Was just reading post about mother of 4 week old struggling to bond and melt etc.
I think I am pretty devoted in lots of ways to dd but we've been through a lot of stuff in the last few years and I am terrified that it has affected our relationship - not least cos my mother was absent from me, emothinally cos severe depression and actually because hospitalised. We conceived our children through fertility treatment and took me a long time to get to grips with that - donor conception actually. Loved being mummy of baby but am not sure it wasn't the idea of being a mummy rather than the baby herself. Then had two miscarriages trying for dc 2 - an adorable 4 month old. Think I was bit depressed actually. I do look at dd with love but sometimes I think I am runnning to catch my tail so much that I don't have enough time for the melty moments. But last week eg did look at learning diary from pre school and had tears in my eyes at some of the lovely comments. I love sitting with her on my lap when have time, enjoy singing, stroking her hair, hearing her laugh, think she's beautiful but so often I am worried about whether I am doing/have done her justice and whether her erratic behaviour is cos I'm a bad mummy or just because she's three that I lose sight of the good stuff. How often do you really feel like a good mother if you are one and how much of the time is it work and worry about not doing it right? When I put it all away at the back of my mind I feel okay and everyone else seems to think I'm doing a good job - DH included.
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How often do you feel like a good mother?
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picklepud · 02/03/2009 22:26
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