completely ignores next time, so I figure he hasn't settled on a strong set of 'likes/dislikes' yet. But the puddings were just for him and to keep me chilled, because I have a tendency to be controlling/ anxious especially around food. I say 'were' because we all get some now, they're delish.

beela Thu 11-Oct-12 12:14:27

Yoghurt or fruit here, or sometimes rice pudding if I want to get a bit of extra starch into him in the desperate but mistaken assumption that it might help him to sleep better.

However, he doesn't really like sweet stuff apart from chocolate. Yesterday I offered him a bit of his birthday cake after tea and he was most affronted because he wanted the leftover cold pasta instead.

Strange child.

OstrichSizedShrunkenHeads Thu 11-Oct-12 15:51:29

No unless it is a special occasion and we are all having it.

Dinner is tasty enough imo.

scootle Thu 11-Oct-12 15:58:25

I never understood this either and never gave dd pudding when she was a toddler. I do now - because they have learned everyone else has it. I often give them plain yogurt (which they love) or fruit, but they frequently get a piece of chocolate or similar with it.

CMOTDibbler Thu 11-Oct-12 16:05:26

No, we don't have pudding. Unless out, when we (as a family) might have one

notso Thu 11-Oct-12 16:38:52

Yes, he eats what we (DH, DD, DS1 and I) eat.
We don't have pudding everyday sometimes its just greek yog and honey or stewed fruit, or just a piece of fruit.
Other times it's cake or apple pie and cream or sticky toffee pudding.
All DC eat well, and (when school are not interfering) have good attitudes to food, and if they are full they will generally refuse pudding or ask to have it later.

bbface Thu 11-Oct-12 19:44:03

We always had a dessert after dinner, always. Could be s fruit crumble and custard, or could be a mars bar ice cream. My bro, sis and I were incredibly sporty and very skinny, but ate like horses. Mao I guess my mother figured, why not? Mehen they have eaten all their main course and now fancy something sweet.

So now with my ds (2,2) I always give him dessert. Yoghurt, fruit purée pot, oat bar, crispie cake, hit of ice cream in winter. The boy is a veg fiend, and pretty much hovers up anything and everything. He is also slender and does, not. Stop. Moving. So just like my mother, my approach to dessert, is why not?!

bbface Thu 11-Oct-12 19:48:04

Boysboysboysandme..... EXACTLY my approach. When you look atnyour child, and they are a perfect weight, clear skin, good teeth, eat every bit of veg going, super active..... Why not?

BoysBoysBoysAndMe Thu 11-Oct-12 22:06:35

I was beginning to feel like a super slack mother bbface - glad there's another foodie around wink

QTPie Thu 11-Oct-12 22:13:46

Very very rarely - only generally if we are out for lunch (and then usually ice cream).

He does have fruit after lunch and dinner: naturally sweet.

I was brought up to have a proper pudding each night and it was a big factor in me being a tubby child and teen. Not tubby now, but still have an "after dinner sweet tooth" - not a good habit to have sad.

Occasionally is not a problem (and actually banning such things altogether cold later be a problem), but habit is not a great thing.

pigleychez Thu 11-Oct-12 22:49:26

Will sometime have a pudding but its only ever a yoghurt or fruit. Very occasionally a fairy cake etc if ive been baking or a Crumble after a roast.

DH and I dont tend to have puddings so I guess they arent used to have one.

Thankfully the girls cant get enough fruit and will have a piece with Breakfast and Lunch too. If they have happy enough with fruit then they dont need anything overly sweet.

MamaBear17 Fri 12-Oct-12 08:23:40

I always offer fruit after a meal, and a yoghurt after tea x

loveandkids Tue 16-Oct-12 22:44:56

MIL makes lovely pudding but..... dw is away with the boys i dont know what they are eating now as im not allowed near them .poor kids may allah guide my wife and bring her back with my boys (ameen).

GimmeIrnBru Thu 18-Oct-12 16:13:22

DS2 loves rhubarb crumble with Mackies ice cream (has to be Mackies!), and plum crumble or apple crumble. anything home made basically! But these are limited to special occasions. I don't have the time or inclination to do a pudding every night!

GimmeIrnBru Thu 18-Oct-12 16:15:28

On the same note DS2 won't eat chocolate or anything else sweetie wise so if he eats a pudding that's giving him a bit variety in his diet.

Mine is a glutton and often demands pie. (Usually apple pie - a very thin slice, which gets served up with sugarless fromage frais or yogurt).

catus Thu 18-Oct-12 21:46:36

Why is pudding bad? It's just a part of the meal. Nothing more, nothing less. So DS usually has some. I alternate between yogurt type things, raw or cooked fruit, rice pudding and cake if I baked something (usually once or twice a week).

DS1 is 17mo and has never been a big eater (and at times he goes whole weeks on just a breath of fresh air, a bread stick and a beaker of water, much to my endless stress and worry). He uses food as a bit of a weapon bargaining tool, and as much as I try to keep a consistent strict line on it, I fail miserably in the face of his iron will.
He tends to always eat the same things (mostly just bread-related, or porridge), and I do admit I fall into the trap of caving in and giving him these things, as I know at least he won't fling them.

I usually end up giving a little pudding even if he's hardly had any main course, because I worry about him not getting any calories at all (he's very thin). It's usually fruit (banana, chopped apple or satsuma), or a petit filous (it's like crack to him), or a pot of Ambrosia rice pudding. Occasionally it'll be some custard, or a rich tea biscuit. Funnily enough, these never get thrown on the floor.

Sometimes I am mystified as to how he doesn't have horrendous medieval diseases and vitamin deficiencies. confused

For his main meal if the day, whether that be lunch or dinner time I always offer 2 courses. Ds eats fruit throughout the day but loves Greek yoghurt and either fresh or stewed fruit as a dessert too. Maybe 2 or 3 times a week esp if we eat out or have dinner with the Grampies he will have or share some "proper" pudding ie crumble & custard. I rarely make that sort of pud for dh & me but if I do I would always put some aside or share some with ds.
Everything in moderation!! Either that or go to the park afterwards and get them to run those empty calories off!

crackcrackcrak Sun 21-Oct-12 23:26:06

Not always but I offer it if dd has eaten everything and I thi k she might want more. She more often than not declines even though I offered an ice lolly.

3 kids 5 and under - they all eat what we eat as a family. If pudding is on the menu then they have that and if its fruit/yoghurt that's what they have. But only if they eat a (sensible size) portion of the main.
That way they eat well, as a family from an early age.
Ds3 actually doesn't like chocolate etc. he likes the savoury stuff. I don't make out that pudding is anything particularly special so they don't see it as necessarily the best bit. Tonight they were most excited about jacket potatoes and turned down the left over birthday cake (which I scoffed as it was delishgrin)

ThePinkNinja Fri 26-Oct-12 09:24:06

Generally we are relaxed in our attitudes to food here. DH is a little more uptight about offering sugar/ puddings etc but I am laid back about it....

Pudding here is generally fruit, and custard with maybe cereal on top (his idea... He loves cereal,). Some days it's just yogurt or just fruit. If we are out and having a treat, we share everything.... I think when theres no mystery there's less of a draw to it. so prob once a week or so we all share a slice of cake or two. I do a lot of baking (private catering ) and we are foodies.... Life is to be enjoyed, in moderation smile

When he has finished his main we ask if he is all done or still hungry. If he wants more I usually whip out the fruit and or custard... He was having it 80% of the time and lately says he's done after main....

My ds1 eats fruit and veggies and meat like crazy... And likes cake when it's on offer.

Might sound odd... But what I don't really allow is juice... I just think that's plain sugar. I know everyone seems to do it, so I feel like a weirdo with double standards, but I feel like because it's liquid it'd be so easy for him to develop a habit with that multiple times a day.... We allow it occasionally and if DH and I are having some then ds1 has a few sips too.... But the only time he has cups of it is when he's ill. smile weird but IMO just teaches a quick way to take in empty calories multiple times a day... I offer milk and water and he knows DH and I sometimes have pop or coffee.

TuttoRhino Fri 26-Oct-12 19:28:44

Only on special occasions as DH and I don't generally have puddings. Every once in a while I'll make fruit crumble. If she's still hungry after her tea she gets offered yoghurt. We don't normally have ice cream in the house, although I'm lusting after an ice cream maker at the moment.

I've started baking more but tend to offer her mini muffins as a mid morning or mid afternoon snack.

cutegorilla Fri 26-Oct-12 19:36:25

Why puddings are good. Saying that mine don't generally get puddings but they do get cakes and biscuits and other goodies as snacks. Sometimes after dinner. None of them are fat at all but they are all active so I guess they burn the calories.

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