Teacher wants his hair cut

[MrsSnape]

I posted on here a while ago asking for opinions on my sons hair, I wanted to cut it, he wanted to have it long...you all sided with him and so he got to keep his "cool surfer dude" hair lol

Thing is he doesn't have the best reputation at school and he's always in trouble, simply refuses to do any work and spends his time messing around, being cheeky and disrupting the class.

The teacher has now said that his hair should be cut as when the front goes over his eyes it makes him lose concentration even more I'm sure she wouldn't say this about a girl's hair.

So do I continue to send him to school with his long hair as he likes it and risk being seen as a bad parent who encourages bad behaviour or get it cut to keep teacher happy?

[TheFallenMadonna]

Clip it back?

[Yorkiegirl]

Message withdrawn

[southeastastra]

leave it, lots have long hair here too, it's better than that awful emo look

[Spidermama]

I think it's a gross infringments of peoples rights to insist on something so personal and intimate as a haircut.

That said, both you and the teacher need some sort of strategy to bring him under control at school.

My ds also insists on the long haired dude look and can use it to hide behind at school so don't think I haven't felt temptation.

[juuule]

I'd leave it.

[FloridaKbear]

what's an emo SEA?

[SueW]

Girls at DD's school have to have their hair tied back and off their face.

[MrsSnape]

my eldest son is emo. It stands for emotional and my god does the term suit him lol (black hair, black clothes, "nobody cares about me" etc etc)

[paros]

Weve just had a letter home about this . I have a DS but Im sure they wouldnt say this to a girl . They didnt mention either sex but said about a neat apperance . yada yada yada . I know the child they are reffering too and hes lovely . Hair does not affect their brain , but it does affect their eyesite so clip it back .

[AMumInScotland]

My DS had a plain hair band (I never say "alice band"!) to keep the front of his hair out of his face, though it's long enough now that it all goes back in a plain pony-tail band. I don't see that the teacher can make a fuss over this, unless it was a private school which has rules about it.

[southeastastra]

when they side part their hair and style the life out of it. like this i suppose

[FloridaKbear]

LOL - we saw a bloke walking down our road today with hair like that and we all laughed (we were in the car so he didn't hear us!!) but even the DCs said "weird hair". Very Flock of Seagulls!!!

[TheFallenMadonna]

My parents had a huge barney with our school over my brother's hair. They said he must get it cut because he looked as though he took drugs . They said my sister and I had gone through school with equally long hair and telling my brother to get his cut was discriminatory. Even my dad, who loathed the long hair, was adamant. And my parents default position was always to support the school, so it was a big deal.

In the middle of all the fuss, my brother decided he wanted his hair cut. My mother wouldn't allow it. As soon as he was allowed to have long hair, he had it cut short .

[TheFallenMadonna]

Oh. Confusing use of 'they'. Sorry. Gist there I hope.

[IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern]

They may ask girls with long hair to tie it back so I would maybe get him to pin it back in some way.
A part of me that I really hate for saying this thinks maybe getting it cut isn't such a bad thing. Normally I would say no way tell the school to piss off. But is he is having problems in school and the school have made this request of you then it might not be a bad thing to side with the school on this as a bit of a statement about siding with the school on dealing with his behaviour. I cannot believe I feel that about a haircut actually sorry.
How old is he?

[Hulababy]

Tie it back.

At many schools all children with long hair, male or female, have to wear their hair tied back out of the way. Seems like a sensible compromise.

[southeastastra]

my ds (14) has shoulder length hair and his mate has the best hair i've ever seen on a boy, it's long and thick and blonde, no products used at all. i'm so jealous of his hair

[Janni]

I think it shouldn't be in their eyes - male or female. If he wants long hair, he should tie or clip it back.

My personal bugbear is boys with long, straggly, unwashed hair. At least girls seem to wash theirs!!!

[lilymolly]

I am [shock} and at your nonchalant approach to his behaviour in school.

I think the hair is the least of your worries.

Get his behaviour at school sorted, back the teacher and start to control your son before he turns into a teenage monster.
SOrry to be so harsh, but you really need to nip this in the bud.

[fishie]

lots of boys (and footballers) wear hairbands. it is a good compromise if you want to appease the teacher. how old is your ds mrs snape?

[OverMyDeadBody]

Just get him to tie it back in school with a hairclip, this is what my DS also did when he was growing his fringe out. If the school still insist he needs it cut tell them it's discriminatory.

[lilymolly]

"Thing is he doesn't have the best reputation at school and he's always in trouble, simply refuses to do any work and spends his time messing around, being cheeky and disrupting the class"

and some of you are all discussing hair styles

[OverMyDeadBody]

lillymolly just because MrsSnape didn't mention anything about what she was doing about his disruptive behaviour doesn't mean she has a nonchalant approach or attitude to it. This thread wasn't about that, don't go making presumptions.

[madamez]

If the rest of the teachers are the sort of prats who think they can order children to have haircuts, maybe that's why your DS is misbehaving: he's not suited to a tight-arsed exam factory with billions of petty rules, and would be happier in a less uptight school?