PFB is just under a year old. I have just gone back to work very part-time: at the moment I'm doing two mornings (2.5 hours) and an afternoon (4-5 hours) a week. She had her first (2.5 hr) session on her own with the CM last week, having previously met her twice - once for an hour when we first met her, then she and I both went along one day for two hours to get used to it.
Leaving her last week was horrible She cried, I cried (not in front of her) and she was really hard to settle that evening. I am terrified that I've destroyed the bond of trust between us by abandoning her. I know to me that 2.5 hours isn't very long, but I also know that she has no sense of time and has no way of knowing that I'm coming back
I know she will settle eventually, but in the meantime it feels like I'm doing a weird awake version of controlled crying (which isn't for me).
On the one hand, I do genuinely think it will be good for her to be around other children and get some proper attention and playtime from someone other than me. On the other hand, I do feel that there is a tendency in our society to push children into being independent before they're ready, and I'm worried that that's what I'm doing.
Are there any studies to suggest that leaving them at this age is either harmful or beneficial? Should I have eased her in a little more slowly?
Thanks for reading if you got this far. I'm just dreading dreading tomorrow so much
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DitaVonCheese · 14/09/2009 21:33
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