Dummy

[kayzisexpecting]

I'm expecting DS2 in 2 weeks and I've read that you should now give your babies dummies.

DS1 never had one which we are very happy about but now we are wondering if we should get some for DS2. We don't want him to be running around when he is 3 like a lot of our friends children and be moaning about him having it. A friend of MIL's DD is 9 and she still has one when she is at home.

What would you do/are you doing?

Thanks

[Chatkins]

hi kayz ! Still no pop then ?!

I didn't give mine dummies either, though did try one with ds when he was being a right pain teething, thought it might offer comfort but it didn;t.

Has anyone opened the bar yet ??

[kayzisexpecting]

No pop here.

Not sure about the Bar, lets have a look.

[nickytwotimes]

Ds had one from a few weeks of age until he was 4 mths. He gave it up by himself. It was very helpful at the time, especially when he was colicky.

[Again]

I've read that it helps prevent SIDS alright. I gave ds one from 8 weeks to 5 months, when he gave it up. But I think it's that it helps them breath when they are asleep or something, but really they drop it out of their mouth straight away. Not sure I believe it personally.

It did really help him in the sense that he had pains in his tummy and it helped distract him.

I think that the research that shows that co-sleeping actually prevents SIDs is more interesting personally, Seemingly being close to mum helps them breath and regulate their heart beat.

[kayzisexpecting]

The SIDS website doesn't give a reason. Its been done by the leading Dummy makers in the uk.

We tried DS a couple of times and he spat it out straight away.

We aren't going to co-sleep. Neither of us like the idea and I know I would never sleep if we had him in our bed.

[star6]

my ds is 8 weeks. we give him one when he just wants to suck and not eat (to save my sore nipples!!). Never to silence him, though. Sometimes to soothe... he doesnt really like it and cant keep it in but appreciates it when no longer drinking but wants to keep sucking... I refuse to let him suck his thumb because you can take a dummy away... thumb always there...
my sister is 37 and STILL sucks her thumb in bed!
at 9 yr old with dummy!

[CarGirl]

Kayz, having them in the same room is enough for you to help regulate their breathing they don't have to be in your bed with you (mind we in their own room, I couldn't even cope with them in their in cot in our room)

[CharCharGabor]

Apparently use of a dummy to prevent sids is only effective if the baby keeps it in their mouth the whole time they are asleep. If it falls out then they are actually more at risk. From what I've read, anyway. DD took a dummy from 6-8 weeks, so long enough to get her to settle in the crib instead of cosleeping. She then got a cold and wouldn't have it any more. Will you be bfing, kayz? Bfing and room sharing are effective at lowering the risk for sids.

[kayzisexpecting]

I am hoping to BF. I really struggled with DS1 and got no help so I am going to make sure I get plently of help this time round.

He will be in our room in his moses basket and it is right next to the bed.

[Schnullerbacke]

kayzisexpecting - I would just see how it's going. See if you can manage without one (I went along the boobie dummy route with my first one but eventually had to give into a real one). My DD is now 2.3 and we are just giving them up now. I was surprised how easy it has been considering she ended up having one in her mouth all the time. She is now Mummy's big girl (have another one on the way) and I keep telling her that big girls don't need dummies.

So - if you need to give one, if it helps your sanity, then by all means go for it. Afterall, it's up to you how long they will use it for.