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Feel like i'm losing it

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gembobs · 02/07/2009 23:05

I feel like just walking away from my 2 children as i feel as though i am a bad mother, the 5 week will not settle from midday till the early hours of the morning n the toddler of 22 months just wants my attention all the time, i feel with the newborn 4 not settling and especially not letting me spend time with my daughter as he just sits on the breast on/off sometimes for hours, 5 week old sometimes just wants me 2 hold him so he can sleep. Partner does help but he can only do so much with 5 week old. I feel as though i never get me time or time with partner.

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Tortington · 02/07/2009 23:07

sorry you ae feeling like this, i can assure you that you are not alone and that many parents feel the same way.

i hope someone comes along with practical advice soon

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DippyDino · 02/07/2009 23:26

It's early days.

You will get through it.

It will get better.

You are not a bad mother I promise you.

And now for the practical advice from the other ladies!

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tostaky · 03/07/2009 07:41

i dont have anything really groundbreaking to say but have you tried a sling? that way the 5weeks one can be close to you (you can even breastfeed discretly in a sling and you can spend time with your toddler.
Can you put your toddler in nursery for a day or half a day? maybe you'll feel less guilty about focusing on the 5weeks one...

you know it will get better send well needed hug even if i dont know you

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gembobs · 04/07/2009 01:46

My toddler already goes nursery 3 times a week but i sometimes feel bad 4 her being there as i feel as though i am pushing her out.

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BottySpottom · 04/07/2009 22:18

We have three and I have often felt that I am not spending enough time with my other child/children or DH. Just remember it is just a stage. In a few months you will get all that time back and life will be so much easier.

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BottySpottom · 04/07/2009 22:19

PS no, you're not pushing her out. She will be fine with her friends and you get a bit of head space - perfect!

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gembobs · 05/07/2009 00:00

Thanks 4 the kind messages felt much better, since the new baby has come along i ave just felt really bad 4 my toddler n the fact she didn't ask 4 all this, i just miss cuddling her whenever poss or just playing with her, she is my little princess.