I'm due to give birth to my first baby in July. I've heard that the first few months with a newborn are hell on earth. Is this true? Here are some of the snippets of 'advice' I've heard:
"Having a baby is like throwing a grenade into your marriage".
"You and your husband will fight all the time."
"Your relationship with your husband will completely change to one of point scoring and arguing over who does the most".
"He will look forward to his paternity leave ending".
"Your baby will demand feeding every few hours. Your boobs will be red raw."
"You might not be able to breast feed and thus feel like a failure of a woman".
"You will be knackered and hardly have the time/enegery to even wash".
"New born babies are boring. You don't get any feedback from them."
"Your house will be a tip. There will be no time or energy to tidy."
"A million people will want to visit - and remember your house is a tip".
"Also you look like a tip. No time to do hair and makeup."
"Sex drive takes a nose-dive. Almost becoming non-existent".
"You'll bleed for 6 weeks and it will hurt to pee."
"Postnatal depression - you become isolated and constantly weepy."
"Finish the nursery now because you will not have the time or eneregy to finish it once baby is here".
"You will lose any childless friends because you will not have time for them."
"No time to go out or even watch a movie on the sofa."
"3 hours sleep per night."
"Forget the things you love to do now - your love of books, video games, the gym, and the other things you do to unwind. There will be no time for leisure."
Sources for the above statements: books, forums, NCT classes, family and friends.
Strange how no one said these things to me when I was TTC.
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Are the first few months really that bad?
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LittleAmy · 08/05/2010 14:07
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