Hi all, basically I am after tips/advice on how you try and fit everything in to one day. My concerns are I am trying to do too much and stressing myself out about it and having constant guilty feelings. I am a SAHM with 2 DD's aged 6 and 3. With the eldest at school I try and make the most of my time with DD2 but I am starting to feel there is no time for myself and DH. We both want to loose weight ( I need to loose a lot so need a long term plan) but cant do any exercise together as one of us needs to be home to look after DD's. DH wants to do running and I want to go back to swimming as this was a good way for me to loose weight in the past. However, my problem is DH isnt home until 5.30/5.45pm most nights so I have tea ready for us all to sit as a family each night and eat together. I had thought perhaps instead of eating together I would feed our DD's earlier the when DH got home we would take it in turns to do our exercises etc. Then my brain goes in to melt down about how it would mean we wouldnt be eating as a family hardly at all and how would that make our DD feel. I try to get out every day with DD2 walking etc and even take her swimming with me but to be honest with the amount of weight I need to loose this just doesnt do a huge amount and I need to be swimming lengths of a pool not bobbing along on the water and I need to be power walking not strolling along! These things I will always do but DH and I both need time to get in shape and be healthier. The weekends are jam packed with stuff to do. We have tried for the last three weekends to do something together but there are always appointments and chores etc that need doing. It sounds like I am making excuses to not do any exercises etc but i'm really not as I REALLY want to do something to help improve my health.I spent last night feeling guilty as our DD's were at home most of the weekend whilst we caught up with stuff around the house. My DH says they need to be able to play alone and its good for them to become imaginative without me doing it all but again the guilt kicks in if I am not playing with them 24/7. Do most parents spend huge amounts of time each day entertaining their DC or are small anounts just as important?
Blimey, sorry I am rambling a bit here. I just feel I am torn between being with my DC, playing etc with them, house hold crap (cooking, cleaning , washing) and then finding time for me to sort myself out. How does everyone do it? We dont have supportive families so having an extra pair of hands would be a massive help but not an option.
Do I need to loosen my guilt more?
Sorry if this isnt clear, I am not good at explaining things!
So guys, how do you manage to fit it all in or do you have to let something go?
TIA x
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Winston · 11/05/2009 11:23
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