whenever we visit my fil he literally takes over and acts as though dd is his daughter, not granddaughter. i am left powerless. he lets her get away with everything, spoils her rotten etc. i try to set boundaries and rules but he ignores it, as though he's got the upper hand. i asked him to not give her a big bag of sweets, he said "ok, i'll give it you first and then you can give her a few at a time." and then next time we see him he ignores it and gives her it again without asking and of course she wants to eat the whole bag in one go. over the years i got more and more firm and have now banned him giving her sweets, which probably gets forgotten about when they babysit. he isn't very responsible with her and ignores very obvious dangers in the house and in the street. eg he lets her play with air freshners, letting her spray it all over her face. every time i say 'no' to something, he rolls his eyes says "no, because your mummy says no", makes me feel guilty and lets her carry on behind my back. no matter how much i feel a good mum at home, when we visit i can feel my strength slipping. my mil is a lot different and she respects our role as parents.
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