Dh came in from work last night at 7.30pm, at which point I left him downstairs with 2.5yo dd and went to run her bath.
All of a sudden, the lights all went off and I heard her screaming. I ran downstairs, took her off him, and asked him what had happened. She had put her hand in the toaster. He had been making crumpets and let her sit on the worktop. I can only assume that he moved or turned away from her and she put her hand in the toaster, which then shorted out all the lights in the house.
I ran to the front door with her, to look at her hand under the streetlights. She is/was fine, she must have literally put her hand in there for a millisecond. She has not burned her hand, and she was fine two minutes later.
Now, I know we all make mistakes, and I know accidents happen, but what p*ssed (sorry, I'm in work) me off was dh's reaction. He went on and on about how much I overreacted, and how I scared her even more etc etc, then we had all the 'you're such a perfect mother' sarky comments. At one point he even said, "Well the pain of that is nothing compared to the pain you will inflict on her by putting her in her own room" - we have coslept since she was 4mo, and we are expecting dc2 in December, dh takes any opportunity to snipe at me over her 'sleeping problems'.
I am so, so cross. Even now. Especially after listening to my colleagues and their "SHE COULD HAVE DIED" comments.
I know the way he reacted could have just been out of guilt that he obviously wasn't watching her, but the way he turned the whole situation around onto me really hacked me off.
Because it's not about me. Or him. It's about a 2.5yo putting her hand in the BLOODY TOASTER!!!!!!!!!
I need to let it go. But how? Or should I just divorce him instead
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I am just so cross with dh. Help me to let it go.
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Pinkjenny · 01/10/2009 16:09
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