We live in a cul de sac, with many children my sons age. At the moment, there are only 2 other children here as the others are on holiday.
One child, Eric, seem to enjoy excluding my son. This is especially frustrating now as Eric has "hogged" the other child in the street which my son plays with, Alice. (They are in the same class in school).
Today all three children went home from school together. My son came in to say hi, and goes over to Erics house to ask if he comes out to play. Eric and Alice are there, they are eating ice cream, and Eric has put a film on. He tells my son "You cant come in, we are eating ice cream and watching a film, but you cant come in".
My son came home crying.
Just the other day the three of them were building a play house in the woods next to our house. With planks from us. There was a special passcode to enter the site, and while my son had gone to fetch more planks, Eric promptly changed the passcode (and wrote it on a piece of paper hidden high up a tree) and as my son did not know the new passcode, he was not allowed to play.
Eric is 8.
If my son is the only kid in the street, then Eric is very pleasant company, but as soon as there are other children there, Eric is setting them up against my son. We are new to the neighbourhood, we just moved here in January.
I need help dealing with the situation, I have never come across anything like this before. His parents seems to be pretty oblivious, just saying "yes, well, they argue, they make up, there are good days there are bad days, and poor your son seem to be on the receiveing end more than seem fair, but alas such is life".
I am being a particularly bad parent about this, as I dont know how to advice my son, I just get frustrated because my son is so sensitive and just burst out crying. I think this is part of the problem. My son does not speak up against him, he just bows his head and start crying. I find myself getting angry with my son for not holding his head up high, at least for long enough to get out of earshot of Eric.
Any advice?
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How can I help my 7 year old deal with being excluded by his friends?
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QuintessentialShadow · 01/07/2009 13:48
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