I have a DS (3) and DD (4 weeks)
I am pretty much co sleeping and baby wearing DD. I had PND and terrible anxiety when DS was born and he was a very unsettled baby initially (although he is a very happy little boy now!). So I was determined that this time I would enjoy it and go with the flow more. I have a lovely bond with DD and am I so much more relaxed this time.
However I feel guilty that I do not spend enough quality time with DS. He has been great with my DD but he has been angry at me. Sometimes he looks like he is struggling with it and I feel so sad for him. I feel it does not help that I carry/feed/hold DD a lot. Although I do make time each day with him e.g. bedtime stories and we go out together the three of us and do stuff he likes. I also chat/play with him whilst I am holding her.
A couple of my friends have suggested that they left the baby to cry and put them down more so that they could give the eldest more attention and this makes me feel guilty. However I just cannot leave my DD to cry unless of course it is urgent and my DS needs the loo for example.
Am I being unfair on my DS?
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Feel guilty for attachment parenting new baby (making sibling jealous)
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roseability · 17/07/2009 21:35
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