Hello!
I wonder if anyone has any tips on this...
DS has just turned 6 months. I also have two DDs, 8 and 5. The 8 year old is great - she's dealt fine with the baby, but DD2 has understandably had more mixed feelings - she's been the baby for a long time.
While she's apparently very kind to the baby and says that she loves her baby brother and tries to play with him, there are odd little things that come out in play. Like when we were in the swimming pool tonight, she said, 'DS is the evil fishie! Get him!' and squirted him with her toy. Somehow, DS is always the 'baddie' and she frequently calls him 'naughty' (personally, I try and avoid ever using this word to refer to anyone, but she's picked it up from books, schoolfriends etc.)
When he was born, she was very put out, though we tried to give her presents from the baby etc. She was very withdrawn for a week or so initially but rejoined things and now seems to play with him and kiss him. But there's just an underlying jealousy that's very hard to deal with because she doesn't articulate it openly.
I also try very hard not to blame him for things (oh, Mummy can't play now because she's feeding baby etc.) but this requires some very careful phrasing sometimes!
So, any tips if you've dealt with this or a similar age gap? Is it good to encourage her to speak up about her worries?
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Subtle/subconscious sibling jealousy
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CarmenSanDiego · 23/06/2009 07:16
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