bit of an odd one but people keep giving DD money in the street / on bus

[milliec]

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[ScienceTeacher]

Are you in Scotland, by any chance?

[milliec]

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[Tortington]

its more about them than you. take it in the spirit it is intended and then put in charity box

[littleboyblue]

I don't think people are giving you £1 coz you look like you need it!
A friend of mine has 3 girls, each 2 yrs apart in age, and when they were young my friend dressed them all the same, and they were always given money as they looked like "angels".
Don't think there is much you can do, just enjoy the fact that your dd is a sweetheart. It'll stop as she gets older

[Thomcat]

Put the polysterine cup down!

[Ledodgy]

This happened with mine too. Apparently years ago it was considered lucky to give a baby/young child some silver now it seems to have upped itself to a pound coin but this is why they do it. I remember one old lady actually pressing it into dd's hand when she was a few weeks old.

[Bink]

It happens in London too, usually Middle Eastern older men - sometimes women. (In my experience, it's only for the under-threes, so it'll only be an issue for a short while.)

It is tricky when you're not expecting it. However, we decided to accept it was just part of a culture where children, respect for elders (that bit is relevant), and gifts are all important - so we taught the children to do extra special formally courteous thankyous, so that their reaction fitted in with the culture of the giver - if you see what I mean. (Refusing wouldn't have been polite at all, in context.)

Hope that helps?

[milliec]

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[SmugColditz]

People give money to my ds1 too, it's because he is hypersociable and has long eye lashes. He has no sense of social limits either, at 5 years old, and it's unusual. The older generation are used to children his age cowering behind their mothers. He's always being given pound coins to spend on sweets - I've taught him to say thank you very much - you can't refuse a gift.

[SmugColditz]

oh yes, when I tool ds2 into the old people's home I worked at, all the ladies were scrabbling in their purses for 50p pieces. (Which I handed to the manager to put back in their accounts - I was still an employee and legally bound not to take any money but there is always a way to preserve manners and dignity!)

[threestars]

That happened in Paris, when I was an au pair. I was so poor at the time, that when we turned the corner, I dug the coin (10 francs) out of the little girl's pocket, and put it in mine . Even worse, I bought myself cigarettes with it .
I was only 19, but still...old enough to know better...

[fullmoonfiend]

yes, doesn't happen much when they hit 3...especially with boys

Old men used to always be patting my boys on their heads when they were todderly and blonde and pressing 10p into my hand to ghet them some sweeties...(obviously people are a bit tighter in my town!)

[PuppyMonkey]

I feel very now cos my dcs have never been offered money in the street. They are both phenomenally good-looking too imho . What do you think we're doing wrong?

Could it be that dd2 has a tendency to scream like a constipated pterodactyl in public places quite a lot?

[fullmoonfiend]

LOL, in our case the money stopped round about the time ds2 started blowing huge fat obscene raspberries in the face of anyone who dared lean over the pushchair and talk to him...

Nowadays, aged 7, his favoured method of communication with strangers is armpit farts...sigh. I need to teach him to play the mouth organ or something.

[PuppyMonkey]

[Nemoandthefishes]

mine have all been given a variety of things from money to sweets to a banana each by some old man we had never seen before

[fullmoonfiend]

he probably thought they were still rationed and he was proffering a huge treat

[Nemoandthefishes]

pmsl

[Kindersurprise]

We used to send my mum in the town on Saturdays with the pram. She loved it as she met loads of old friends and could show off her new DGD.

And there were always lots of 50p pieces in the pram when she got home.

Very common in Scotland, supposed to bring good luck. (not sure to whom, the giver or the child)

It does not happen anymore though. Enjoy it while it lasts, put it into her bankie.

[Caz10]

the lucky silver thing is very common here in scotland, people used to always be putting money in dd's pram when she was in the carrycot bit..now she's in the pushchair we get less cos there's nowhere to stuff it!
It's mainly with babies but I think if we were to e.g. meet an elderly relative/neighbour/whatever that we hadn't seen for a while they would still be pushing pound coins in her hand!
When I am feeling virtuous (and the amount is large!) the coins go into dd's piggy bank, the odd 10p here and there goes in the charity box.

[lazarou]

I find that completely bizarre. People giving you money that frequently.
I've not never heard nothing like it!

[missorinoco]

lol

[PinkPussyCat]

Very common up here in Scotland to be given money (even by strangers) when out with a new baby.

A friend of mine who took her ds1 out for the first time (granted, in the small town where they live and know a LOT of people) came home with nearly £200!! She was mortified

Y'see, we're not all dour + tight-fisted!

[Caz10]

Wow!!! I think a fiver was our biggest donation...should've got out more when she was wee....

[snickersnack]

A very old, very smelly, very badly dressed man gave dd a £2 coin once on a bus. I felt dreadful because I'm sure he needed it more than us, but he wouldn't take no for an answer and when I asked him he said it was lucky...