PMS and my behaviour twds my 18 mth DD

[Opentopbus]

I don't know if any other mums go through this but I get quite bad PMS. Lasts over a week. The most notable behaviour I show twds my 18mth DD is:

-I want to keep her at arms length
-do not want to be close to her
-try and spend the least amount time with her
-impatience, irritability, extra tired, etc.
-have to restrain myself from smacking her if she gets naughty.
-low self esteem so think I'm a cr*p mum

I try to rationalize it as I know it is PMS and I know that I am not normally like this. So I try extra hard. I get the sense that she knows something isn't right with me so she ends up crying and being more clingey more and then it irritates me more and the whole cycle just perpetuates. I've explained this to my husband who is very understand and said he'd help more during this time.

Suggestions anyone?
Thanks.

[potatofactory]

I don't know what to suggest, but that's really crappy. Poor you - it's very easy to feel like a crap mum.

You may be exaggerating how much your daughter picks up in your own, mind, but they can be pretty intuitive. I know I can make my daughter tetchy if I'm not in the mood for parenting!

Have you tried evening primrose oil? You have to take it for a LONG time.

She gets the vast majority of you being your 'normal' self.

We can only do what we can!!

[potatofactory]

sorry for confusing extra comma after 'own'

[roseability]

I understand. Am in the middle of PMS just now and was very irritable with my DS today, to the point where I was almost physically agressive.

I hate myself for it but any other time I believe I am a good patient mother

[saramoon]

I have pmt at the mo and i have just finished my working week. Am at home with 2 dds and they are DRIVING ME MAD. I am snapping at them and shouting when i know that this time next week i will not be.

It takes so much patience at this time of the month as i also get really tired however much sleep i get.

We are going to have lunch and go out. Will make us all feel better.

[HeinzSight]

I REALLY sympathise. Sadly whenever I'm suffering from PMS, like you, lasts a wk, my relationship with DS1 (11yrs) truly suffers. He seems to pick up on my mood and mirrors me, which in turn aggravates the situation and it just escalates.

I am going to try the IUS, apparently it is good for PMS.

Could that be worth a try?

[mmelody]

Try Agnus castus ans Magnesium ok taken daily... worked wonders for me.