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something that never happened before

i say do someting eg after long warning and after being gentle and nice

what next?

how best get hm to eg

come in house and get reayd for bed

today blew a fuse and had to pick him up and face wriggling mess

All toddlers say no and push the boundaries. Bst to keep it short and simple . Give maybe two warnings but no longer than 5 minutes as lo's have no real concept of time and will get distracted. Also to avoid confusion use only one step instructions , so "it's bedtime now" or "let's go inside" otherwise he'll only hear half of it. Then follow through, if you don't or allow extra time in response to whinging and him delaying, he won't take you seriously next time and will learn he can change your mind. If he makes a fuss don't make eye contact or discuss it, tell him what you are going to do and go through the motions until he calms down.

wonderful truly helpful advice

thank you so much!