Help! My DS1 (3.7) has always been a bit prickly and prone to going quiet and stand-offish, but has recently started getting quite abusive. He's NEVER liked cuddles or kisses ("I DON'T LIIIIIKE KISSEEEES!") which is fair enough - he has a very strong sense of personal space and I wonder whether I was too casual about that when he was a baby; hefting him about and tickling him etc in the way my emotionally-stunted family shows affection. He also had a difficult birth with a half-hour rescus and a week in Special Care which makes me wonder, though who knows.
Anyway, he feels intensely frustrated by authority and I really understand that it must be so frustrating to be constantly told what to do and where to go, but recently his behaviour has become really bad and "rude". I feel I've got to show him boundaries but all I ever seem to do is tell him off for speaking to me rudely. He hits me, yells at me to get away from him and shouts 'No!' all the time (beyond the manner of other 'difficult' toddlerish behaviour.) "No I WON'T you stupid poo-poo head" - I know poo-poo head's funny, but he's going past acceptable behaviour towards his mum, and I don't want him growing up behaving uncontrollably! Any suggestions for how to handle him effectively without making him feel powerless?
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Abuse from 3yr-old - what to do!?
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twoflakesanight · 04/08/2009 21:31
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