I need to get over 'girl envy'

[IKnowIambeingmad]

My best friend has just had a girl. She already has a boy. I have two beautiful and healthy ds's but I feel quite envious that she now has a girl(but am v. happy for her too).
I have always wanted girls and both times I was really disappointed.
I know this feeling is stupid and irrational and I should be thankful,but I can't help it.
I do love my boys very much but feel like I'm missing something.
Please give me a slap.

[Iklboo]

If DS had been a girl I'd have been happy, but I'm happier that he's a boy
Mad aren't we?

[ButterflyMcQueen]

slap (however i would have to beat myself daily if i were true to myself so )

[IKnowIambeingmad]

Sorry. I've probably posted this in the wrong section.

[yomellamoHelly]

Ooo I sympathise!
Also have 2 gorgeous boys, but all our friends who've had kids to date have girls. They've nicked our girls names too!
I kind of feel girls'd bring out a different parenting style (though I may be totally wrong on this).

[stephenandtomsmum]

aaah i have recently had a baby boy, i also have a 19month okd baby boy and for a split second i was disappointed that i would not be buying anything girly or pink, 2 of my best friends have also had a baby girl recently and my sister has 3 baby girls, but that is just life isnt it, i love my baby boys. So i can understand a litle bit about what you are saying, its only normal so dont beat yourself up

[OrmIrian]

I won't give you a slap. It's the failure of expectation that hurts. My aunt is 83 and she reckons that she still grieves for the little girl she never had and her 4 boys are in their 50s.

[IKnowIambeingmad]

Oh God, OrmIrian. I hope I'm not going to feel like this for another 50 years.

[OrmIrian]

Sorry

Not sure that it dominates her life but she still thinks about it from time to time.

[TheChicken]

yuk to girks

[Anna8888]

I desperately wanted a girl - I've always wanted daughters, not sons, and my partner already had two sons from his first marriage, was one of two boys himself, and had always longed for a daughter.

I cried with joy when the ultrasound scan showed I was having a girl.

I really feel for you. It's socially so unacceptable to care either way - as long as the baby is healthy and all that. Of course health is more important. But it is quite legitimate to have a preference for one sex over the other.

[TheChicken]

ohg od girls are so icky and clingy
i jsut want to yell
fark orf na PLAY you limpet

[ButterflyMcQueen]

girls clingy?? not in my house

boys are lovely but girls are girly and i am so shallow as to love girls clothes/hair/names....

[TheChicken]

ah i do fashion wiht ds2.
very matter of fact fashion
no " oh but i am fat" business
he does h and m very well

he once bought me some godl shoes

[bogie]

I have a boy and am 6 months preg with a girl but I wanted another boy, boys are soo much fun and just think about having a teenage girl there a pain.

[belgo]

I have always wanted a duaghter, and now I have two girls. I suspect my dh may be a tiny bit disappointed if the next one is also a girl! But I don't think there's anything wrong with that, as this is a very much wanted and loved baby by both of us, whatever it turns out to be.

As for clinginess, dd1 isn't clingy at all, she's more of a tom boy, but dd2 is terribly clingy.

[Anna8888]

No, girls aren't any clingier than boys. They have much, much better toys however

[belgo]

I think boys have better toys! Compare the boy's palymobil castle with the girl's playmobil castle.

[PortBlacksandResident]

Boy's are brilliant! They are so much fun. I'll admit it can be hard work finding nice clothes for them (it's all skulls and camouflage) but my two love shopping.

My MIL always wanted a girl and will say so even now. I know my DH and his bro feel a bit upset about it. Thing is - i think my Dh would have gone clothes shopping with her and the stuff he's been through with me and my 'bits' - i think she's really missed out by assuming they couldn't be close becasue they were boys. (not suggesting he could have seen to her lady probs by the way LOL).

[belgo]

and boy's books are better too, not just silly fairies and princesses.

[OrmIrian]

DD is much less clingy than the boys. In fact she is the one who refuses to kiss me goodbye in the playground in the morning. The lads (even my 11yr old) go in for big squeezy hugs.

[Anna8888]

I hate playmobil - such boring faces .

My daughter has two gorgeous dolls houses, with fantastic furniture, equipment etc, beautiful people. There is just nothing as nice for boys.

[stillovefoxes]

I was glad when my first was a girl, it meant I never had to try for one.

I know what you mean about teenage girls though - not looking forward to that bit.

But what is that saying? something like boys always leave but girls stay close to home?
Thats what I always believe, when boys become adults they will leave when they find thier long term partner but a girl will be more likely to remain close to her mum.
Thats why I want girls. I don't want to alone in my old age!

[Anna8888]

Gorgeous hand-carved hand face painted all different dolls' house dolls here

[belgo]

I also think lego for boys is far better then lego for girls, we'll have to agree to disagree about the playmobil Anna as I'm a playmobil freak