How do I answer this nag from DD (friendship problem)

[lljkk]

DD (6yo) has a (usually) best mate who has been here to play many times. But DD never invited to the other girl's house. I don't know why, around here just seems like most people don't ever invite back.

Other Girl says "My mum doesn't like you because you're legs are too hairy", "You're too strange", etc. (DD does not actually have hairy legs, if that seems possibly relevant).

Anyway, I just listened & said nothing when DD reported such comments, but now DD wants me to ask the other mum if she does actually dislike my DD, is she now getting used to DD, etc. I've tried to explain to DD that I can't ask that, but DD is getting downright aggressive-hysterical about how I MUST ask these questions. Told DD she can ask herself (she won't). Told her that I think her best mate has been making things up -- DD doesn't want to believe her best mate could be so horrible.

Urk, so um... what do I tell DD about why I'm not asking, just to get her off my case?

[charliecat]

Could you jokingly ask with dd at your side? HOW ODD?
As a parent myself who lives in chaos and has t o spend HOURS tidying up for visitors I could almost see my kids blaming me for the lack of invites...
Does the other parent drive?
Maybe it because she cant drop off, so its easier not to? Or messy house, like me!

[lljkk]

I dont mind (any more) that dd not invited, her playdates rarely returned no matter how often another child visits. just way it is...

sorry, cannot think how to jokingly ask, I am just stumped how to get dd to stop nagging me 2 ask -- do I just smile sweetly & stall forever?

[spudmasher]

Maybe explain that some people are too busy/ don't like having people round and we should show them a good example and keep having fun at our house and maybe one day you will get an invitation.
I truly do believe in hospitality and the act of inviting people into your home to share food and drink as an expression of..oh I don't know....niceness. We should set this example to our children even if others do not reciprocate.
It is their choice. You set your child the example you would like them to follow regardless of how others behave.