How to cope with 5 year old DS constant bad behaviour

[par]

DS started reception in September, since starting soon he has had a major personality change. He is happy at school, settled in quickly and made lots of new friends. His teacher says he is a model pupil.

But at home he is constantly answering back. I have to ask him to do everything at least 10 times before he actually does it. He has become very cheeky and basically does not listen. The last three nights have been awful there has been tears every night and major meltdowns which has resulted in me getting very angry and shouting at him.

Today he went to a friends house, when I went to collect him he just would not come home with me. After about 10-15 mins trying to get him out of there we finally left.

I am struggling with this behaviour and find that it is draining me. I just dont know what to do or how I should be dealing with this.

[livysmum]

Naughty step,chair,spot,bench.

If you've never seen supernanny the procedure is

-sit him down and give list of things that are not allowed in the house anymore (ie, hitting, talking back, whining, shouting, being disrecpectful - anythign he does that YOu dont like)

-Let him know what happens if he does which is.
He'll get a warning, ONE warning, if he does it again or doesnt do what you ask

-Naughty spot for 5 mins (1 min per year of age)You MUSt tell him Why you put him there at eye level and in a stern voice. and advise him that you'll be back in 5 mins to talk about it

-he cannot leave and if he does time must start all over again

-once time is up youstand him up and tell him again why he is there at eye level and that it was inappropriate.

-He must say sorry and then kisses and cuddles and off to do whatever it was you were doing.

It'll probably be a struggle the first few tmes but eventually he'll get that YOU are teh boss now and not him.
He's just been used to his way and you not being so strict so it's all new to him adn a bit confusing to a child as to why all of asudden mom is being so in charge.
it's just normal discipline and better to start now.

Also if he doesnt it at his friends house (diobeys the listen to mom rule)Or out ans about do the same. Give warning and tell him naughty step as soon as you get home.

GOOD LUCK.
wipe your tear away. You'll be in charge now.

[choosyfloosy]

I think livysmum's approach is fine, he will know where he is with this which is great.

He does sound tired - I'm sure this is the root of a lot of the problems. So all the more votes for a straightforward approach as it reduces the talking/listening required which a tired 5-year-old just can't cope with IMO.