How can I help him overcome this? It's related to anything that involves learning a new skill that a child needs to practice to become proficient. For example, he doesn't want to do any drawing because what he ends up with on the page is not what he actually wants to draw and this really frustrates him- I think he wants to run before he can walk as it were.
Another eg, dh plays golf and practices putting in the garden. DS has his own mini golf club and gets really annoyed when he can't get the ball in the hole. So dh encourages him and gently helps him to learn- but ds gets even more annoyed at "having" to do it someone elses way. This sort of thing ends in tears of frustration all the time and he's started saying that he doesn't want to do colouring etc because "it's impossible" (his words)
We've used words of encouragement and praising whatever effort he makes, no matter how small and emphasising that some things are a bit tricky and need practice, I'm at a bit of a loss now though and it makes me really sad that my lovely little boy doesn't want to do some normal little boy things because he doesn't want to fail.
Any ideas?
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DS 3.8 is scared of trying new games/activities etc in case he gets it wrong [sad]
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Minkus · 27/08/2008 14:49
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