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A few things have happened in my life and recently that makes me wonder??

why do you ask?

I have 2 DDs and 1 Ds ...love em all the same

I prefer my son.

My dh has 3 sisters and is golden boy. He got away with and gets away with much more with his mother than his sisters.

I have dd 10 and ds 7 and I can't say there is a huge difference at the mo

My mum did. I don't.

I think you prefer what you've got... why do you ask?

my mum does too

My Mum has had 5 boys and 2 girls, she says girls are best and easiest from birth to 13. Then all hell breaks out and until the girls are 20ish they are horrible generally. After that there is no difference.

I currently have 2girls and 1 boy can honestly say I don't prefer either sex.

I felt more confident when my first child was born (boy) as I have 2 younger brothers and felt like I knew what to do with boys.

I have 2 dd's and although I'm not planning on having any more I wouldn't love a boy any more than a girl if I had one.

My granny however seems to favour boys over girls. She had a son and a daughter, my mum, and she always seemed more lenient to her son. And between my brother and I she always favours him, lends him money, feeds him when he is at her house, makes excuses for him etc. Oh and she once told me that she would have preferred my dd2 to have been a boy!

I have 2 DDs then after a big gap had a DS...the world went mad when it was a boy, and in front of my DDS!!! So I think that has made me slightly defensive! So many mummy friends of mine went on about how "..ah but boys are great!.." "..oh but emily now you have a boy you'll find out what motherhood is really like" "boys are so loving" etc etc

Something else goes back to childhood - i remember being out with my heavily pregnant with twins mother and my 2 little brothers - a complete stranger said to her "oh I expect you'll be wanting girls to even the numbers up" to which my mother replied "gosh no, we're hoping for boys!" - Fast forward a couple of weeks to 2 more little brothers arriving and nobody could have been happier than my mother! Has kind of stuck in my throat I suppose

if they do, they shouldn't and are likely to be a bit bonkers

My Mum does, without a doubt.

I love my two (DS and DD) both the same, but at the minute DS is being a normal toddler and incredibly hard work, but DD is a lovely, happy, funny 14mo.

I only have one DS but if I think of my own family, the relationships were different.

Whereas my dad could be quite stern with my brother, expect him to live up to certain standards, my mom would always 'mother' him (the only word I can think of) e.g. after he had left home still do his washing for him.

In turn if I ever needed a favour (mainly to borrow money) I would always go to my dad as my mom would be more strict with me.

My mother never wanted boys and got three daughters. i always wanted a brother (you always want what you have got eh!). I always presumed i would have girls. i have 2 boys - love them to pieces but would love a girl too but its not gonna happen.

haven't

I work with a woman who has two grown-up children (a son and a daughter). The other day I overheard her telling other colleages "the sun rises and sets over my son, he can do no wrong in my eyes". She seems to be quite close to both of them so I was quite shocked that she didn't qualify what she's said by saying something along the lines of "my daugther means just as much to me too, of course" but she didn't.

I have another work colleage who has three grown-up children, two daughers and a son and she always describes the relationship she has with her son as being special and different to the ones she has with her daughters. She says she rows with her duaghters but never with her son.

Come to think of it, throughout my life Ive encountered a few people who'e made a quite unashamed distinction between thier daughter(s) and son(s).

My own father was his mother's very obvious favourite child out of 5 (3 boys and 2 girls) - he was her second child (he had an odler brother who died as a baby so it was always put down to the fact that as he was the first to come along after his brother died, she gave him his dead brothers love too. He was never particularly nice to his mother but he steadfastly remained her favourite until she died.

I have one DS so I can't relate to it but it is an interesting subject to ponder on.

Most definitely no.

But then I am one of two girls and have 3 daughters of my own so have no basis for comparison

Some friends are very open about the fact that girls are yuck, girls are bitchy, girls are a nightmare. Just makes me a little sad that's all

An acquaintance (with a ds and a dd) said to me recently 'oh yes, I am closest to ds and dd is closest to dh' as if that was perfectly fine and exzactly how it shouldbe. I thought, 'nob'

Never wanted girls.

Have 2 boys.

<phew>

I've always thought my mum preferred my big bro. She would deny.

I think it is a generational thing. I don't think my friends prefer their sons over their daughters.

I have 2 boys so have nothing to compare it with.

Do I know you EmilyTE?

I haven't had a son so don't know but I love having an all girly gang.

My Mother definitely wanted boys, she said if my brother had been first then there would have been no others. He is her golden boy thats for sure