Ok - ds 10 (nearly 11) was caught for the second time on monday night with his nintendo ds under his pillow at night which he then proceeded to lie about having etc.
So we took away privileges - no reading, nintendo or playing out or in with his friends and we would review before dr who on sat.
Wed night he asked if we would consider letting him watch Heroes as we always do and whilst we said to him we would think about it depending on his behaviour dp and I agreed that we would as he seemed to be dealing with the punishment etc well.
Anyway Thurs morn I found some money in his trousers in the laundry basket and asked him if it was the bus money and had he forgotten to hand it all in. He then lied several times over stating it was for a friend etc etc before finally admitting it was the bus money and he had lied as he didnt want to get into trouble for not handing it in.
He had realise his mistake the previous day but hadnt thought to take money in which ok is a bit daft but its the lying again which made me cross as he hasnt seemed to understand that this is what makes us more angry than the original crime.
So he wasnt allowed to watch Heroes. He cried and thumped his bed upstairs which we let go for a short while and then dp told him he needed to calm down and go to sleep.
When we later went up to bed I found he had taken a pencil and gouged scratches with it in the wooden window sill. He was still awake and when asked why he did it he said it was because he was so angry.
So this morning I have calmly explained that he will not be watching Dr Who and that if anything more happens between then that ther will be no Heroes next week either as well as the rest of the punishment and that he needs to learn to control his anger.
I have had to ask dp to stop using physical threats when he gets angry too ( he would never follow through but I dont agree with them at all). He has agreed.
Normally ds is a wonderfully amenable boy and whilst it hurts to do this I really feel we have to follow through with it. Whats the consensus?
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Opinions needed on whether the punishment fits the crime or not? I can take it!
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tullytwo · 16/05/2008 11:24
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