DD4, who is 10, has a "boyfriend" - very innocent, all hand-holding and the VERY occasional kiss-on-the-lips . I have no objections to this, as he is a very nice little boy. They have seen each other three or four times during the holidays but it's never been only them, there have always been other friends there as well.
This morning, DD came downstairs and asked if she could invite this boy over to ours sometime this week. Now, I have no objections to this, only a bit of a dilemma. If she had a girl friend over to play, they would go and play in her bedroom, probably with the door shut, as that is where all DD's stuff is and she wouldn't want to be disturbed by her brothers and sisters.
I'm probably being ridiculous and overthinking this, but I don't want to set a precedent for DD being allowed boyfriends in her room, especially not with the door closed. I can forsee all sorts of problems with how I then stop her again. I mean, how do I know which boyfriend should be the first one I stop going in her room? And, in the (admittedly very unlikely) event that she is still going out with this boy in three or four years time, do I just say to him one day, "Oh, I'm sorry, X, you can't go in DD's room any more because I think you might get up to something"?
On the other hand, I don't want to make DD think that I think that she might want to do things with her "boyfriend". Obviously they're not going to, and they're not even at an age where they'll be thinking about it. But if I tell her that she and X can't play in her room, she will ask me why not, and then what do I say?
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DD wants her "boyfriend" round to play, WWYD?
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brummiemummie · 24/08/2009 16:53
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