My DD (just 9) is driving me insane, she has a strict teacher who she has worked herself into a frenzy about (she had her last year too) but not enough to actually do her homework or be bothered to hand it in on time if she has.
We had loads of issues last year, I kept having to see the head etc as DD was inconsolable several times following tellings off (not just her) and eventually a demerit for not finishing off set work (that should have been completed in class). She does have dyspraxia and she is allowed to finish uncompleted work at home - she sometimes gets actual homework which is normally a bit of colouring in for RE or History (both taught by this teacher).
She never writes it in her homework diary or leaves her homework diary at school, meaning I cannot read it and encourage her to do the work. She assures me she has none etc
She also assures me that things are fine between her and teacher etc.
But still we get almost weekly late nights of her fretting herself into a frenzy.
Take tonight, bedtime 7.30pm, I can hear her getting in and out of bed, wandering around etc Go up to her on 6 occasions being very understanding, will take her in early so she can sort it out . Some of the gettings out of bed are masked by wanting a drink, she has a full beaker by the bed. Wanting to know what the time is, she has a watch with a light etc.
She says it is a history that she has completed, has been marked but it has fallen out into her desk but she cannot explain why this is making her so anxious, I cannot understand as she says it has been marked.
Next vist same story but it might poss be lost. The reason it isn't stuck properly is because she has run out of glue a few weeks ago, she didn't bring her pencil case home at half term for refilling and didn't think to bring it home at any weekend since. Next visit same story but also there is some RE that may not have been finished she can't remember etc
At 11pm I lost it and shouted, I pointed out that she either needs to get the work done in lesson or write it in her diary and do it at home only - she can make this work, I cannot do it for her. She either needs to do the work or get told off by the teacher, it is completely up to her - she needs to choose. She needs to remember to bring her pencil case or tell me she has run out of glue (3 new pritt sticks in the drawer) so I can give her a new one. She needs to take responsibility or take the punishment and go to sleep NOW!
I now feel like a complete cow, but ye gods I don't know what else to do.
I am going to have to go and see her teacher AGAIN but what do I say?
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MarmadukeScarlet · 25/11/2008 23:24
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