Different opinions on what is best for your baby - how to cope?

[London7]

Hello, what do you do if your partner has different ideas on how to bring your child up?What if he does things that are completely wrong and won't listen and does them anyway? For example when your child wakes up at night and he switches the main light on, gives them toys and takes them to the living room to watch TV even though you have asked them over and over not to do that???Any tips?

[Maveta]

you call them a fuckwit, fight, fall out and don´t speak to them until they see sense

Seriously, if things like this arose with dh I explained the logical reasoning behind why I thought it was better to do x than y. Sometimes backed up by googling conveniently supportive research that I then read out to him at length .

[Thankyouandgoodnight]

oh bloody hell - what a nightmare. I have no idea. I can't 'tell' my DH anything and I have no idea how I would handle it other than in his company ask every couple I can lay my hands on whether or not they thought that particular approach was sensible or not.

[Thankyouandgoodnight]

could you start a thead about how to handle night wakings and whether or not to turn the light on / offer toys etc and then print it out and show it to him?

[Maveta]

here about halfway down the page, last bullet point.

and the same info repeated here second last bullet point.

And also point out that what he is doing may eventually convince the baby that 2am is a perfectly acceptable time to start the day for playing, watching tv etc etc and if he´s cool with that, fine, but you sleep then so he will have to look after the lo on that shift

[likessleep]

say that if he wants to do that, let him entertain child until 7am, and you go back to bed until then.

[fryalot]

I suspect that I would let him exclusively get up and deal with the child.

He will either have to learn that switching the big light on and giving the little one toys to play with is a really bad idea or he will get veeeeery tired himself.

Just make sure that you treat your dp as you would a naughty child and never get up to help him. If he is insistent on dealing with it this way, you stay in bed and let him get on with it.


Or leave him