Things are going totally t*ts up in my house and I really need them to change. We've had a very unsettled time recently, and both my daughters' behaviour has suffered massively as a result, so that at the moment we are fighting a miserable war of attrition. I know the holidays are coming up and I am looking forward to spending more time with the kids and regaining control over our lives, but I will be working for much of the time. I've never found a cogent parenting philosphy that I liked - I don't like the idea of material rewards for good behaviour,or the idea of "naughty" steps, but I don't really know what a viable alternative would be, despite drowning in parenting manuals - and I think it's time to change that, as I can be wildly inconsistent and also vicious in my put-downs. My daughters have been called stupid, pathetic, wimpy, mad, and other horrible, horrible names by me in the past few weeks, and as their self-esteem is already rocky, I'm really doing a grand job of helping them out, eh. I would really love to hear from people who have consistent and cogent parenting styles and also people who have vicious tongues which they at least sometimes manage to curb. I am very sad about my dds and want to repair the damage I have caused before it is too late. Please help me.
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my vicious tongue.........how can I regain control
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tamariu · 13/07/2005 12:22
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