help been snooping!

[cheeryface]

ds (12) was meant to be lights out sleeping, i go in room and he's messing around with ipod touch under covers kinda style.
so, i confiscate and tell him to get to sleep. i decide to have a nosey and see from his emails that he has signed himself up to something called 'bebo'
i am assuming its something like facebook which i am on. but, i dont think its something that is suitable for a 12 year old is it?

please inform me before io confront in the morning!! thanx

[moodlumthehoodlum]

You're right - Bebo is exactly like facebook, but having never been on it, I couldn't tell you whether its suitable for a 12 yo.

[DraculaNeedsArteries]

bebo is similar to facebook & myspace - yes.

Suitability - dunno. Is facebook not suitable?

[NotAnOtter]

bebo is imo the devils work

mostly girls go on it and they all look lets just say on the tarty side

or maybe thats just dd's friends

i ban it MANY other parents do not!

[SuperPsychoTrollSlayer]

bebo is fairly safe, providing he has signed up and is staying private and only accepts his mates onto it.

My DD1 and 2 go on there, and they have privacy settings...I am quite ok about it, (they are 14 and 12), I check on them every so often over their shoulders just to check up on them.

they did however have a friend who had no privacy setting and was posting pics of hrself on the net, so it can be quite worrying.

HTH

[SoMuchToBits]

AFAIK it's something that is mostly used by teenager type people, including from about age 12 upwards.

I don't think it's necessarily bad in itself, but you might want to know who (on Bebo) your ds is "talking" to.

[Merrylegs]

Bebo is like facebook for pre-teens and teens. If you looked at some of the stuff posted you might be a bit , but it is just the way kids talk to each other anyway. As long as he keeps his password and profile private - ie only accessible to his friends, it's not much different to msn-ing or facebooking. My kids (13) and (11) have it but don't use it that much. However I know their passwords and can check for any unsuitable emails etc. I wouldn't be impressed if they were doing it in secret though. Does he know you perhaps wouldn't approve?

[cheeryface]

unfortuatly since strating high school hes gone all coy about any girls he might talk to and really anything teenagerish! i dont really know why as i am reasonable ( i think)
although, he may have thought i wouldnt approve of bebo.
i have asked him to show me his page on there, to tell me his password. i explained that i just wanted to make sure everything was safe for him.
i will decide whether he can keep it when i see it.

i do feel really though that he doesnt tell me anything. when i read messages that he has sent to girls on his phone, it was like someone i didnt know had sent them! talk about leading a double life!

i worry about him, not socializing with anyone out of school, has always been that way. so, i dont want to be to hasty over the bebo thing.

[coochybottom]

Mums net for teenagers I'm afraid! My teenage sons always on the thing! I think that what they do nowadays.